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LETTER LXXI. EVELINA IN CONTINUATION. Clifton, October 1st. I HAVE only time, my dearest Sir, for three words, to overtake my last letter, and prevent your expecting me immediately; for, when I communicated my intention to Mrs. Selwyn, she would not hear of it, and declared it would be highly ridiculous for me to go before I received an answer to my intelligence concerning the journey from Paris. She has, therefore, insisted upon my waiting till your next letter arrives. I hope you will not be displeased at my compliance, though it is rather against my own judgment: but Mrs. Selwyn quite overpowered me with the force of her arguments. I will, however, see very little of Lord Orville; I will never come down stairs before breakfast; give up all my walks in the garden; seat myself next to Mrs. Selwyn; and not merely avoid his conversation, but shun his presence. I will exert all the prudence and all the resolution in my power, to prevent this short delay from giving you any further uneasiness. Adieu, my dearest Sir. I shall not now leave Clifton till I have your directions.
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Summary
Evelina finds herself trapped between her own instincts and Mrs. Selwyn's forceful opinions. After deciding to return home immediately, she's talked out of it by Mrs. Selwyn, who insists she wait for her guardian's response about the Paris situation. Though Evelina disagrees with this delay, she caves to the older woman's 'overpowering arguments.' Her solution? A elaborate avoidance plan - no coming downstairs before breakfast, no garden walks, sitting next to Mrs. Selwyn as a human shield, and actively shunning Lord Orville's presence. This brief letter reveals how easily we can be swayed from our gut decisions when someone argues with enough authority. Evelina knows what she wants to do, but she lacks the confidence to stand firm. Her avoidance strategy shows she's still thinking like a victim of circumstances rather than someone who can actively shape her situation. The irony is clear: by trying so hard to avoid Lord Orville while staying in his house, she's creating an artificial, unsustainable dynamic that will likely make things more awkward, not less. This moment captures the exhausting mental gymnastics we perform when we're not honest about what we really want. Evelina is learning that sometimes the 'sensible' advice from others can lead us further from our own truth.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Overpowered by arguments
When someone uses forceful reasoning or persistent pressure to make you change your mind against your better judgment. In Burney's time, this was often how older, more experienced people controlled younger ones.
Modern Usage:
We see this in workplace dynamics when bosses use their authority to override employee concerns, or in relationships when one person bulldozes the other's preferences.
Against my own judgment
Acting contrary to what your instincts tell you is right. Evelina knows she should leave but allows herself to be talked out of it.
Modern Usage:
This happens when we ignore our gut feelings because someone else seems more confident or authoritative - like staying in a bad job because your family says it's 'practical.'
Shun his presence
Deliberately avoiding someone completely, not just their conversation but being in the same space as them. An extreme form of social distancing.
Modern Usage:
Today we might block someone on social media, take different routes to avoid seeing an ex, or switch shifts to avoid a difficult coworker.
Compliance
Going along with someone else's wishes even when you disagree. Evelina submits to Mrs. Selwyn's demands despite her own better instincts.
Modern Usage:
This shows up when we say yes to things we don't want to do just to avoid conflict - like agreeing to work overtime when we're already exhausted.
Prudence and resolution
Careful judgment combined with firm determination. Evelina promises to use both wisdom and willpower to handle her situation.
Modern Usage:
We use this when we need both smart planning and strong boundaries - like budgeting carefully while resisting impulse purchases.
Human shield strategy
Using another person as protection from an uncomfortable situation. Evelina plans to sit next to Mrs. Selwyn to avoid direct interaction with Lord Orville.
Modern Usage:
This happens when we bring a friend to avoid one-on-one time with someone, or stay near our boss to avoid dealing with a difficult customer.
Characters in This Chapter
Evelina
Conflicted protagonist
She knows what she wants to do but lacks the confidence to stand firm against Mrs. Selwyn's pressure. Her elaborate avoidance plan shows she's still thinking like a victim of circumstances.
Modern Equivalent:
The people-pleaser who makes their life harder by avoiding conflict
Mrs. Selwyn
Domineering authority figure
She completely overrides Evelina's judgment with forceful arguments, insisting she knows better about the situation. Her control shows how older women often managed younger ones.
Modern Equivalent:
The overbearing mentor who thinks they know what's best for everyone
Lord Orville
Unwitting source of tension
Though not directly present, he's the reason for all of Evelina's elaborate avoidance planning. His mere existence in the house creates the problem.
Modern Equivalent:
The coworker you have complicated feelings about who makes everything awkward just by being there
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when someone's forceful arguments override your better judgment simply because they speak with authority.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone's confident tone makes you doubt your instincts - pause and ask yourself whether they have more relevant information or just more certainty.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"she quite overpowered me with the force of her arguments"
Context: Explaining why she gave in to Mrs. Selwyn's demands to stay
This reveals how easily Evelina can be swayed when someone argues with enough authority. She admits to being overpowered rather than convinced, showing the difference between genuine persuasion and bulldozing.
