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LETTER XLIII EVELINA IN CONTINUATION June 10th THIS morning Mr. Smith called, on purpose, he said, to offer me a ticket for the next Hampstead assembly. I thanked him, but desired to be excused accepting it: he would not, however, be denied, nor answered; and, in a manner both vehement and free, pressed and urged his offer, till I was wearied to death: but, when he found me resolute, he seemed thunderstruck with amazement, and thought proper to desire I would tell him my reasons. Obvious as they must surely have been to any other person, they were such as I knew not how to repeat to him; and, when he found I hesitated, he said, "Indeed, Ma'am, you are too modest; I assure you the ticket is quite at your service, and I shall be very happy to dance with you; so pray don't be so coy." "Indeed, Sir," returned I, "you are mistaken; I never supposed you would offer a ticket without wishing it should be accepted; but it would answer no purpose to mention the reasons which make me decline it, since they cannot possibly be removed." This speech seemed very much to mortify him; which I could not be concerned at, as I did not choose to be treated by him with so much freedom. When he was, at last, convinced that his application to me was ineffectual, he addressed himself to Madame Duval, and begged she would interfere in his favour; offering at the same...
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Summary
Evelina faces two very different challenges that test her character in opposite ways. First, Mr. Smith aggressively pushes her to accept his invitation to a dance, refusing to take no for an answer. Despite his persistence and Madame Duval's eventual support for his cause, Evelina maintains her boundaries, recognizing that accepting gifts from unknown men crosses a line of propriety that could compromise her reputation. Her refusal frustrates both Smith and her guardian, but she stands firm in her convictions. The next day brings a far more serious test when Evelina accidentally witnesses a desperate young man preparing to kill himself with pistols. In a moment of pure moral courage, she rushes into his room and physically intervenes, preventing his suicide attempt. The encounter is intense and frightening - she faints from the shock but recovers quickly enough to secure the weapons and talk the man down from his desperate act. This dramatic rescue reveals Evelina's capacity for heroic action when human life is at stake. The contrast between these two situations - one requiring her to say no to social pressure, the other demanding immediate life-saving action - shows how different circumstances call for different types of courage. Her ability to hold firm boundaries with Smith and then risk her safety to save a stranger demonstrates remarkable moral development. Both situations also highlight the limited power young women had in 18th-century society, where they needed courage to protect both their reputations and their values.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Assembly
A formal social dance event in 18th-century England where people gathered to dance, socialize, and see who was available for courtship. These were major social events where reputations could be made or destroyed based on who you danced with and how you behaved.
Modern Usage:
Like going to a club or formal party where everyone's watching who you're with and judging your choices.
Propriety
The strict social rules about what was considered proper behavior, especially for young women. Breaking these rules could ruin your reputation and marriage prospects forever.
Modern Usage:
Similar to unwritten workplace rules or social media etiquette - step out of line and face serious consequences.
Coy
Acting shy or modest, often seen as feminine behavior. Men often accused women of being 'coy' when they refused advances, suggesting the woman was just playing hard to get rather than genuinely saying no.
Modern Usage:
When someone assumes you're 'playing games' instead of accepting that your 'no' means no.
Application
A formal request or petition for something. In this context, Mr. Smith's persistent attempts to get Evelina to accept his invitation.
Modern Usage:
Like when someone keeps asking you out after you've already said no - they're making repeated 'applications' for your attention.
Mortify
To cause someone deep embarrassment or humiliation. In 18th-century society, being publicly refused or rejected was extremely mortifying because everyone was watching.
Modern Usage:
Getting shut down in front of others, like being rejected on social media where everyone can see.
Interfere in his favour
To intervene on someone's behalf, to advocate for them. Mr. Smith asks Madame Duval to pressure Evelina into accepting his invitation.
Modern Usage:
Getting someone's parent, friend, or boss to pressure them into saying yes to something they already refused.
Characters in This Chapter
Evelina
Protagonist
Shows remarkable growth by standing firm against Mr. Smith's pressure while later risking her safety to save a suicidal stranger. Her ability to say no to unwanted social pressure and yes to moral action reveals her developing strength.
Modern Equivalent:
The young woman learning to set boundaries while still caring deeply about others
Mr. Smith
Antagonist/unwanted suitor
Refuses to accept Evelina's polite refusal of his dance invitation, becoming increasingly aggressive and demanding explanations. His behavior shows how men often pressure women who say no.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy who won't take no for an answer and keeps asking 'but why not?'
Madame Duval
Misguided guardian
Supports Mr. Smith's pressure campaign against Evelina, showing how even female guardians sometimes prioritize male approval over a woman's right to refuse.
Modern Equivalent:
The relative who says 'just give him a chance' when you've already said you're not interested
The suicidal young man
Victim in crisis
His desperate attempt at suicide becomes the catalyst for Evelina's most heroic moment. His crisis allows her to show courage and compassion in a life-or-death situation.
Modern Equivalent:
Someone in a mental health crisis who needs immediate intervention
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to identify whether a situation requires boundary-setting courage or immediate action courage.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you feel pressured versus when you feel urgency—practice saying no firmly in pressure situations and taking quick action when someone genuinely needs help.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Indeed, Sir, you are mistaken; I never supposed you would offer a ticket without wishing it should be accepted; but it would answer no purpose to mention the reasons which make me decline it, since they cannot possibly be removed."
