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On arriving in Moscow by a morning train, Levin had put up at the house of his elder half-brother, Koznishev. After changing his clothes he went down to his brother’s study, intending to talk to him at once about the object of his visit, and to ask his advice; but his brother was not alone. With him there was a well-known professor of philosophy, who had come from Harkov expressly to clear up a difference that had arisen between them on a very important philosophical question. The professor was carrying on a hot crusade against materialists. Sergey Koznishev had been following this crusade with interest, and after reading the professor’s last article, he had written him a letter stating his objections. He accused the professor of making too great concessions to the materialists. And the professor had promptly appeared to argue the matter out. The point in discussion was the question then in vogue: Is there a line to be drawn between psychological and physiological phenomena in man? and if so, where? Sergey Ivanovitch met his brother with the smile of chilly friendliness he always had for everyone, and introducing him to the professor, went on with the conversation. A little man in spectacles, with a narrow forehead, tore himself from the discussion for an instant to greet Levin, and then went on talking without paying any further attention to him. Levin sat down to wait till the professor should go, but he soon began to get interested in the...
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Summary
Dolly Oblonsky wakes up in her guest room after another sleepless night, still reeling from discovering her husband's affair with their French governess. As she lies there in the early morning darkness, her mind races through the painful details - the love letters she found, the lies Stepan told, the humiliation of it all. She's been married eight years, has given him six children, and this is how he repays her devotion. The chapter captures that awful moment when betrayal is still fresh and raw, when you keep replaying the discovery over and over, hoping somehow it will hurt less. Dolly's thoughts jump between practical concerns (what will happen to the children?) and deeper questions about love and marriage. She remembers how she once adored Stepan, how handsome and charming he seemed, how she believed their love would last forever. Now she feels foolish for trusting him. Tolstoy shows us how betrayal doesn't just break your heart - it makes you question everything you thought you knew about your life. Dolly's pain is made worse by her isolation; she has no one to talk to, no one who truly understands. The servants know something is wrong but can't help. Her children need her to be strong, but she feels anything but strong. This chapter establishes the emotional foundation for everything that follows - the way broken trust ripples through a family, affecting not just the couple but everyone around them. It's a painfully realistic portrait of how infidelity shatters not just a marriage, but a woman's entire sense of self and security.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Governess
A private teacher who lived with wealthy families to educate their children, especially daughters. These women were often caught between classes - too educated to be servants, but not wealthy enough to be equals. They were vulnerable to exploitation and had few protections.
Modern Usage:
Today we see similar power dynamics with live-in nannies, au pairs, or housekeepers who become too close to the family.
Arranged vs. Love Marriage
In Tolstoy's time, marriages among the upper class were often arranged for social and financial reasons, though 'love matches' were becoming more common. Women had little say in their futures and divorce was nearly impossible.
Modern Usage:
We still see tension between marrying for practical reasons (stability, compatibility) versus passionate love.
Separate bedrooms
Upper-class married couples often had separate bedrooms, which was considered proper and sophisticated. This arrangement could either protect privacy or signal marital problems.
Modern Usage:
Today, couples sleeping separately might indicate relationship issues, though some do it for practical reasons like snoring or different schedules.
Social disgrace
In 19th century Russian society, a woman's reputation was everything. Being associated with scandal - even as the victim - could ruin her social standing permanently. Women had to maintain appearances at all costs.
Modern Usage:
We still see how cheating scandals can damage someone's reputation, especially in small communities or professional circles.
Maternal duty
Women were expected to sacrifice everything for their children's wellbeing. A mother who left her children, even for good reasons, was seen as unnatural and selfish.
Modern Usage:
Working mothers today still face judgment about putting career over family, or staying in bad relationships 'for the kids.'
Emotional isolation
The expectation that people, especially women, should suffer privately and maintain dignity in public. Showing emotional distress was seen as weakness or improper behavior.
Modern Usage:
We still struggle with when it's appropriate to share personal problems or ask for help during difficult times.
Characters in This Chapter
Dolly Oblonsky
Betrayed wife and protagonist
She's processing the devastating discovery of her husband's affair, cycling through anger, humiliation, and practical concerns about her future. Her thoughts reveal the impossible position of women who had no real options when marriages failed.
Modern Equivalent:
The stay-at-home mom who discovers her husband's cheating and realizes how financially dependent she's become
Stepan Oblonsky
Unfaithful husband
Though not directly present, his betrayal drives the entire chapter. His affair with the governess shows his selfishness and disregard for both his wife and the vulnerable woman in his employ.
Modern Equivalent:
The charming guy who cheats with someone from work and acts like it just happened
The French governess
The other woman
Represents the vulnerability of working women in positions of dependence. Her affair with Stepan shows how power imbalances can lead to exploitation, even when there appears to be mutual attraction.
Modern Equivalent:
The younger coworker or employee who gets involved with her married boss
The children
Innocent victims
Though not individually named in this chapter, they represent Dolly's biggest concern and the reason she can't simply leave. They're the human cost of their parents' broken marriage.
Modern Equivalent:
The kids caught in the middle of their parents' divorce drama
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to identify the normal but disorienting mental patterns that follow the discovery of deep deception.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when your mind keeps replaying a painful discovery or when you question your judgment after someone breaks your trust—these are normal betrayal recovery responses, not personal failures.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"She could not think of her children without horror; they were the chief consideration that held her back from separation."
