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NOT TO COMMUNICATE A MAN’S HONOUR Of all the follies of the world, that which is most universally received is the solicitude of reputation and glory; which we are fond of to that degree as to abandon riches, peace, life, and health, which are effectual and substantial goods, to pursue this vain phantom and empty word, that has neither body nor hold to be taken of it: La fama, ch’invaghisce a un dolce suono Gli superbi mortali, et par si bella, E un eco, un sogno, anzi d’un sogno un’ombra, Ch’ad ogni vento si dilegua a sgombra.” [“Fame, which with alluring sound charms proud mortals, and appears so fair, is but an echo, a dream, nay, the shadow of a dream, which at every breath vanishes and dissolves.” --Tasso, Gerus., xiv. 63.] And of all the irrational humours of men, it should seem that the philosophers themselves are among the last and the most reluctant to disengage themselves from this: ‘tis the most restive and obstinate of all: “Quia etiam bene proficientes animos tentare non cessat.” [“Because it ceases not to assail even well-directed minds” --St. Augustin, De Civit. Dei, v. 14.] There is not any one of which reason so clearly accuses the vanity; but it is so deeply rooted in us that I dare not determine whether any one ever clearly discharged himself from it or no. After you have said all and believed all has been said to its prejudice, it produces so intestine an inclination in...
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Summary
Montaigne tackles one of humanity's most persistent weaknesses: our desperate need for recognition and glory. He argues that fame is nothing but an empty echo, yet even philosophers can't shake their hunger for it. Most people guard their reputation like treasure, refusing to share credit with anyone else. But Montaigne presents fascinating examples of leaders who deliberately gave away their glory to achieve something greater. A Roman general pretends to be a coward so his fleeing soldiers can save face by 'following' rather than abandoning him. A Spanish advisor publicly opposes his emperor's military plan, knowing it will succeed, so the emperor gets full credit for the brilliant strategy. A Spartan mother deflects praise for her dead war-hero son, insisting the city has many greater citizens. King Edward refuses to rescue his young son during battle, knowing that any help would steal the boy's chance at earning his own victory. These aren't just noble gestures—they're strategic moves that actually increase influence and respect. The chapter reveals how our ego often works against us, while those wise enough to share or sacrifice their glory often end up with more genuine power and lasting impact. Montaigne shows that the people most obsessed with their image are often the least respected, while those who elevate others become truly memorable themselves.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Vain phantom
Montaigne's term for reputation and fame - something that seems real and valuable but is actually empty and meaningless. He argues that people sacrifice real things (money, peace, health) for this illusion that has no substance.
Modern Usage:
We see this when people go into debt for designer clothes or risk their jobs for social media fame.
Intestine inclination
An internal, gut-level drive that's hard to control or resist. Montaigne uses this to describe how the desire for recognition comes from deep inside us, even when we know it's foolish.
Modern Usage:
That feeling when you can't help checking how many likes your post got, even though you know it doesn't really matter.
Strategic self-effacement
Deliberately downplaying your own role or achievements to gain something more valuable - respect, loyalty, or long-term influence. It's the opposite of bragging.
Modern Usage:
When a good manager gives their team credit for success, knowing it makes them more respected as a leader.
Shared glory
The practice of dividing credit and recognition with others instead of hoarding it all for yourself. Montaigne shows how this counterintuitively increases your own reputation.
Modern Usage:
Successful coaches who celebrate their players' achievements often become more famous than those who take all the credit.
Reputation anxiety
The constant worry about what others think of you and how you appear to the world. Montaigne sees this as a universal human weakness that even wise people struggle with.
Modern Usage:
The stress of maintaining your image on social media or at work, always wondering if you're being judged.
Noble deception
Lying or pretending for a good cause, especially to protect someone else's dignity or achieve a greater good. The examples show leaders who fake cowardice or opposition to help others.
Modern Usage:
When a parent pretends their child came up with a good idea to boost the kid's confidence.
Characters in This Chapter
The Roman general
Strategic leader
Pretends to flee in battle so his retreating soldiers can follow him instead of appearing to abandon him. He sacrifices his immediate reputation to save his army and ultimately achieves greater respect.
Modern Equivalent:
The manager who takes the blame for a team failure to protect their employees
The Spanish counselor
Wise advisor
Publicly opposes his emperor's military strategy, knowing it will work, so the emperor gets full credit for the success. He loses the argument but gains the emperor's trust and respect.
Modern Equivalent:
The consultant who lets the CEO think the winning idea was theirs
The Spartan mother
Humble parent
When praised for her war-hero son, she deflects the honor by saying the city has many greater citizens. Her humility actually makes both her and her son more respected.
Modern Equivalent:
The parent who says their successful kid had great teachers and teammates
King Edward
Patient mentor
Refuses to help his young son in battle, knowing that any assistance would rob the boy of earning his own victory and reputation. He prioritizes his son's growth over immediate safety.
Modern Equivalent:
The parent who lets their teenager handle their own problems instead of swooping in to fix everything
The young prince
Emerging warrior
King Edward's son who must prove himself in battle without his father's help. His eventual victory means more because he earned it alone, establishing his own reputation.
