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XX. "Of course we must dine with Mrs. Carfry, dearest," Archer said; and his wife looked at him with an anxious frown across the monumental Britannia ware of their lodging house breakfast-table. In all the rainy desert of autumnal London there were only two people whom the Newland Archers knew; and these two they had sedulously avoided, in conformity with the old New York tradition that it was not "dignified" to force one's self on the notice of one's acquaintances in foreign countries. Mrs. Archer and Janey, in the course of their visits to Europe, had so unflinchingly lived up to this principle, and met the friendly advances of their fellow-travellers with an air of such impenetrable reserve, that they had almost achieved the record of never having exchanged a word with a "foreigner" other than those employed in hotels and railway-stations. Their own compatriots--save those previously known or properly accredited--they treated with an even more pronounced disdain; so that, unless they ran across a Chivers, a Dagonet or a Mingott, their months abroad were spent in an unbroken tete-a-tete. But the utmost precautions are sometimes unavailing; and one night at Botzen one of the two English ladies in the room across the passage (whose names, dress and social situation were already intimately known to Janey) had knocked on the door and asked if Mrs. Archer had a bottle of liniment. The other lady--the intruder's sister, Mrs. Carfry--had been seized with a sudden attack of bronchitis; and Mrs. Archer, who...
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Summary
Newland and May attend a dinner party in London with Mrs. Carfry, an English acquaintance of the Archer family. The evening reveals the growing divide between husband and wife. May, anxious about fitting in, focuses entirely on appearances and proper behavior, while Newland finds himself intellectually starved. At dinner, he connects deeply with M. Riviere, a French tutor who speaks passionately about preserving intellectual freedom despite financial struggles. Riviere's willingness to live in poverty rather than compromise his principles stands in stark contrast to Newland's increasingly comfortable conformity. When Riviere mentions wanting to find work in New York, Newland realizes he can't even imagine how someone who values 'good conversation' could survive in his world. May's dismissive reaction to Riviere as 'common' forces Newland to abandon any thought of continuing the friendship. The chapter captures a turning point where Newland begins to see how his marriage will systematically cut him off from the intellectual stimulation he craves. Wharton shows how social class operates not just through money, but through rigid ideas about who deserves attention and respect. The evening becomes a preview of Newland's future: surrounded by comfort but starved of meaning, making choices that prioritize social harmony over personal fulfillment.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Social expatriation
The practice of wealthy Americans living abroad while maintaining rigid social barriers against local people and cultures. They traveled to Europe but refused to engage with anyone outside their narrow social circle.
Modern Usage:
Like Americans who move to other countries but only hang out with other expats and complain that locals don't speak English.
Proper accreditation
The social requirement that new acquaintances be introduced through mutual connections of the right social standing. Meeting someone directly, without a proper introduction, was considered vulgar.
Modern Usage:
Similar to how some exclusive social circles still operate through referrals and won't accept outsiders without the right connections.
Intellectual poverty
The condition of being surrounded by material comfort but starved of meaningful conversation, ideas, or mental stimulation. Wharton shows how wealth can create its own kind of emptiness.
Modern Usage:
Like being stuck in a job or relationship where you have security but feel mentally dead inside.
Class-based dismissal
The automatic rejection of people based on their social or economic status, regardless of their character or intelligence. May dismisses Riviere as 'common' without considering his actual worth.
Modern Usage:
When people write someone off because of their job, education level, or where they live without getting to know them.
Marital isolation
The growing emotional and intellectual distance between spouses when they have fundamentally different values and interests. The marriage becomes a prison rather than a partnership.
Modern Usage:
When couples realize they want completely different things from life but stay together anyway for appearances or security.
Cultural capital
Knowledge, education, and intellectual interests that mark someone as belonging to a particular social class. Riviere has intellectual capital but lacks the social connections to use it.
Modern Usage:
Having the right education or cultural knowledge to fit in with certain groups, but still being excluded because you don't have the right background.
Characters in This Chapter
Newland Archer
Conflicted protagonist
Finds himself intellectually starved in his marriage and drawn to M. Riviere's passionate commitment to ideas over comfort. He realizes he can't even help someone who values 'good conversation' survive in his world.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy who realizes his comfortable suburban life is slowly killing his soul
May Archer
Anxious conformist
Focuses entirely on proper behavior and appearances at the dinner party. Her dismissal of Riviere as 'common' shows how she'll systematically cut Newland off from intellectual stimulation.
Modern Equivalent:
The spouse who's always worried about what the neighbors think and judges people by their job titles
M. Riviere
Intellectual catalyst
A French tutor who speaks passionately about preserving intellectual freedom despite financial struggles. His willingness to live in poverty rather than compromise his principles contrasts sharply with Newland's comfortable conformity.
Modern Equivalent:
The adjunct professor or freelance writer who chooses meaningful work over a steady paycheck
Mrs. Carfry
Social hostess
The English acquaintance who hosts the dinner party that becomes a turning point for Newland. She represents the kind of international social connection the Archers usually avoid.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend-of-a-friend who throws dinner parties where you meet people outside your usual circle
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when groups use dismissive language to enforce conformity and silence dissent.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone dismisses a person or idea as 'not our type'—ask yourself what values you're being pressured to abandon.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"In all the rainy desert of autumnal London there were only two people whom the Newland Archers knew; and these two they had sedulously avoided."