Context: As Dolly contemplates her limited options after discovering the affair
This reveals the impossible trap many women faced - staying in destructive marriages because leaving would mean abandoning their children. The word 'horror' shows how the thought of separation tortures her.
In Today's Words:
The kids were the only reason she didn't pack up and leave - she couldn't bear the thought of losing them.
"It was impossible to go on living as they had been living."
Context: Dolly's realization that their marriage cannot continue as before
This simple statement captures the finality of betrayal - how it fundamentally changes everything, even if the couple stays together. There's no going back to innocence.
In Today's Words:
Things could never go back to the way they were.
"The humiliation of her position was made more bitter by the fact that everyone knew of it."
Context: Dolly's awareness that the servants and social circle know about the affair
Betrayal isn't just private pain - it's public humiliation. The knowledge that others pity her or gossip about her adds another layer of suffering to an already devastating situation.
In Today's Words:
What made it worse was knowing that everyone was talking about it behind her back.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Betrayal Recovery - When Your Foundation Crumbles
The mind's disorienting attempt to rebuild reality after discovering that someone trusted has fundamentally deceived us.
Thematic Threads
Trust
In This Chapter
Dolly's complete faith in Stepan has been shattered, leaving her questioning not just him but her own judgment
Development
Introduced here as the foundation that, once broken, affects everything else
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when a betrayal makes you second-guess your ability to read people or situations.
Isolation
In This Chapter
Dolly lies awake alone with her pain, unable to share her burden with servants or children who depend on her strength
Development
Introduced here as the lonely burden of being the responsible adult in crisis
In Your Life:
You might feel this when you're the one everyone else depends on, but you have nowhere to turn for support.
Identity
In This Chapter
Dolly's sense of self as a beloved wife and smart woman crumbles as she realizes she was blind to obvious deception
Development
Introduced here as the way betrayal attacks our core sense of who we are
In Your Life:
You might experience this when a major life event forces you to question fundamental beliefs about yourself.
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Dolly must maintain appearances and care for her children despite her emotional devastation
Development
Introduced here as the pressure to perform normalcy while internally falling apart
In Your Life:
You might feel this pressure when personal crisis hits but you still have to show up for work, family, or other responsibilities.
Class
In This Chapter
The affair with the French governess highlights how class dynamics create vulnerabilities in the household power structure
Development
Introduced here through the specific choice of the governess as the other woman
In Your Life:
You might notice this in workplace affairs or situations where power imbalances make certain people more vulnerable to exploitation.
Modern Adaptation
When Trust Breaks at 3 AM
Following Anna's story...
Anna lies awake in her sister's guest room at 3 AM, her mind racing after discovering her husband Marcus's affair with their daughter's daycare teacher. The evidence is undeniable—text messages, lies about working late, the way he's been distant for months. She keeps replaying the moment she found the photos on his phone, her stomach dropping as eight years of marriage suddenly made no sense. Tomorrow she has to face the partners at the law firm, pretend everything's fine while her world crumbles. She thinks about their five-year-old daughter sleeping down the hall, oblivious that her family is falling apart. Anna's successful career, her carefully built life, her financial security—everything feels uncertain now. She trusted Marcus completely, supported his dreams of starting his own contracting business, worked extra hours to cover their mortgage. Now she questions every decision, every conversation, wondering what else he's lied about.
The Road
The road Dolly walked in 1877, Anna walks today. The pattern is identical: the sleepless nights after betrayal, the mind desperately trying to rebuild reality when trust shatters completely.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for recognizing betrayal recovery patterns. Anna can understand that her mental replaying and reality-questioning are normal responses to fundamental deception.
Amplification
Before reading this, Anna might have thought she was going crazy, that her obsessive thoughts meant weakness. Now she can NAME the betrayal aftershock, PREDICT the disorientation phase, and NAVIGATE by protecting major decisions until her judgment stabilizes.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific thoughts keep Dolly awake, and how does her mind jump between different concerns throughout the night?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does betrayal make Dolly question not just her husband, but her own judgment and memories of their entire relationship?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this same pattern of 'mental replay' after betrayal in modern situations - at work, in friendships, or in families?
application • medium - 4
If you were counseling someone in Dolly's situation, what practical steps would you suggest to help them navigate the immediate aftermath of discovering betrayal?
application • deep - 5
What does Dolly's experience reveal about how trust works in relationships - why is it so hard to rebuild once broken?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Reality Check System
Think about a time when you discovered someone close to you had been dishonest about something important. Create a simple timeline: What were the warning signs you missed? What made you finally realize the truth? How did your mind try to process and make sense of the betrayal afterward? This exercise helps you recognize your own patterns of trust and recovery.
Consider:
- •Notice how your brain tried to 'rewrite' past events once you knew the truth
- •Identify what support systems (or lack thereof) helped or hindered your recovery
- •Recognize the difference between healthy processing and destructive rumination
Journaling Prompt
Write about what you learned about your own judgment from this experience. How do you decide who to trust now, and what boundaries do you set to protect yourself while still remaining open to genuine relationships?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 8
What lies ahead teaches us key events and character development in this chapter, and shows us thematic elements and literary techniques. These patterns appear in literature and life alike.