Modern Equivalent:
The young employee who has to succeed on their own merits rather than relying on family connections
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when someone's desperate need for recognition actually weakens their influence and when strategic humility builds real authority.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when people around you grab credit or deflect blame - watch how others respond to these moves and what it reveals about genuine versus artificial power.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Fame, which with alluring sound charms proud mortals, and appears so fair, is but an echo, a dream, nay, the shadow of a dream, which at every breath vanishes and dissolves."
Context: Opening the chapter to establish how empty reputation really is
This poetic description captures how fame seems beautiful and real but is actually the flimsiest thing imaginable - not even a dream, but a dream's shadow. It sets up the entire argument about why chasing glory is foolish.
In Today's Words:
Fame looks amazing but it's basically nothing - less real than a dream, and it disappears the moment someone stops paying attention.
"There is not any one of which reason so clearly accuses the vanity; but it is so deeply rooted in us that I dare not determine whether any one ever clearly discharged himself from it or no."
Context: Explaining why even smart people can't escape wanting recognition
Montaigne admits this is a universal human weakness - even when we know logically that fame is meaningless, we still crave it. This honest self-awareness makes his argument more credible.
In Today's Words:
Everyone knows caring about your image is stupid, but it's so built into us that I'm not sure anyone has ever completely gotten over it.
"The city has many better citizens than he."
Context: When people praise her for her heroic son's death in battle
This simple response shows perfect understanding of how to handle praise - by spreading it around instead of hoarding it. Her humility actually makes her son's sacrifice seem even more meaningful.
In Today's Words:
There are lots of people here better than my son.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Glory Trap - Why Hoarding Recognition Backfires
The more desperately we cling to recognition and credit, the less genuine respect and influence we actually earn.
Thematic Threads
Recognition
In This Chapter
Montaigne explores how our hunger for fame and credit often defeats itself, while strategic sharing of glory builds real power
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might notice this when you feel defensive about getting credit at work or when someone else gets praised for something you contributed to
Strategic Sacrifice
In This Chapter
Leaders who deliberately give away glory to achieve greater goals, like the general who played coward or the advisor who opposed his emperor
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might use this when choosing to let your teenager take credit for a family solution they helped create, building their confidence
Ego Management
In This Chapter
The chapter shows how uncontrolled ego destroys relationships while managed ego builds influence and loyalty
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might catch yourself interrupting colleagues to correct them or feeling resentful when others get recognition you think you deserve
True Leadership
In This Chapter
Real leaders elevate others and share credit, understanding that their power grows when their people succeed
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might apply this as a parent, mentor, or team member by publicly praising others' contributions instead of highlighting your own
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Arthur's story...
Arthur's department chair position comes with a catch - the previous chair left behind a mess of failed initiatives and angry faculty. At the first department meeting, Arthur could easily blame his predecessor and distance himself from the problems. Instead, he does something unexpected. When a senior professor criticizes the botched curriculum changes, Arthur responds: 'You're absolutely right. These decisions reflect poor leadership judgment.' He doesn't specify whose judgment. When another colleague praises the one successful program, Arthur immediately credits the faculty member who actually developed it, even though taking credit would boost his reputation. His colleagues watch this carefully - they've seen new chairs throw predecessors under the bus before. But Arthur's approach signals something different. By absorbing criticism that isn't entirely his and deflecting praise he could claim, he's making a strategic choice about the kind of leader he wants to be. The faculty begins to trust him with their real concerns instead of their diplomatic versions.
The Road
The road Montaigne's Roman general walked in ancient times, Arthur walks today in academia. The pattern is identical: true leadership sometimes requires sacrificing personal glory to build something larger than yourself.
The Map
This chapter provides a map for reading the difference between ego-driven leadership and strategic humility. Arthur can use it to recognize when protecting others' dignity serves his long-term influence better than protecting his reputation.
Amplification
Before reading this, Arthur might have felt pressured to establish dominance by distancing himself from past failures and claiming credit for any successes. Now he can NAME the Glory Trap, PREDICT how credit-hoarding destroys trust, and NAVIGATE toward building genuine authority through strategic generosity.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific examples does Montaigne give of leaders who deliberately gave away their glory, and what did they achieve by doing this?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does the Roman general's strategy of pretending to be a coward actually work better than trying to rally his troops with brave speeches?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about your workplace or family - who gets more genuine respect: the person who always takes credit, or the person who shares it? What examples have you seen?
application • medium - 4
When you feel that desperate need for recognition, what's usually driving it? How could you get what you actually want without falling into the Glory Trap?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about the difference between appearing powerful and actually being powerful?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Credit Audit: Map Your Glory Patterns
Think of three recent situations where you wanted recognition - at work, home, or socially. For each situation, write down what you actually did to get credit, what happened as a result, and what you could have done differently using Montaigne's strategic generosity approach. Look for patterns in your own behavior.
Consider:
- •Notice the difference between wanting credit and wanting results
- •Consider how others responded to your credit-seeking behavior
- •Think about times when sharing credit actually increased your influence
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone gave you credit you didn't fully deserve, or when someone took credit that should have been yours. How did each situation make you feel about that person? What does this tell you about the real cost of the Glory Trap?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 42: True Worth Beyond Status and Wealth
The coming pages reveal to evaluate people by their character rather than their possessions or titles, and teach us external markers of success often mask inner emptiness or weakness. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.