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The device of the absentee partner has the defect that it cannot be employed for longer than ten or fifteen minutes at a time, and it may not be repeated more than twice in one evening: a single repetition, indeed, is weak, and may prove a betrayal. Alice knew that her present performance could be effective during only this interval between dances; and though her eyes were guarded, she anxiously counted over the partnerless young men who lounged together in the doorways within her view. Every one of them ought to have asked her for dances, she thought, and although she might have been put to it to give a reason why any of them “ought,” her heart was hot with resentment against them. For a girl who has been a belle, it is harder to live through these bad times than it is for one who has never known anything better. Like a figure of painted and brightly varnished wood, Ella Dowling sat against the wall through dance after dance with glassy imperturbability; it was easier to be wooden, Alice thought, if you had your mother with you, as Ella had. You were left with at least the shred of a pretense that you came to sit with your mother as a spectator, and not to offer yourself to be danced with by men who looked you over and rejected you--not for the first time. “Not for the first time”: there lay a sting! Why had you thought this...
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Summary
Alice reaches her breaking point at the dance, desperately cycling through increasingly pathetic strategies to avoid looking like a wallflower. She pretends to save a chair for an imaginary partner, hides in the dressing room, and forces conversation with disinterested matrons—all while watching other girls dance. Her former suitor Harvey Malone approaches with casual cruelty, treating her like a time-killer while bragging about his busy social life. The humiliation deepens when she realizes even Mildred's fiancé Arthur Russell is only dancing with her as charity work. Alice's elaborate performance reaches its climax when she sends Russell to find Walter, only to learn her brother was gambling with the coat-check attendants—another family embarrassment. After one final dance with Walter, Alice maintains her cheerful facade until she reaches home, then collapses sobbing in her mother's arms. This chapter reveals how social climbing becomes a performance that traps us in increasingly desperate acts. Alice's former status as a belle makes her current rejection unbearable, showing how our past selves can become prisons when circumstances change. The contrast between her public performance and private breakdown illustrates the exhausting cost of maintaining appearances when your social position is slipping away.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Belle
A young woman who was the center of social attention, especially popular at dances and parties. In Alice's world, being a belle meant having your dance card filled and being sought after by multiple suitors.
Modern Usage:
Like being the popular girl in high school who everyone wanted to date - losing that status feels like losing your entire identity.
Dance card
A small booklet where partners would write their names to reserve dances with a young woman. A full dance card meant social success; an empty one meant public humiliation.
Modern Usage:
Think of it like your dating app matches or party invitations - visible proof of whether people want to spend time with you.
Wallflower
A girl who sits along the wall at dances because no one asks her to dance. The term comes from literally sitting against the wall like a decorative flower.
Modern Usage:
That person at parties who stands alone checking their phone, or the one who never gets included in group plans.
Social climbing
Trying to move up in social class or status, often through appearances, connections, or pretending to be wealthier than you are. Alice's family is desperately trying to climb socially.
Modern Usage:
Like posting expensive vacation photos you can't afford, or name-dropping connections to seem more important than you are.
Keeping up appearances
Maintaining a public image of success or respectability even when your private reality is falling apart. Alice performs cheerfulness while dying inside.
Modern Usage:
Like posting happy family photos on social media while going through a divorce, or acting like your job is great when you're about to be fired.
Charity dance
When someone dances with you out of pity or social obligation, not genuine interest. It's kindness that feels like cruelty because everyone can see it's not real.
Modern Usage:
Like when someone talks to you at a party only because they feel sorry for you, or when a coworker includes you in lunch plans out of guilt.
Characters in This Chapter
Alice Adams
Protagonist
Desperately tries to maintain her social facade while her popularity crumbles. She cycles through increasingly pathetic strategies to avoid looking rejected, from pretending to save seats to hiding in bathrooms.
Modern Equivalent:
The former popular kid struggling to accept their changed status
Harvey Malone
Former suitor turned casual tormentor
Approaches Alice with cruel casualness, treating her as a time-killer while bragging about his busy social calendar. His behavior shows how former admirers can become sources of humiliation.
Modern Equivalent:
The ex who slides into your DMs when they're bored but won't commit
Arthur Russell
Reluctant dance partner
Mildred's fiancé who dances with Alice out of obligation rather than interest. His politeness feels worse than outright rejection because Alice recognizes it as charity.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend's boyfriend who's nice to you because he has to be
Walter Adams
Alice's embarrassing brother
Found gambling with coat-check attendants instead of being available when Alice needs him. Represents another family failure that undermines Alice's social pretensions.
Modern Equivalent:
The family member whose bad choices reflect poorly on everyone
Ella Dowling
Fellow wallflower
Sits through dance after dance with 'glassy imperturbability,' representing what Alice fears becoming. Her presence with her mother provides a thin excuse for being there.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who's given up trying and just accepts being left out
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to spot when you're trapped in increasingly frantic attempts to maintain a crumbling image.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you catch yourself trying harder and harder to prove something to people who clearly aren't interested—that's your cue to step back and reassess.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"For a girl who has been a belle, it is harder to live through these bad times than it is for one who has never known anything better."