Context: When Mr. Smith demands to know why she won't accept his dance invitation
This shows Evelina's diplomatic but firm refusal. She acknowledges his offer while making it clear her reasons are non-negotiable. It's a masterclass in saying no politely but definitively.
In Today's Words:
Look, I get that you want me to say yes, but my reasons for saying no aren't going to change, so there's no point discussing it.
"Indeed, Ma'am, you are too modest; I assure you the ticket is quite at your service, and I shall be very happy to dance with you; so pray don't be so coy."
Context: Dismissing Evelina's hesitation as false modesty when she tries to refuse his invitation
Classic manipulative behavior - he reframes her clear refusal as shyness or game-playing rather than accepting her decision. This shows how men often refuse to hear 'no' from women.
In Today's Words:
Stop being so shy! I'm doing you a favor here, so quit playing hard to get.
"This speech seemed very much to mortify him; which I could not be concerned at, as I did not choose to be treated by him with so much freedom."
Context: After she firmly refuses his invitation and he becomes embarrassed
Evelina recognizes that his embarrassment is his own problem, not hers to fix. She's learning that she doesn't need to manage men's feelings when they overstep boundaries.
In Today's Words:
He was clearly embarrassed, but I didn't feel bad about it since he was being way too pushy with me.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Situational Courage - When Different Moments Demand Different Bravery
The ability to recognize what type of bravery each situation demands and respond appropriately, whether that's holding boundaries or taking immediate action.
Thematic Threads
Boundaries
In This Chapter
Evelina refuses Mr. Smith's persistent invitations despite social pressure from Madame Duval
Development
Evolved from earlier social awkwardness to confident boundary-setting
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when family members pressure you to accept help that comes with strings attached.
Moral Courage
In This Chapter
Evelina risks her safety to physically prevent a stranger's suicide attempt
Development
Introduced here as her most dramatic act of bravery yet
In Your Life:
You might face this when witnessing workplace harassment or seeing someone in genuine danger.
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Society expects young women to be polite and accommodating, making her refusal seem rude
Development
Continuing theme of how social rules can conflict with personal safety
In Your Life:
You might feel this pressure when service workers or salespeople use politeness norms to manipulate you.
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Evelina demonstrates both passive resistance and active heroism in the same chapter
Development
Shows her evolution from reactive to proactive moral decision-making
In Your Life:
You might notice this in your own growth from avoiding conflict to actively standing up for what's right.
Gender Constraints
In This Chapter
Her limited power requires her to use different strategies - firmness with Smith, physical intervention with the suicidal man
Development
Continuing exploration of how women navigate power imbalances
In Your Life:
You might experience this when dealing with authority figures who dismiss your concerns or expertise.
Modern Adaptation
Two Types of Courage
Following Evelyn's story...
At her first college party, Evelyn faces pressure from Jake, a popular upperclassman who won't take no for an answer about going to his room. Despite other students telling her she's being 'uptight' and that Jake is a 'good guy,' Evelyn holds firm, recognizing the danger in compromising her boundaries for social acceptance. The next morning, while walking to her dining hall job, she discovers her floor mate Emma in the bathroom, having taken a dangerous amount of pills after a devastating breakup. Without hesitation, Evelyn calls 911, stays with Emma until help arrives, and later helps connect her with campus counseling resources. Both situations test Evelyn's courage, but in completely different ways—first requiring her to resist social pressure and maintain boundaries, then demanding immediate action to save someone's life.
The Road
The road Evelina walked in 1778, Evelyn walks today. The pattern is identical: true character reveals itself not in one type of bravery, but in recognizing what each moment demands and responding with appropriate courage.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for recognizing different types of courage. Evelyn learns that boundary moments feel pressured but not urgent, while crisis moments demand immediate life-saving action.
Amplification
Before reading this, Evelyn might have thought courage was one-size-fits-all, leading her to freeze in crises or cave to pressure. Now she can NAME the difference between boundary courage and crisis courage, PREDICT what each situation requires, and NAVIGATE both with appropriate responses.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What are the two very different situations Evelina faces in this chapter, and how does she respond to each one?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Evelina refuse Mr. Smith's invitation even though it frustrates both him and Madame Duval? What does she understand that they don't?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about your own life: when have you needed 'boundary courage' to say no versus 'crisis courage' to act immediately? Which type comes more naturally to you?
application • medium - 4
If you were coaching someone who's great in emergencies but terrible at saying no to pushy people (or vice versa), what specific advice would you give them?
application • deep - 5
What does Evelina's ability to show both types of courage reveal about how real strength develops? How is this different from how courage is usually portrayed in movies or social media?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Courage Types
Create two columns: 'Boundary Courage Needed' and 'Crisis Courage Needed.' List situations from your life (work, family, health, relationships) where you've needed each type. Then identify which type you're stronger at and which needs development. Finally, pick one situation from your weaker column and write out exactly what you would say or do.
Consider:
- •Boundary situations often feel pressured but not urgent - someone wants you to compromise your values or safety
- •Crisis situations require immediate action to prevent serious harm to yourself or others
- •Most people are naturally better at one type than the other - this is normal and fixable with practice
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you showed the 'wrong' type of courage for the situation - maybe you acted too quickly when you should have held boundaries, or held back when immediate action was needed. What would you do differently now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 45: Class Prejudice and Social Performances
In the next chapter, you'll discover financial desperation can corrupt moral judgment, and learn the way people use others' misfortunes to feel superior. These insights reveal timeless patterns that resonate in our own lives and relationships.