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L←etter 95. On the usefulness of basic principlesMoral letters to Luciliusby Seneca, translated by Richard Mott GummereLetter 96. On facing hardshipsLetter 97. On the degeneracy of the age→483738Moral letters to Lucilius — Letter 96. On facing hardshipsRichard Mott GummereSeneca ​ XCVI. ON FACING HARDSHIPS 1. Spite of all do you still chafe and complain, not understanding that, in all the evils to which you refer, there is really only one—the fact that you do chafe and complain? If you ask me, I think that for a man there is no misery unless there be something in the universe which he thinks miserable. I shall not endure myself on that day when I find anything unendurable. I am ill; but that is a part of my lot. My slaves have fallen sick, my income has gone off, my house is rickety, I have been assailed by losses, accidents, toil, and fear; this is a common thing. Nay, that was an understatement; it was an inevitable thing. 2. Such affairs come by order, and not by accident. If you will believe me, it is my inmost emotions that I am just now disclosing to you: when everything seems to go hard and uphill, I have trained myself not merely to obey God, but to agree with His ​decisions. I follow Him because my soul wills it, and not because I must.[1] Nothing will ever happen to me that I shall receive with ill humour or with a wry face. I shall pay up all my...
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Summary
Seneca addresses his friend Lucilius, who has been complaining about illness and various misfortunes. Rather than offering sympathy, Seneca delivers a tough-love lesson about the nature of hardship. He argues that the real problem isn't what happens to us, but how we react to what happens to us. When we complain and resist life's difficulties, we're essentially fighting against the natural order of things. Seneca uses the metaphor of taxes—we don't get to choose whether to pay them, and life's hardships are simply the 'tax of living.' He points out that when Lucilius prayed for a long life, he was unknowingly asking for all the troubles that come with it, just as a long journey includes dust, mud, and rain. The philosopher advocates for moving beyond mere endurance to active agreement with life's challenges. He distinguishes between following fate willingly versus being dragged along unwillingly. Seneca concludes with a military metaphor, comparing life to a battle where those who face hardship with courage are the true heroes, while those who live in comfort are like 'turtle-doves'—safe only because they're insignificant. This letter reveals Seneca's core Stoic belief that we can't control what happens to us, but we can absolutely control our response. It's a masterclass in mental resilience that speaks directly to anyone dealing with setbacks, illness, or life's inevitable disappointments.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Stoicism
A philosophy that teaches you can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond. It's about finding strength through acceptance rather than fighting against things you can't change.
Modern Usage:
When people say 'don't let it get to you' or 'focus on what you can control,' they're using Stoic principles.
Fate vs. Providence
Seneca believed life's hardships aren't random bad luck, but part of a larger order or plan. Whether you call it God, the universe, or just how life works, accepting this brings peace.
Modern Usage:
Like saying 'everything happens for a reason' or 'it is what it is' when dealing with setbacks.
Moral Letters
Personal letters between friends that teach life lessons through real examples. Seneca wrote to his friend Lucilius about practical philosophy for daily living.
Modern Usage:
Similar to advice columns, self-help books, or even thoughtful text exchanges between friends going through tough times.
Active Agreement
Going beyond just putting up with problems to actually embracing them as necessary parts of life. It's the difference between grudging acceptance and willing participation.
Modern Usage:
Like choosing to see a difficult job as building character rather than just enduring it until something better comes along.
Life as Tax
Seneca's metaphor that hardships are the 'price' we pay for being alive, just like taxes are the price of living in society. You don't get to opt out.
Modern Usage:
When people say 'that's just part of life' or 'you take the good with the bad' about relationships, jobs, or aging.
Roman Virtue
Romans valued courage, duty, and facing hardship without complaint. Showing weakness or self-pity was seen as dishonorable, especially for men of Seneca's class.
Modern Usage:
Still seen in 'tough it out' mentality, military culture, or when people are expected to 'be strong' during crises.
Characters in This Chapter
Seneca
Mentor and advisor
The letter writer who's giving tough-love advice to his complaining friend. He shares his own struggles with illness and setbacks to show how philosophy works in real life.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who doesn't coddle you when you're venting but helps you see the bigger picture
Lucilius
Student seeking guidance
Seneca's friend who has been complaining about illness and various misfortunes. He represents anyone going through a rough patch and struggling with self-pity.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who always has something to complain about and needs a reality check
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to separate actual challenges from the extra suffering we create by fighting unchangeable circumstances.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you're spending more energy complaining about a situation than addressing it—that's resistance, not problem-solving.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"I think that for a man there is no misery unless there be something in the universe which he thinks miserable."