Context: Alice watches other girls get rejected and thinks about how her former popularity makes current rejection more painful.
This reveals how past success can become a prison. Alice's memories of being popular make her current situation unbearable, while someone who never had that status might accept rejection more easily.
In Today's Words:
It's harder to be ignored when you used to be the center of attention than if nobody ever noticed you in the first place.
"You were left with at least the shred of a pretense that you came to sit with your mother as a spectator, and not to offer yourself to be danced with by men who looked you over and rejected you."
Context: Alice envies Ella Dowling for having her mother present, which provides an excuse for not dancing.
Shows how desperately Alice needs face-saving explanations for her rejection. Even a thin excuse feels better than admitting you're being passed over.
In Today's Words:
At least if your mom's with you, you can pretend you're just there to hang out, not hoping someone will ask you to dance.
"Not for the first time: there lay a sting!"
Context: Alice realizes this isn't her first experience with rejection and humiliation.
The repetition of failure is what really hurts. One bad night could be explained away, but a pattern reveals the truth about her declining status.
In Today's Words:
The worst part wasn't just getting rejected - it was realizing this keeps happening to me.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Desperate Performance
When identity depends on external validation, losing that validation triggers increasingly frantic attempts to maintain the image rather than accepting the changed reality.
Thematic Threads
Class
In This Chapter
Alice's former status as a belle makes her current rejection unbearable—she can't accept her family's changed social position
Development
Deepening from earlier hints of financial strain to full social humiliation
In Your Life:
You might struggle to accept when your circumstances change and you're no longer who you used to be
Performance
In This Chapter
Alice maintains elaborate cheerful facade while cycling through desperate strategies to avoid looking like a wallflower
Development
Introduced here as central survival mechanism
In Your Life:
You might exhaust yourself maintaining an image that no longer matches your reality
Identity
In This Chapter
Alice's sense of self crumbles because it was entirely built on being socially desirable and popular
Development
Building from earlier chapters showing her attachment to appearance and status
In Your Life:
You might discover your self-worth depends too heavily on things outside your control
Humiliation
In This Chapter
Each rejection deepens Alice's shame, from Harvey's casual cruelty to realizing Russell's dance was charity
Development
Escalating from minor social slights to crushing public embarrassment
In Your Life:
You might find that trying too hard to avoid embarrassment actually creates more of it
Family
In This Chapter
Walter's gambling with coat-check attendants adds another layer of family shame Alice must navigate
Development
Continuing theme of family dysfunction affecting Alice's social standing
In Your Life:
You might feel responsible for managing your family's reputation even when you can't control their behavior
Modern Adaptation
When the Office Party Goes Sideways
Following Alice's story...
Alice arrives at her temp agency's holiday party overdressed and desperate to network her way into a permanent position. She cycles through increasingly pathetic strategies: hovering near the managers' table pretending to wait for someone, hiding in the bathroom to avoid looking like she has nobody to talk to, forcing conversation with HR assistants who clearly want to escape. When Derek from accounting approaches, she lights up—until she realizes he's just killing time before his real friends arrive. The regional manager's assistant finally talks to her, but Alice can tell it's pity networking. She sends another temp to find her contact at the catering company, only to discover they were caught taking photos of the executive break room for their Instagram. After one awkward conversation with a maintenance worker who mistakes her for management, Alice maintains her bright smile until she gets to her car, then breaks down completely.
The Road
The road Alice Adams walked in 1921, Alice walks today. The pattern is identical: when our identity depends on others' approval, losing that validation doesn't make us reassess—it makes us perform harder.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for recognizing desperate performance before it destroys you. When you catch yourself cycling through increasingly frantic strategies to maintain an image, stop and ask what identity you're really afraid of losing.
Amplification
Before reading this, Alice might have blamed her failures on bad luck or other people's rudeness. Now she can NAME the pattern of desperate performance, PREDICT where it leads (exhaustion and deeper humiliation), and NAVIGATE by choosing authentic response over frantic image management.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific strategies does Alice use to avoid looking like a wallflower, and how does each one backfire?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Alice keep performing cheerfulness even as each rejection makes her situation worse?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this pattern of desperate performance in modern life—people doubling down on image management when their status is slipping?
application • medium - 4
How could Alice have responded differently when she realized her social position had changed? What would authentic response look like versus performance?
application • deep - 5
What does Alice's breakdown teach us about the cost of building our identity on external approval versus internal worth?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Track Your Own Performance Patterns
Think of a recent situation where you felt your status or image was threatened. Map out your response: What did you do to try to maintain appearances? Did you double down on performance or acknowledge the change honestly? Write down the specific actions you took and whether they made the situation better or worse.
Consider:
- •Notice the difference between protecting your actual interests versus protecting your image
- •Consider how much energy you spent on performance versus problem-solving
- •Ask whether your response was driven by fear of losing identity or practical concerns
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you had to let go of an old version of yourself. What did you grieve? What did you gain by stopping the performance and accepting the change?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 9: The Weight of Old Love Letters
Moving forward, we'll examine discovering your parents' past can shift your entire worldview, and understand fantasizing about success can become a trap that prevents real action. These insights bridge the gap between classic literature and modern experience.