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CHAPTER XVIII. LIKES AND DISLIKES. “My heart revolts within me, and two voices Make themselves audible within my bosom.” WALLENSTEIN. On Margaret’s return home she found two letters on the table: one was a note for her mother,—the other, which had come by the post, was evidently from her aunt Shaw—covered with foreign post-marks—thin, silvery, and rustling. She took up the other, and was examining it, when her father came in suddenly: “So your mother is tired, and gone to bed early! I’m afraid, such a thundery day was not the best in the world for the doctor to see her. What did he say? Dixon tells me he spoke to you about her.” Margaret hesitated. Her father’s looks became more grave and anxious: “He does not think her seriously ill?” “Not at present; she needs care, he says; he was very kind, and he said he would call again, and see how his medicines worked.” “Only care?—he did not recommend change of air?—he did not say this smoky town was doing her any harm, did he, Margaret?” “No! not a word,” she replied, gravely. “He was anxious, I think.” “Doctors have that anxious manner; it’s professional,” said he. Margaret saw, in her father’s nervous ways, that the first impression of possible danger was made upon his mind, in spite of all his making light of what she told him. He could not forget the subject,—could not pass from it to other things; he kept recurring to it through the...
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Summary
Margaret returns home to find her father desperately trying to convince himself that her mother isn't seriously ill, despite the doctor's obvious concern. His repeated questions about diet and care reveal his terror, even as he insists everything will be fine. Meanwhile, an invitation arrives from Mrs. Thornton for dinner, and Margaret's parents eagerly accept—her mother clinging to any diversion from her illness, her father grasping at proof she's getting better. At the Thornton house, the family discusses their guests with typical class prejudices. Mrs. Thornton finds Margaret prideful and presumptuous, while Fanny dismisses her as unaccomplished. Most tellingly, John Thornton asks his mother to be kind to Margaret, claiming he foresees trouble for her—but his mother sees right through his supposed disinterest. The chapter ends with Thornton pacing his study, furious about an impending workers' strike. His men and others are walking out over wages, and he's caught between economic reality and principle. American competition is driving prices down, but the workers want the higher wages of three years ago. Thornton sees the strike as economic suicide for everyone involved, but he's prepared to bring in Irish workers rather than give in. The personal and political tensions are building—denial about Mrs. Hale's condition, unspoken feelings between Margaret and Thornton, and the coming confrontation between workers and masters that will test everyone's principles.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Denial
The psychological defense mechanism where someone refuses to accept painful reality, often creating elaborate explanations to avoid facing the truth. In this chapter, Mr. Hale desperately tries to convince himself his wife isn't seriously ill despite clear evidence otherwise.
Modern Usage:
We see this when people refuse to acknowledge relationship problems, financial troubles, or health issues until they become unavoidable.
Class prejudice
Preconceived negative judgments about people based on their social or economic position. The Thorntons automatically assume Margaret is inferior because she's a clergyman's daughter without money, while also resenting her perceived pride.
Modern Usage:
This shows up today in assumptions about people based on their job, education, neighborhood, or income level.
Labor strike
When workers collectively refuse to work until their demands for better wages or conditions are met. In 1850s England, strikes were risky and often violent, with masters bringing in replacement workers to break them.
Modern Usage:
Modern strikes follow similar patterns - workers unite for better conditions while management seeks alternatives to avoid meeting demands.
Economic competition
When businesses must lower prices to compete with rivals, often forcing them to cut costs including worker wages. American cotton mills are undercutting English factories, creating the wage pressure driving this strike.
Modern Usage:
Today we see this with global competition forcing companies to reduce costs, often affecting worker pay and benefits.
Social positioning
The way people present themselves to maintain or improve their status in society. Margaret's parents eagerly accept the dinner invitation as proof they belong in respectable society, despite their reduced circumstances.
Modern Usage:
This appears in social media presentations, keeping up appearances despite financial stress, or accepting invitations to maintain social connections.
Emotional displacement
Redirecting strong emotions from their true source onto something else. Thornton channels his conflicted feelings about Margaret into anger about the strike, which feels safer to express.
Modern Usage:
We do this when we snap at family after a bad day at work, or get unusually angry about minor issues when dealing with bigger problems.
Characters in This Chapter
Mr. Hale
Anxious father in denial
He desperately tries to convince himself his wife isn't seriously ill, asking repeated questions about the doctor's visit while claiming doctors are just naturally anxious. His nervous behavior reveals his terror despite his words.
Modern Equivalent:
The parent who insists everything's fine while frantically googling symptoms
Margaret Hale
Protective daughter
She tries to shield her father from the full truth about her mother's condition while managing her own fears. She's caught between honesty and kindness, bearing the emotional burden alone.
