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CHAPTER LXXV. “Le sentiment de la fausseté des plaisirs présents, et l’ignorance de la vanité des plaisirs absents causent l’inconstance.”—PASCAL. Rosamond had a gleam of returning cheerfulness when the house was freed from the threatening figure, and when all the disagreeable creditors were paid. But she was not joyous: her married life had fulfilled none of her hopes, and had been quite spoiled for her imagination. In this brief interval of calm, Lydgate, remembering that he had often been stormy in his hours of perturbation, and mindful of the pain Rosamond had had to bear, was carefully gentle towards her; but he, too, had lost some of his old spirit, and he still felt it necessary to refer to an economical change in their way of living as a matter of course, trying to reconcile her to it gradually, and repressing his anger when she answered by wishing that he would go to live in London. When she did not make this answer, she listened languidly, and wondered what she had that was worth living for. The hard and contemptuous words which had fallen from her husband in his anger had deeply offended that vanity which he had at first called into active enjoyment; and what she regarded as his perverse way of looking at things, kept up a secret repulsion, which made her receive all his tenderness as a poor substitute for the happiness he had failed to give her. They were at a disadvantage with their neighbors, and...
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Summary
Rosamond briefly feels hopeful when their debts are paid, but her marriage remains deeply unsatisfying. She's been fantasizing about Will Ladislaw, imagining he secretly prefers her to Dorothea and dreaming of a romantic arrangement where he'd always be available to her. When Will writes that he might visit Middlemarch, Rosamond lights up with anticipation. But her mood crashes when she tries to throw a dinner party and everyone declines the invitations. She doesn't understand why until her parents reveal the scandal about Bulstrode and Lydgate's connection to it. The news devastates her—not because she believes Lydgate is guilty, but because of the shame and social isolation it brings. She feels trapped: she can't contemplate returning to her parents' house as a failed wife, but staying means enduring disgrace. Meanwhile, Lydgate struggles with whether to tell Rosamond everything, hoping she might show some faith in him. When he finally tries to have an honest conversation, Rosamond immediately pivots to demanding they move to London. Frustrated and hurt by her lack of support, Lydgate walks out. Both retreat into silence, each feeling justified in their resentment. The chapter reveals how couples can become completely isolated from each other even while living in the same house, and how external pressures can expose the fundamental weaknesses in a relationship.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Social ostracism
When a community deliberately excludes someone from social activities and relationships as punishment or rejection. In Victorian times, this could completely destroy a family's standing and opportunities.
Modern Usage:
We see this in cancel culture, workplace shunning, or when someone becomes 'persona non grata' in their social circle.
Scandal by association
Being damaged socially or professionally because of your connection to someone who's done something wrong, even if you're innocent. Victorian society was particularly harsh about this.
Modern Usage:
Like when a politician's family members lose jobs because of the politician's corruption, or when you're judged for staying friends with someone controversial.
Marital emotional distance
When spouses live together but become strangers, each nursing private grievances and unable to communicate honestly. They go through the motions while feeling completely alone.
Modern Usage:
The modern term is 'living like roommates' - couples who've stopped really talking and just coexist in the same space.
Romantic fantasy
Creating elaborate daydreams about someone who represents escape from your current life problems. The fantasy person becomes perfect because they're not real or available.
Modern Usage:
Like having a crush on a coworker or celebrity and imagining they'd solve all your relationship problems.
Pride preventing honesty
When your ego stops you from admitting problems or asking for help, even when hiding the truth makes everything worse. You'd rather suffer alone than look weak.
Modern Usage:
Like refusing to admit your marriage is failing, or not telling family you're struggling financially because you don't want to look like a failure.
Financial shame
The humiliation and social anxiety that comes with money problems, especially when you've lived beyond your means or lost status. It affects how others treat you and how you see yourself.
Modern Usage:
Like having to move back in with parents, losing your house to foreclosure, or not being able to afford the lifestyle your friends expect.
Characters in This Chapter
Rosamond Lydgate
Protagonist struggling with disillusionment
She briefly hopes things are improving when debts are paid, but quickly sinks back into disappointment with her marriage. She fantasizes about Will Ladislaw and is devastated by social rejection when the scandal hits.
Modern Equivalent:
The Instagram wife whose perfect life is falling apart behind the scenes
Tertius Lydgate
Struggling husband seeking support
He tries to be gentle with Rosamond while dealing with their changed circumstances, but becomes frustrated when she shows no faith in him during the scandal. He walks out when she demands they move to London instead of facing their problems.
Modern Equivalent:
The husband working two jobs whose wife complains he's not providing enough
Will Ladislaw
Object of romantic fantasy
Though not physically present, his potential visit gives Rosamond hope and excitement. She imagines he secretly prefers her to Dorothea and fantasizes about having him always available to her.
Modern Equivalent:
The 'what if' person you keep in touch with on social media who represents the life you didn't choose
Mr. and Mrs. Vincy
Bearers of bad news
Rosamond's parents reveal the scandal about Bulstrode and Lydgate's connection to it, explaining why everyone declined their dinner invitations. They represent the social judgment Rosamond fears.
Modern Equivalent:
The family members who have to tell you everyone's talking about your business
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to identify when couples stop facing problems together and start competing over who's suffering more.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you and your partner start explaining why your stress is worse than theirs—that's the warning sign to shift from competing to collaborating.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Her married life had fulfilled none of her hopes, and had been quite spoiled for her imagination."
