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CHAPTER X Of the way in which these souls are to conduct themselves in this dark night. At the time of the dryness of this night of sense (when God effects the change from meditation to contemplation), spiritual persons suffer great trials because they do not understand what is happening to them. God is now beginning to communicate Himself to them, not through sense, as before, through considerations and images, but through the spirit in an act of simple contemplation, without the soul having to use any discourse. Therefore, the attitude to be observed in this night of sense is to pay no heed either to discursive meditation, since this is not the time for it, or to desire to feel or find pleasure, for this would hinder the principal thing which God is now effecting. That principal thing is the spiritual good which is being communicated in dryness and interior affliction. Thus the soul has only to leave the soul free and disencumbered and at rest from all knowledge and thought, troubling not itself in the least about what it shall think or meditate upon, but contenting itself with merely a peaceful and loving attentiveness toward God, without anxiety, without the ability and without the desire to have experience of Him or to perceive Him.
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Summary
John of the Cross addresses one of life's most challenging transitions: when the familiar ways of handling problems suddenly stop working. He describes people going through what he calls the 'dark night of sense' - a period when the usual methods of finding comfort, meaning, or solutions feel empty and ineffective. This isn't failure; it's actually growth beginning to happen at a deeper level. The author explains that during these dry, difficult periods, our instinct is often to try harder, think more, or force some kind of breakthrough. But this approach backfires because something fundamentally different is trying to emerge. Instead of the active, analytical approach that may have worked before, what's needed now is a completely different stance: patient, open waiting. John advocates for what he calls 'loving attentiveness' - staying present and receptive without demanding immediate answers or relief. This means resisting the urge to overthink, to grasp for quick fixes, or to manufacture feelings of progress. It's about trusting that important work is happening beneath the surface, even when we can't see or feel it. This chapter offers profound wisdom for anyone going through major life transitions, career changes, relationship shifts, or periods of depression and uncertainty. The key insight is that sometimes the most productive thing we can do is stop trying to be productive in the old ways and allow space for something new to develop naturally.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Dark night of sense
A spiritual term for when your usual ways of finding comfort, meaning, or solutions suddenly stop working. It's not punishment - it's a transition period where deeper growth is trying to happen.
Modern Usage:
We see this when someone goes through major life changes and their old coping strategies feel empty or useless.
Discursive meditation
The analytical, thinking-based approach to solving problems or finding answers. It involves reasoning through things step by step, making mental lists, and trying to figure everything out logically.
Modern Usage:
This is like overthinking, making endless pro-and-con lists, or trying to think your way out of every problem.
Simple contemplation
A way of being present and open without trying to control or analyze the situation. It's receptive rather than active - like sitting quietly with a problem instead of attacking it.
Modern Usage:
Similar to mindfulness or just 'sitting with' difficult emotions instead of immediately trying to fix them.
Loving attentiveness
A patient, caring awareness that doesn't demand immediate results or answers. It's staying present with compassion while allowing things to unfold naturally.
Modern Usage:
Like being a good friend to yourself during hard times - present and caring without pushing for quick solutions.
Dryness
The feeling that nothing is working, nothing feels meaningful, and you're going through the motions without any sense of purpose or satisfaction.
Modern Usage:
This shows up as burnout, feeling stuck in routines, or that hollow feeling when things that used to matter don't anymore.
Interior affliction
The internal struggle and discomfort that comes with major life transitions. It's the emotional pain of letting go of old ways while new ones haven't fully formed yet.
Modern Usage:
The anxiety and sadness that comes with big changes like divorce, job loss, or kids leaving home.
Characters in This Chapter
The spiritual person
Protagonist going through transition
Represents anyone experiencing the confusion and pain of major life changes. They're struggling because their old methods aren't working anymore and they don't understand what's happening.
Modern Equivalent:
The person going through a midlife crisis or major life transition
God
The force creating change
Represents whatever larger process is pushing for growth and transformation. This force is working beneath the surface even when the person can't feel it or understand it.
Modern Equivalent:
Life circumstances or inner wisdom pushing someone toward necessary change
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to distinguish between problems that need more effort and transitions that require completely different approaches.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when your usual problem-solving methods feel suddenly ineffective—instead of trying harder, ask what new skill might be trying to emerge.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"God is now beginning to communicate Himself to them, not through sense, as before, through considerations and images, but through the spirit in an act of simple contemplation"
Context: Explaining why the old methods of finding answers aren't working anymore
This describes how growth sometimes requires a completely different approach than what worked before. The analytical mind that got you this far might not be what gets you to the next level.
In Today's Words:
Life is trying to teach you something new, but it won't come through thinking harder - it comes through being more open and receptive.
"The attitude to be observed in this night of sense is to pay no heed either to discursive meditation, since this is not the time for it"
Context: Giving advice on how to handle difficult transition periods
Sometimes the best thing you can do is stop trying so hard to figure everything out. There are seasons for analysis and seasons for just being present with uncertainty.
