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THE FIRST BOOK I. Of my grandfather Verus I have learned to be gentle and meek, and to refrain from all anger and passion. From the fame and memory of him that begot me I have learned both shamefastness and manlike behaviour. Of my mother I have learned to be religious, and bountiful; and to forbear, not only to do, but to intend any evil; to content myself with a spare diet, and to fly all such excess as is incidental to great wealth. Of my great-grandfather, both to frequent public schools and auditories, and to get me good and able teachers at home; and that I ought not to think much, if upon such occasions, I were at excessive charges. II. Of him that brought me up, not to be fondly addicted to either of the two great factions of the coursers in the circus, called Prasini, and Veneti: nor in the amphitheatre partially to favour any of the gladiators, or fencers, as either the Parmularii, or the Secutores. Moreover, to endure labour; nor to need many things; when I have anything to do, to do it myself rather than by others; not to meddle with many businesses; and not easily to admit of any slander. III. Of Diognetus, not to busy myself about vain things, and not easily to believe those things, which are commonly spoken, by such as take upon them to work wonders, and by sorcerers, or prestidigitators, and impostors; concerning the power of charms, and...
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Summary
Marcus Aurelius opens his philosophical journal by doing something unexpected for an emperor—he gives credit where it's due. Rather than boasting about his power or achievements, he systematically thanks everyone who taught him something valuable, from his grandfather's gentleness to his adoptive father's work ethic. This isn't just polite acknowledgment; it's a deliberate practice of recognizing how we're shaped by others. He details specific lessons: learning not to get caught up in meaningless controversies (like sports team rivalries), developing the discipline to do things himself rather than delegate everything, and maintaining authenticity in his relationships. The chapter reveals a man who sees leadership not as dominance but as service, someone who values character over status. Marcus also acknowledges the role of fortune and divine providence in his life, showing remarkable humility for someone with absolute power. His gratitude extends to having good health, loving family relationships, and the opportunity to study philosophy rather than getting trapped in academic showmanship. The chapter ends with his famous morning reflection about dealing with difficult people—a practical framework for maintaining inner peace regardless of external circumstances. This opening establishes the tone for the entire work: philosophy as a lived practice, not abstract theory.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Stoic Philosophy
A practical philosophy focused on controlling what you can control and accepting what you can't. Stoics believed in living according to virtue and reason, finding peace through understanding your place in the larger order of things.
Modern Usage:
We see this in modern therapy approaches like CBT, mindfulness practices, and the popular saying 'control what you can control.'
Divine Providence
The belief that there's a higher power or natural order guiding events in the universe. For Marcus, this meant trusting that things happen for a reason, even when we can't see the bigger picture.
Modern Usage:
Similar to saying 'everything happens for a reason' or trusting in fate, destiny, or a higher power's plan.
Adoptive Father
In Roman culture, adoption was common among the elite for political and succession purposes. Marcus was adopted by Emperor Antoninus Pius, who became both his father figure and mentor in leadership.
Modern Usage:
We see this in blended families, mentorship relationships, or when someone steps up as a father figure regardless of blood relation.
Imperial Succession
The process by which Roman emperors chose and prepared their successors. Rather than always passing to biological sons, emperors often adopted the most capable candidate to ensure stable leadership.
Modern Usage:
Similar to how family businesses choose successors, or how mentors groom proteges to take over leadership roles.
Philosophical Journal
Personal writings where someone records their thoughts, struggles, and lessons learned. Marcus never intended these reflections to be published - they were private exercises in self-improvement.
Modern Usage:
Like keeping a diary, gratitude journal, or writing in a therapy workbook to process thoughts and track personal growth.
Virtue Ethics
A moral philosophy that focuses on character rather than rules or consequences. It asks 'What would a good person do?' rather than 'What rule should I follow?' or 'What outcome do I want?'
Modern Usage:
We use this when we ask ourselves 'What's the right thing to do?' or try to live up to role models we admire.
Characters in This Chapter
Marcus Aurelius
Narrator and protagonist
The Roman Emperor writing these personal reflections. In this chapter, he systematically thanks everyone who influenced his character, showing remarkable humility for someone with absolute power.
Modern Equivalent:
The successful CEO who still credits their teachers and mentors
Antoninus Pius
Adoptive father and mentor
The previous emperor who adopted and trained Marcus. Marcus credits him with teaching work ethic, authenticity, and how to lead without becoming corrupted by power.
Modern Equivalent:
The boss who actually walks the talk and teaches by example
Verus
Grandfather figure
Marcus credits him with teaching gentleness and emotional control. He learned from Verus how to avoid anger and maintain dignity even under pressure.
Modern Equivalent:
The grandparent who stays calm no matter what chaos is happening around them
His Mother
Moral teacher
Marcus thanks her for teaching him piety and generosity, and for showing him how to avoid not just wrongdoing but even the thought of wrongdoing.
Modern Equivalent:
The parent who teaches you to do the right thing even when no one is watching
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to distinguish between authentic authority and insecure posturing by watching how people treat their influences.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone in authority acknowledges their teachers versus when they act self-made—you'll quickly see who has real confidence and who's overcompensating.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"From my grandfather Verus I learned good morals and the government of my temper."