Context: Describing Rosamond's state of mind even after their immediate financial crisis passes
This shows how Rosamond's disappointment goes deeper than money problems. She married Lydgate expecting a fairy tale life, and reality has crushed those dreams completely.
In Today's Words:
Marriage turned out nothing like she thought it would, and now she can't even pretend it might get better.
"What she regarded as his perverse way of looking at things, kept up a secret repulsion, which made her receive all his tenderness as a poor substitute for the happiness he had failed to give her."
Context: Explaining why Rosamond can't appreciate Lydgate's efforts to be gentle with her
This reveals how resentment poisons everything in a relationship. Even when Lydgate tries to be kind, Rosamond sees it as inadequate because she's already decided he's failed her.
In Today's Words:
She was so mad at him for not being the husband she wanted that even when he was nice, it felt fake and not good enough.
"She could not contemplate herself in such a position as that of a woman who had been married and had returned to live with her parents."
Context: Rosamond considering her options after learning about the scandal
This shows how social expectations trap people in bad situations. Rosamond feels she can't leave her marriage because being a 'failed wife' would be even more shameful than staying in an unhappy one.
In Today's Words:
She couldn't handle the embarrassment of moving back home like her marriage didn't work out.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Mutual Justification
When facing shared stress, people retreat into separate bubbles of justified resentment, each convinced they're reasonable while their partner is impossible.
Thematic Threads
Communication
In This Chapter
Lydgate and Rosamond completely fail to connect—he can't share his fears, she can't express her real needs
Development
Evolved from earlier financial tensions into complete emotional isolation
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you and your partner start having the same fight over and over without ever addressing what's really wrong.
Class
In This Chapter
Rosamond's horror at social disgrace reveals how deeply class anxiety shapes her identity and choices
Development
Developed from her early social climbing to now facing potential social exile
In Your Life:
You might feel this when worried about what neighbors or coworkers think affects your major life decisions.
Fantasy
In This Chapter
Rosamond escapes marital disappointment by fantasizing about Will Ladislaw as her devoted admirer
Development
Evolved from romantic daydreams about marriage to escapist fantasies about other men
In Your Life:
You might notice this when you find yourself daydreaming about a different life instead of working on the one you have.
Isolation
In This Chapter
The couple becomes completely emotionally isolated despite living in the same house
Development
Developed from financial stress into complete breakdown of intimacy and support
In Your Life:
You might experience this when you feel lonelier in your relationship than when you're actually alone.
Shame
In This Chapter
Both partners feel ashamed—Lydgate of the scandal, Rosamond of potential social fall—but can't share this vulnerability
Development
Introduced here as external scandal forces internal reckoning
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when pride prevents you from admitting you're scared or hurt to the person closest to you.
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Dorothy's story...
Maya thought the promotion to shift supervisor would fix everything—better pay, respect, a chance to implement her patient care ideas. Instead, she's caught in the middle of a staffing scandal where administration cut corners and someone got hurt. Her marriage to Jake is cracking under the pressure. While he works double shifts to cover their bills, she fantasizes about David from the day shift—someone who actually listens to her ideas and makes her feel competent again. When David mentions he might transfer to nights, Maya feels a spark of hope. But then her coworkers start avoiding her, blaming her for the new policies she's forced to enforce. The isolation hits hard. Jake tries to talk about their problems, but Maya immediately deflects to her dream of transferring to a better hospital across town. 'You never support my career,' she snaps. Jake walks out, frustrated. They're both drowning in separate resentments, each convinced the other just doesn't understand the pressure they're under. Maya stares at her phone, David's number saved but not called, wondering how everything went so wrong so fast.
The Road
The road Rosamond walked in 1871, Maya walks today. The pattern is identical: external crisis exposes the fundamental cracks in a relationship, driving each partner into separate bubbles of justified resentment.
The Map
This chapter provides a map for recognizing when couples retreat into competing victimhood instead of facing problems together. Maya can use it to spot the warning signs before the pattern becomes entrenched.
Amplification
Before reading this, Maya might have blamed Jake for not understanding her stress or fantasized that David would solve her problems. Now she can NAME the retreat pattern, PREDICT where separate resentments lead, and NAVIGATE back toward shared problem-solving.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific behaviors does each spouse use to cope with their crisis, and how do these behaviors affect the other person?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Rosamond's fantasy about Will Ladislaw become more appealing precisely when her real marriage is struggling?
analysis • medium - 3
Where have you seen this pattern of 'justified resentment' play out in workplaces, families, or friendships today?
application • medium - 4
If you were counseling this couple, what specific steps would you suggest to break their cycle of mutual withdrawal?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about how external pressure can expose the hidden weaknesses in any relationship?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Rewrite the Conversation
Take the moment when Lydgate tries to have an honest conversation with Rosamond about their situation. Rewrite this scene showing how it could have gone differently if both people focused on their shared problem instead of defending their individual positions. What would they need to say to actually connect instead of retreating into separate corners?
Consider:
- •How might each person acknowledge their own contribution to the problem?
- •What questions could they ask to understand each other's fears rather than judge each other's responses?
- •How could they identify what they both need instead of what they each want?
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you and someone important to you got stuck in a cycle of justified resentment. What was each person really afraid of underneath the surface conflict? How might you handle a similar situation differently now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 76: The Weight of Belief and Burden
As the story unfolds, you'll explore genuine belief from others can restore our sense of self-worth, while uncovering financial independence affects our ability to make moral choices. These lessons connect the classic to contemporary challenges we all face.