In Today's Words:
Stop overthinking it - this isn't the time for making lists and analyzing everything to death.
"The soul has only to leave the soul free and disencumbered and at rest from all knowledge and thought, troubling not itself in the least about what it shall think or meditate upon"
Context: Describing the proper response to feeling lost and confused
This is radical advice: instead of frantically searching for answers, create space for them to emerge naturally. It's about trusting the process even when you can't see where it's leading.
In Today's Words:
Just chill out and stop trying to control everything - give yourself permission to not have all the answers right now.
"Contenting itself with merely a peaceful and loving attentiveness toward God, without anxiety, without the ability and without the desire to have experience of Him"
Context: Describing the ideal mindset during difficult transitions
This is about showing up with care and presence without demanding specific outcomes. It's being there for the process itself, not just the results.
In Today's Words:
Stay present and caring without needing to feel better immediately or have some big breakthrough happen.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of When Your Old Tools Stop Working
The tendency to intensify familiar problem-solving methods when they stop working, instead of recognizing that growth requires entirely new approaches.
Thematic Threads
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
John describes spiritual growth as requiring the abandonment of familiar comforts and methods
Development
Central theme throughout - growth always involves letting go of what feels safe
In Your Life:
You might notice this when promotion requires leadership skills you've never needed, or when parenting teenagers demands completely different approaches than worked with small children.
Identity
In This Chapter
The 'dark night' challenges who we think we are as capable problem-solvers
Development
Building on earlier themes of identity transformation through difficulty
In Your Life:
You might face this when illness forces you to redefine yourself beyond your work role, or when empty nest syndrome challenges your identity as active parent.
Class
In This Chapter
Working people often can't afford long periods of uncertainty or 'finding themselves'
Development
Implicit throughout - spiritual growth must happen while bills still need paying
In Your Life:
You might feel this tension when you need time to process major changes but can't take time off work, or when financial pressure demands immediate action but wisdom requires patience.
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Society expects us to always have answers and be actively working toward solutions
Development
Introduced here - the pressure to appear productive even during necessary fallow periods
In Your Life:
You might struggle with this when others expect you to 'bounce back' quickly from loss, or when family members pressure you to make major decisions before you're ready.
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Even our relationship with God/meaning requires different approaches at different life stages
Development
Evolution of earlier themes about relationships requiring adaptation and growth
In Your Life:
You might experience this when long-term friendships need to evolve as you both change, or when marriage requires new forms of intimacy after major life transitions.
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Juan's story...
Juan finally got the supervisor position at the warehouse after three years of perfect attendance and extra shifts. But six months in, everything feels wrong. The old strategies that made them a great worker—staying busy, solving problems quickly, being the reliable one—aren't working anymore. Staff meetings feel pointless, the paperwork is overwhelming, and they can't shake the feeling that they're failing everyone. Their instinct is to work even harder, stay later, micromanage more. But the harder they push, the more disconnected they feel from the work and the more their team seems to resist. They lie awake wondering if they made a huge mistake, if they should ask to go back to their old job, if they're just not cut out for leadership. The comfortable identity of 'good worker' has evaporated, and they don't know who they're supposed to be now.
The Road
The road Juan's soul walked in 1578, Juan walks today. The pattern is identical: when life demands growth beyond our current tools, the old reliable methods suddenly feel empty and ineffective.
The Map
This chapter provides the navigation tool of recognizing transition periods where forcing old solutions creates more problems. Juan can learn to sit with uncertainty instead of desperately grasping for quick fixes.
Amplification
Before reading this, Juan might have interpreted their struggle as personal failure and doubled down on ineffective strategies. Now they can NAME it as a growth transition, PREDICT that forcing won't work, and NAVIGATE by practicing patient presence while new leadership skills develop naturally.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
According to John of the Cross, what happens when our usual ways of handling problems suddenly stop working?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does John argue that trying harder with old methods often backfires during difficult transitions?
analysis • medium - 3
Think of someone you know who's going through a major life change. How might they be trying to use 'old tools' for a new situation?
application • medium - 4
What would 'loving attentiveness' look like in a practical situation you're facing right now?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter suggest about the relationship between discomfort and growth in human experience?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Toolkit Transition
Think of a current challenge where your usual strategies aren't working. Draw two columns: 'Old Tools I Keep Reaching For' and 'What This Situation Might Actually Need.' Be honest about what you keep trying versus what might be required. Then identify one small way you could practice 'loving attentiveness' instead of forcing a solution.
Consider:
- •Notice the difference between what feels familiar versus what feels right for this situation
- •Consider whether your frustration comes from the problem itself or from your tools not working
- •Ask yourself what you might be trying to control that actually needs to unfold naturally
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you had to completely change your approach to solve a problem. What did you learn about yourself in that transition? How might that experience help you navigate your current challenge?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 11: Breaking Free from Inner Turmoil
As the story unfolds, you'll explore inner peace creates space for deeper connections, while uncovering quieting desires leads to genuine freedom. These lessons connect the classic to contemporary challenges we all face.