Context: Describing the Archers' deliberate isolation while traveling in Europe
Shows how the upper class creates their own loneliness through rigid social rules. They're surrounded by a great city but cut themselves off from experiencing it meaningfully.
In Today's Words:
Even in a city of millions, they only knew two people and were actively avoiding them.
"The utmost precautions are sometimes unavailing."
Context: When Mrs. Archer was forced into social contact by helping with a medical emergency
Ironically suggests that human decency sometimes breaks through social barriers. Real life has a way of forcing connections that snobbery tries to prevent.
In Today's Words:
Sometimes you can't avoid meeting people, no matter how hard you try.
"He's dreadfully common, but such a good cook."
Context: May's dismissive comment about M. Riviere after the dinner party
Reveals May's automatic class prejudice and her inability to value intellectual qualities. She reduces a passionate, educated man to his social status and domestic skills.
In Today's Words:
He's totally beneath us, but at least he's useful.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Intellectual Starvation
The gradual surrender of intellectual curiosity and authentic connection in exchange for social comfort and acceptance.
Thematic Threads
Class
In This Chapter
May dismisses Riviere as 'common' despite his intelligence, showing how class barriers operate through social dismissal rather than just money
Development
Deepened from earlier focus on marriage rules to show how class controls even intellectual friendships
In Your Life:
You might catch yourself dismissing someone's ideas based on their job, education, or background rather than the merit of what they're saying.
Identity
In This Chapter
Newland realizes he's becoming someone who can't even imagine how intellectual conversation could survive in his world
Development
Evolved from early identity confusion to recognition of active self-betrayal
In Your Life:
You might notice moments when you realize you've stopped being the person you thought you were, especially around what you value.
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
The dinner party reveals how social expectations operate through subtle enforcement—May's reaction forces Newland to abandon the friendship
Development
Progressed from external pressure to internalized policing of relationships
In Your Life:
You might find yourself cutting off friendships or interests because they don't fit what your family or social circle expects.
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Newland's encounter with Riviere shows him a path of intellectual integrity he's too comfortable to take
Development
Shifted from growth as possibility to growth as sacrifice he's unwilling to make
In Your Life:
You might recognize moments when you see who you could become but choose the safer, more comfortable version of yourself instead.
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Archer's story...
Marcus attends a work dinner celebrating his promotion to shift supervisor at the warehouse. His girlfriend Sarah focuses on impressing his manager's wife, carefully monitoring her language and outfit choices. During dinner, Marcus connects with Elena, a night-shift worker who speaks passionately about organizing for better safety conditions. She talks about choosing this job over higher-paying corporate work because she believes in worker dignity. Marcus finds her perspective refreshing after months of management meetings focused only on metrics. But when Elena mentions wanting to start a safety committee, Sarah later dismisses her as 'one of those troublemaker types who doesn't understand how things work.' Marcus realizes he can't imagine introducing Elena to his new management circle—her ideas about worker rights would be seen as disruptive. He stops returning her texts about the safety committee, choosing to protect his new position rather than support meaningful change.
The Road
The road Archer walked in 1920, Marcus walks today. The pattern is identical: surrendering intellectual honesty and moral courage to maintain social position and comfort.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for recognizing when social advancement requires abandoning your values. Marcus can use it to identify the moment when 'fitting in' starts costing him his integrity.
Amplification
Before reading this, Marcus might have seen his choices as natural career progression. Now he can NAME the pattern of intellectual surrender, PREDICT how it leads to moral compromise, and NAVIGATE by protecting relationships that challenge him to think.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What happens when Newland meets M. Riviere at the dinner party, and how does May react to this new acquaintance?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Newland abandon the idea of continuing his friendship with Riviere after May calls him 'common'?
analysis • medium - 3
Where have you seen people dismiss others as 'not our type' or 'common' to shut down connections or conversations?
application • medium - 4
When faced with choosing between social harmony and intellectual stimulation, how do you decide which battles are worth fighting?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about how we gradually surrender our curiosity and authentic connections for social comfort?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Intellectual Surrender Points
Think about your daily life - work, family, social media, friendships. Identify three situations where you regularly choose social comfort over expressing your genuine thoughts or curiosity. For each situation, write down what you gain by staying quiet and what you lose. Then consider: which of these trade-offs are worth it, and which are slowly suffocating your intellectual growth?
Consider:
- •Consider both obvious situations (like avoiding political topics) and subtle ones (like not asking questions that might seem 'stupid')
- •Think about the cumulative effect - how do these small surrenders add up over time?
- •Notice the difference between strategic silence and intellectual cowardice
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you chose social harmony over intellectual honesty and later regretted it. What would you do differently now, and what boundaries could you set to protect your curiosity in the future?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 21: The Newport Archery Match
As the story unfolds, you'll explore social expectations can trap us in lives that feel increasingly hollow, while uncovering success in one area of life doesn't guarantee overall fulfillment. These lessons connect the classic to contemporary challenges we all face.