Context: Explaining why Lucilius's complaints are the real problem, not his circumstances
This cuts to the heart of Stoic philosophy - our suffering comes from our judgment about events, not the events themselves. It puts the power back in our hands.
In Today's Words:
You're only as miserable as you decide to be about what's happening to you.
"I have trained myself not merely to obey God, but to agree with His decisions. I follow Him because my soul wills it, and not because I must."
Context: Describing his personal approach to handling life's difficulties
Shows the difference between grudging acceptance and willing cooperation with life's challenges. It's about finding agency even in powerless situations.
In Today's Words:
I've learned to work with life instead of fighting against it - not because I have to, but because I choose to.
"Nothing will ever happen to me that I shall receive with ill humour or with a wry face."
Context: Making a bold promise about his commitment to philosophical principles
This sounds almost impossible, but it represents the Stoic ideal of emotional resilience. It's about maintaining dignity and composure no matter what life throws at you.
In Today's Words:
I'm not going to let anything make me bitter or turn me into someone I don't want to be.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Willing Partnership
We can either partner with life's difficulties and move forward, or resist them and get dragged along exhausted.
Thematic Threads
Control
In This Chapter
Seneca distinguishes between what we can control (our response) and what we cannot (what happens to us)
Development
Introduced here as a core Stoic principle
In Your Life:
You might waste energy trying to control your boss's mood instead of controlling your own professional response.
Expectations
In This Chapter
Lucilius wanted a long life but didn't expect the hardships that naturally come with it
Development
Introduced here through the metaphor of praying for a journey but not expecting dust and mud
In Your Life:
You might want job security but resist the extra responsibilities that come with being valuable to your employer.
Mental Resilience
In This Chapter
Seneca advocates moving beyond endurance to active agreement with life's challenges
Development
Introduced here as the difference between being willing versus being dragged
In Your Life:
You might endure a difficult family situation while complaining, instead of finding ways to work with it constructively.
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Hardship is presented as the 'tax of living' that develops character and strength
Development
Introduced here through military metaphors of courage versus comfort
In Your Life:
You might avoid challenging situations that could actually build the skills you need for advancement.
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Samuel's story...
Marcus had been complaining for weeks about getting passed over for the supervisor position at the warehouse. When his friend Jake calls him out on it, Marcus expects sympathy. Instead, Jake delivers some hard truth: 'You wanted to stay at this company long-term, right? Well, this is what that looks like—politics, disappointments, having to prove yourself over and over. You can't ask for job security and then act shocked when it comes with job frustration.' Jake points out that Marcus has been spending more energy fighting the unfairness than figuring out his next move. 'Look, you can keep swimming upstream, cursing the current, or you can work with what you've got. Either way, you're still in the same river.' Marcus realizes he's been so focused on what should have happened that he's missed opportunities to show leadership in his current role. The promotion disappointment isn't the enemy—his resistance to it is what's draining him.
The Road
The road Lucilius walked in 65 AD, Marcus walks today. The pattern is identical: we multiply our suffering when we fight against reality instead of working with it.
The Map
This chapter provides the Partnership Pattern—the ability to distinguish between what we can control and what we must accept. Marcus can use this to redirect his energy from fighting the promotion decision to demonstrating leadership skills.
Amplification
Before reading this, Marcus might have stayed stuck in complaint mode, burning energy on resentment. Now he can NAME the resistance pattern, PREDICT that fighting reality leads to exhaustion, and NAVIGATE by partnering with his current situation while building his case for next time.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Why does Seneca compare life's hardships to taxes we have to pay?
analysis • surface - 2
What's the difference between someone who 'follows fate willingly' versus someone who gets 'dragged along unwillingly'?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about someone you know who handles tough situations well. How do they partner with difficulty instead of fighting it?
application • medium - 4
When you're dealing with something you can't change, how do you decide where to put your energy?
application • deep - 5
Why do you think people often resist reality even when resistance makes things worse?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Resistance vs. Partnership
Think of a current challenge in your life. Draw two columns: 'What I'm Fighting' and 'What I Can Work With.' List everything about your situation in these columns. Then circle the items in the first column that you're spending mental energy resisting but can't actually change. This reveals where you might be wasting energy that could be redirected.
Consider:
- •Notice how much mental space the 'fighting' column takes up compared to actionable items
- •Consider whether your resistance is protecting you from something or just draining you
- •Look for patterns in what you tend to resist versus what you naturally accept
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you stopped fighting a situation and started working with it instead. What changed when you made that shift? How did it feel different in your body and mind?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 97: Every Generation Thinks It's the Worst
The coming pages reveal every generation believes moral decay is uniquely bad in their time, and teach us guilt creates its own punishment through constant fear and anxiety. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.