In Today's Words:
She basically steamrolled me and I couldn't fight back
"though it is rather against my own judgment"
Context: Acknowledging that staying goes against her instincts
Evelina recognizes she's making the wrong choice but does it anyway. This self-awareness makes her compliance even more frustrating - she knows better but doesn't trust herself.
In Today's Words:
Even though I know this is a bad idea
"I will exert all the prudence and all the resolution in my power"
Context: Promising to handle the situation carefully while she stays
She's trying to convince herself and her guardian that she can control an inherently uncontrollable situation. The formal language masks her desperation to make this work.
In Today's Words:
I'll use every bit of willpower and common sense I have
"not merely avoid his conversation, but shun his presence"
Context: Describing her extreme avoidance plan for Lord Orville
This escalation from avoiding conversation to avoiding presence entirely shows how her anxiety is spiraling. She's creating an impossible living situation for herself.
In Today's Words:
I won't just avoid talking to him - I'll avoid being in the same room
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Borrowed Authority - When Other People's Confidence Overrides Your Gut
Allowing someone else's confidence to override your own instincts, then creating elaborate workarounds instead of trusting your initial judgment.
Thematic Threads
Personal Agency
In This Chapter
Evelina knows what she wants but immediately abandons her plan when challenged by Mrs. Selwyn's authority
Development
Evolved from earlier passive acceptance - now she has clear instincts but still can't defend them
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you change plans you felt good about just because someone else argued against them confidently
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Mrs. Selwyn's arguments about 'proper' behavior and waiting for guardian approval override Evelina's personal comfort
Development
Consistent theme - social rules continue to trump individual needs and instincts
In Your Life:
This appears when you stay in uncomfortable situations because others say it's 'the right thing to do'
Avoidance
In This Chapter
Rather than leave or address the situation directly, Evelina creates an elaborate plan to avoid Lord Orville while remaining in his house
Development
Pattern intensifying - avoidance strategies becoming more complex and unsustainable
In Your Life:
You see this when you create complicated workarounds instead of having difficult conversations or making hard choices
Class Dynamics
In This Chapter
Mrs. Selwyn's social position gives her arguments automatic weight regardless of their merit
Development
Ongoing exploration of how social hierarchy influences decision-making
In Your Life:
This shows up when you defer to people based on their title or status rather than the quality of their advice
Self-Doubt
In This Chapter
Evelina immediately questions her own judgment when faced with Mrs. Selwyn's certainty
Development
Central struggle - growing awareness but persistent inability to trust her own perceptions
In Your Life:
You experience this when you second-guess decisions you felt confident about after someone challenges them
Modern Adaptation
When Your Gut Says Run
Following Evelyn's story...
Evelyn knows she needs to quit her campus dining job immediately - the manager's inappropriate comments are escalating, and she feels unsafe. But when she tells her residence advisor about wanting to leave, the RA launches into a lecture about 'not overreacting' and 'thinking practically about finances.' The RA's confident arguments make Evelyn doubt her instincts. Instead of quitting, she creates an elaborate avoidance system: taking shifts when the manager isn't there, eating lunch in her dorm instead of the staff room, and asking other workers to run interference. She's exhausted from the mental gymnastics, but the RA made her feel stupid for wanting to 'run away from a good job.' Now she's trapped between her gut telling her to leave and someone else's logic keeping her there.
The Road
The road Evelina walked in 1778, Evelyn walks today. The pattern is identical: when we lack confidence in our own judgment, we become vulnerable to anyone who speaks with authority, even when their advice conflicts with our survival instincts.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for distinguishing between borrowed authority and genuine wisdom. Evelyn can learn to pause when someone's confident advice conflicts with her gut instincts.
Amplification
Before reading this, Evelyn might have assumed the RA's confidence meant superior knowledge and continued her exhausting avoidance routine. Now she can NAME the pattern of mistaking volume for wisdom, PREDICT how elaborate workarounds multiply problems, and NAVIGATE by trusting her instincts when they conflict with borrowed authority.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What does Evelina want to do initially, and who talks her out of it? What reasons does Mrs. Selwyn give?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Evelina create such an elaborate avoidance plan instead of just standing firm on her original decision?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about a time when someone with authority or confidence talked you out of something you knew was right. What happened?
application • medium - 4
When someone gives you advice that conflicts with your gut instinct, how do you decide whether to trust them or yourself?
application • deep - 5
What's the difference between someone who's confident and someone who actually knows what they're talking about? How can you tell?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Authority vs. Instinct Audit
Think of a current situation where you're getting advice that doesn't feel right to you. Write down what your gut is telling you, then list the arguments others are making. Now evaluate: Do these people have more relevant information than you, or just more certainty? What would happen if you trusted your instincts instead of their authority?
Consider:
- •Consider whether the advice-giver has actually been in your exact situation
- •Notice if they're using guilt, pressure, or dismissal to make their case
- •Ask yourself what you'd advise a friend in the same position
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you ignored your gut feeling because someone else seemed more confident. What did you learn from that experience, and how would you handle it differently now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 72: Avoiding Lord Orville's Notice
The coming pages reveal avoiding someone can create more drama than confronting the situation directly, and teach us the way sudden behavioral changes confuse and hurt the people who care about us. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.