Context: Opening his gratitude list by acknowledging his grandfather's influence
This sets the tone for the entire chapter - Marcus recognizes that character is taught, not innate. He's crediting others for shaping who he became, showing humility despite his power.
In Today's Words:
My grandfather taught me how to be a good person and keep my cool under pressure.
"From my mother, piety and beneficence, and abstinence, not only from evil deeds, but even from evil thoughts."
Context: Acknowledging his mother's moral influence on his character
This reveals Marcus's belief that true virtue goes beyond just avoiding bad actions - it means not even entertaining bad thoughts. It shows the depth of character training he received.
In Today's Words:
My mom taught me to be respectful and generous, and to not even think about doing wrong things.
"From Antoninus: to be neither over-heated in anything, nor yet indifferent, but to be the same in all cases of sickness and other troubles."
Context: Describing lessons learned from his adoptive father about emotional balance
This captures the Stoic ideal of emotional equilibrium - not being overwhelmed by highs or lows, but maintaining steady character regardless of circumstances.
In Today's Words:
My dad taught me not to get too worked up about anything or too checked out, but to stay steady whether things are going great or falling apart.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Earned Authority
True power comes from acknowledging your influences rather than projecting self-made success.
Thematic Threads
Class
In This Chapter
Marcus, despite ultimate power, positions himself as a student of everyone from family members to teachers
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might notice how acknowledging what you learned from coworkers or family members actually increases your credibility rather than diminishing it
Identity
In This Chapter
He defines himself not by his achievements but by what he's learned from others
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might see how your identity becomes more solid when you acknowledge the people who shaped your values and skills
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Defies the expectation that powerful people should project self-sufficiency
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might recognize pressure to appear like you have everything figured out when asking for help or advice would be more effective
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Growth comes from recognizing and integrating lessons from multiple sources
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might notice that your biggest breakthroughs happen when you can identify exactly what someone else taught you
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Relationships are viewed as sources of wisdom rather than just social connections
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might see how treating interactions as learning opportunities strengthens bonds rather than making you appear needy
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Michael's story...
Maya just got promoted to shift supervisor at the medical supply warehouse, and her first instinct is to prove she deserves it by acting like she's always been management material. But watching her former coworkers roll their eyes when she starts giving orders, she remembers something her grandmother used to say about people who forget where they came from. Instead of pretending she figured everything out herself, Maya decides to do something different. At the next team meeting, she publicly thanks Tom for teaching her inventory systems, acknowledges Rosa for showing her how to handle difficult vendors, and credits her previous supervisor for demonstrating how to stay calm during crisis shipments. Her crew stops seeing her as a sellout and starts seeing her as someone who remembers her roots. When corporate visits and asks how she turned around team morale so quickly, Maya doesn't take credit—she explains exactly which team members taught her which strategies. Six months later, when they offer her district manager, she knows she earned it the right way.
The Road
The road Michael Aurelius walked in 180 AD, Maya walks today. The pattern is identical: real authority comes from acknowledging your teachers rather than pretending you're self-made.
The Map
This chapter provides a framework for building authentic leadership through strategic gratitude. Maya can use Michael's practice of systematically crediting influences to stay grounded and build genuine team loyalty.
Amplification
Before reading this, Maya might have thought leadership meant projecting strength and independence. Now she can NAME the earned authority pattern, PREDICT that crediting others builds rather than undermines her power, and NAVIGATE her new role by staying connected to her actual sources of knowledge.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Marcus lists specific people who influenced him and exactly what they taught him. Why do you think he starts his personal journal this way instead of focusing on his own achievements?
analysis • surface - 2
He mentions learning not to get caught up in 'meaningless controversies' like sports rivalries. What drives people to invest emotional energy in things that don't actually affect their daily lives?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about leaders you respect versus ones you don't. How do they handle giving credit to others? What pattern do you notice?
application • medium - 4
Marcus prepares each morning to deal with difficult people by reminding himself they're just doing what they think is right. How could this mindset change how you handle your most challenging relationships?
application • deep - 5
An emperor with absolute power chooses to focus on gratitude and humility in his private thoughts. What does this reveal about what actually makes people feel secure versus insecure?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Influence Network
Create Marcus's gratitude list for your own life. Write down 5-7 people who shaped who you are today, then beside each name, write the specific skill, attitude, or lesson they gave you. Don't just list family members - include teachers, coworkers, even difficult people who taught you what not to do.
Consider:
- •Include both positive and challenging influences - Marcus learned from everyone
- •Be specific about what each person taught you, not just general 'they were nice'
- •Notice which influences you've never acknowledged out loud
Journaling Prompt
Write about one person on your list who doesn't know how they influenced you. What would you tell them if you had the chance? How might acknowledging their influence change your relationship with them or with that lesson they taught you?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 2: Time Is Running Out
The coming pages reveal to treat every action as if it might be your last, and teach us external events can't truly harm your inner self. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.