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At the end of the winter, in the Shtcherbatskys’ house, a consultation was being held, which was to pronounce on the state of Kitty’s health and the measures to be taken to restore her failing strength. She had been ill, and as spring came on she grew worse. The family doctor gave her cod liver oil, then iron, then nitrate of silver, but as the first and the second and the third were alike in doing no good, and as his advice when spring came was to go abroad, a celebrated physician was called in. The celebrated physician, a very handsome man, still youngish, asked to examine the patient. He maintained, with peculiar satisfaction, it seemed, that maiden modesty is a mere relic of barbarism, and that nothing could be more natural than for a man still youngish to handle a young girl naked. He thought it natural because he did it every day, and felt and thought, as it seemed to him, no harm as he did it and consequently he considered modesty in the girl not merely as a relic of barbarism, but also as an insult to himself. There was nothing for it but to submit, since, although all the doctors had studied in the same school, had read the same books, and learned the same science, and though some people said this celebrated doctor was a bad doctor, in the princess’s household and circle it was for some reason accepted that this celebrated doctor alone had...
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Summary
Kitty finally confronts the reality of her situation with Vronsky, who has been notably absent from social gatherings where she expected to see him. At a party, she watches other couples dance and realizes that Vronsky's interest in her was never as serious as she believed. The painful truth hits her: while she was imagining a future together, he was likely just enjoying a flirtation. This chapter marks Kitty's transition from hopeful girl to someone learning hard lessons about reading people's true intentions. Tolstoy shows us how easy it is to mistake politeness and charm for genuine romantic interest, especially when we want something to be true. Kitty's embarrassment runs deeper than just romantic disappointment - she's realizing she misread all the social cues that now seem obvious in hindsight. Her family notices her distress, but like many painful lessons, this is something she has to process alone. The chapter captures that universal moment when we realize we've been living in a fantasy, and reality feels harsh by comparison. For working people who've experienced workplace dynamics or relationships where intentions weren't clear, Kitty's situation will feel familiar. The social pressures of her world mirror the way we all sometimes see what we want to see in others' behavior, rather than what's actually there.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Social season
The period when aristocratic families gathered in cities for parties, balls, and matchmaking. Young people were essentially on display for potential marriages, with strict rules about proper behavior and courtship.
Modern Usage:
Like dating apps or workplace networking events where everyone's trying to make the right impression.
Calling cards
Small cards left when visiting someone's home, used to maintain social connections and signal interest. Not receiving or returning calls was a clear social message about where you stood.
Modern Usage:
Similar to being left on read, unfollowed on social media, or not getting invited to group chats.
Chaperone
An older woman who supervised young unmarried ladies in social situations to protect their reputation. Young women couldn't be alone with men or make independent social choices.
Modern Usage:
Like having your mom monitor your social media or needing approval for major life decisions.
Drawing room
The formal living room where families received guests and held social gatherings. This was where important conversations happened and social status was displayed through furnishings and behavior.
Modern Usage:
The equivalent of someone's Instagram feed or LinkedIn profile - carefully curated to show your best side.
Mixed signals
When someone's words and actions don't match, leaving you confused about their true intentions. Kitty experienced this with Vronsky's polite attention that she mistook for romantic interest.
Modern Usage:
When someone texts you constantly but won't commit, or acts interested at work but doesn't follow through.
Social mortification
The deep shame that comes from realizing you've misread a social situation and potentially made yourself look foolish in front of others. In Kitty's world, this could damage marriage prospects.
Modern Usage:
Like realizing you've been oversharing with a coworker who was just being polite, or finding out your crush was never interested.
Characters in This Chapter
Kitty
Protagonist learning painful lessons
She's forced to confront that Vronsky was never as interested as she believed. Her embarrassment goes beyond romantic disappointment to realizing she completely misread the situation and social cues.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who thought their work crush liked them back but was just being friendly
Vronsky
The absent object of misplaced affection
His notable absence from events where Kitty expected to see him speaks louder than words. He represents how people can seem interested without actually being committed to anything serious.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who ghosts you after acting interested, or the coworker who flirts but never asks you out
Princess Shcherbatsky
Concerned mother
Kitty's mother notices her distress but can't fix this kind of heartbreak for her daughter. She represents the limitations of parental protection when it comes to life lessons.
Modern Equivalent:
The parent who sees their adult child struggling with relationships but knows they have to figure it out themselves
Other dancing couples
Mirror showing what Kitty lacks
Watching other couples dance happily makes Kitty's own situation more painful by contrast. They represent what she thought she had but clearly doesn't.
Modern Equivalent:
Seeing happy couples on social media when you're going through a breakup
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to distinguish between someone's general social skills and their specific interest in you.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone's charm feels special to you, then observe how they interact with others in similar situations.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"She felt that all eyes were upon her, and that she was being judged."
Context: As Kitty realizes her situation at the party
This captures the self-consciousness that comes with social embarrassment. Kitty feels exposed, as if everyone can see her mistake and disappointment.
In Today's Words:
Everyone's watching me make a fool of myself.
"What she had taken for love was nothing but the most ordinary flirtation."
Context: Kitty's painful realization about Vronsky's behavior
This is the moment of clarity that hurts the most - seeing the situation for what it really was instead of what she wanted it to be.
In Today's Words:
I thought this meant something, but he was just being nice.
"The ground seemed to give way beneath her feet."
Context: Describing Kitty's emotional state as reality hits
Tolstoy uses physical imagery to show emotional devastation. This is what it feels like when your assumptions about life suddenly prove wrong.
In Today's Words:
My whole world just fell apart.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Wishful Reading - When We See What We Want to See
Interpreting neutral or ambiguous behavior as positive because we desperately want a particular outcome to be true.
Thematic Threads
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Kitty realizes she misunderstood the social rules of courtship and what Vronsky's attention actually meant
Development
Building from earlier chapters where social rules seemed clear but are proving more complex
In Your Life:
You might misread workplace friendliness as job security or mistake customer service politeness for personal connection
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Kitty faces the painful transition from naive hope to realistic assessment of her situation
Development
First major growth moment for Kitty after chapters of romantic fantasy
In Your Life:
You've had moments where reality crashed your hopes and forced you to see situations more clearly
Class
In This Chapter
The social dynamics of the party reveal unspoken rules about who belongs with whom
Development
Continues the theme of how social position affects romantic possibilities
In Your Life:
You might notice how economic or social differences affect who feels comfortable approaching whom
Identity
In This Chapter
Kitty's sense of self is shaken as she realizes she's been living in a fantasy about her own desirability
Development
Introduced here as Kitty begins questioning her self-perception
In Your Life:
You might discover your self-image doesn't match how others actually see you
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
The gap between what Kitty thought was happening and reality shows how easily we misread others
Development
Deepens from earlier chapters by showing the consequences of misreading social signals
In Your Life:
You've probably misinterpreted someone's intentions and felt embarrassed when you realized your mistake
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Anna's story...
Anna has been working late with Marcus, the new senior partner, preparing for a major case. Their conversations have grown personal—he asks about her weekend plans, compliments her insights, even mentions how refreshing it is to work with someone who 'gets it.' Anna starts imagining this could lead somewhere meaningful, both professionally and personally. She finds herself dressing more carefully, staying later, volunteering for his projects. Then at the firm's holiday party, she watches Marcus work the room with the same charm, the same personal questions, the same compliments—with everyone. The young paralegals, the other associates, even the cleaning staff. Anna realizes with crushing clarity that what felt special to her was just Marcus being Marcus. His warmth wasn't romantic interest or professional mentorship—it was calculated networking. She'd been reading professional courtesy as personal connection, mistaking his people skills for genuine care. Standing there with her wine glass, watching him operate, Anna feels the familiar sting of misreading someone's intentions. The promotion she'd been hoping for suddenly feels very far away.
The Road
The road Kitty walked in 1877, Anna walks today. The pattern is identical: interpreting someone's natural charm and social skills as personal interest when we desperately want validation.
The Map
This chapter gives Anna a navigation tool for reading workplace dynamics. She can learn to separate professional courtesy from genuine mentorship or interest by watching how people treat others.
Amplification
Before reading this, Anna might have continued building fantasies around Marcus's attention, wasting emotional energy and potentially damaging her reputation. Now she can NAME wishful reading, PREDICT where it leads, and NAVIGATE by observing patterns across all interactions.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific behaviors from Vronsky did Kitty interpret as romantic interest, and what do those same behaviors likely mean in normal social situations?
analysis • surface - 2
Why do you think Kitty was so confident about Vronsky's feelings when the evidence was actually quite thin?
analysis • medium - 3
Where have you seen this pattern of 'wishful reading' play out in modern workplaces, dating, or family relationships?
application • medium - 4
If you were Kitty's friend, what advice would you give her for reading people's intentions more accurately in the future?
application • deep - 5
What does Kitty's experience reveal about the difference between hope and realistic expectation when dealing with other people?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Reality Check Your Interpretations
Think of a current situation where you're hoping for a specific outcome from someone (a promotion, romantic interest, friendship, family approval). Write down three behaviors you've interpreted as positive signs. Now rewrite each behavior as a neutral observer might see it, without your emotional investment.
Consider:
- •Ask yourself: Would I interpret this behavior the same way if I didn't want this outcome?
- •Consider: What evidence would actually prove their interest versus what I'm hoping proves it?
- •Remember: People's consistent patterns matter more than isolated moments that feed your hopes
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you misread someone's intentions because you wanted something to be true. What warning signs did you ignore, and how would you handle a similar situation now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 36
As the story unfolds, you'll explore key events and character development in this chapter, while uncovering thematic elements and literary techniques. These lessons connect the classic to contemporary challenges we all face.