Modern Equivalent:
The family member who handles all the medical appointments and bad news
Mrs. Thornton
Judgmental matriarch
She immediately dislikes Margaret, seeing her as proud and presumptuous despite her reduced circumstances. Her class prejudices make her suspicious of anyone who doesn't show proper deference to their social superiors.
Modern Equivalent:
The boss's wife who thinks the new employee is 'too big for their britches'
John Thornton
Conflicted mill owner
He asks his mother to be kind to Margaret, claiming he foresees trouble for her, but his concern reveals deeper feelings. He's also furious about the impending strike, caught between economic reality and principle.
Modern Equivalent:
The CEO who's personally invested in an employee while dealing with company-wide labor issues
Mrs. Hale
Ailing mother seeking distraction
Though physically present only briefly, her eagerness to accept the dinner invitation shows her desperate need for normalcy and social connection despite her declining health.
Modern Equivalent:
The chronically ill person who insists on maintaining social activities
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to spot when people use obsessive control over small details to avoid facing larger, painful truths.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone keeps asking the same question repeatedly—they're probably trying to bargain with reality rather than accept it.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Doctors have that anxious manner; it's professional"
Context: When Margaret tells him the doctor seemed concerned about her mother
This reveals Mr. Hale's desperate need to rationalize away any signs that his wife is seriously ill. He's creating explanations to avoid facing the truth, showing how fear can make us dismiss even obvious warning signs.
In Today's Words:
That's just how doctors act - they always seem worried about everything
"I foresee trouble for her"
Context: Asking his mother to be kind to Margaret
Thornton's claim to foresee trouble masks his growing personal interest in Margaret. His mother sees through this pretense, recognizing that his concern comes from attraction, not mere prediction.
In Today's Words:
I think she's going to have a hard time
"She's too proud by half for her circumstances"
Context: Discussing Margaret with her family
This shows the class prejudice that expects people in reduced circumstances to be humble and grateful. Mrs. Thornton resents Margaret's dignity, seeing it as inappropriate for someone without money or status.
In Today's Words:
She acts like she's better than she is given her situation
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Protective Denial - When Love Makes Us Lie
When fear of loss drives us to focus on controllable details while avoiding uncontrollable truths.
Thematic Threads
Denial
In This Chapter
Mr. Hale frantically seeks medical reassurance while Mrs. Hale clings to social normalcy despite her obvious illness
Development
Introduced here as a coping mechanism for unbearable truth
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you keep asking the same questions about a situation you already know the answer to.
Class Prejudice
In This Chapter
The Thorntons judge Margaret as prideful and unaccomplished based on her southern origins and lack of fashionable skills
Development
Continues from earlier chapters, now showing how it operates in social settings
In Your Life:
You see this when people dismiss others based on zip code, accent, or educational background rather than character.
Economic Pressure
In This Chapter
Thornton faces impossible choice between worker demands and American competition driving down prices
Development
Introduced here as the brewing conflict that will test everyone's principles
In Your Life:
You experience this when caught between employee needs and business reality, or when market forces threaten your livelihood.
Unspoken Feelings
In This Chapter
Thornton claims disinterest in Margaret while asking his mother to be kind to her, revealing his true concern
Development
Develops from earlier attraction, now showing how denial affects romantic feelings
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you find excuses to help someone you claim not to care about.
Pride
In This Chapter
Margaret is perceived as prideful by the Thorntons, while Thornton's own pride prevents him from admitting his feelings
Development
Continues as a barrier between characters and classes
In Your Life:
You see this when your need to appear strong prevents you from accepting help or admitting vulnerability.
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Margaret's story...
Margaret rushes home from the legal aid office to find her father obsessively researching her mother's cancer diagnosis online, printing out diet plans and supplement reviews. He keeps asking the same questions—did the oncologist say Stage 2 or Stage 3? What about that clinical trial in Chicago?—while her mother clings to an invitation to her sister's anniversary party as proof she's getting better. At the same time, Margaret's phone buzzes with a dinner invitation from the Thornton family—the tech CEO whose company she's investigating for labor violations. Her parents are thrilled; it means she's 'making connections' despite her mother's chemo schedule. Meanwhile, across town, Thornton paces his corner office as news breaks that warehouse workers at three major distribution centers are walking out over mandatory overtime policies. His board wants him to hire contract workers to break the strike, but Margaret's legal challenges have him caught between profit margins and a growing sense that she might be right about worker treatment.
The Road
The road Mr. Hale walked in 1854, Margaret walks today. The pattern is identical: denial becomes a fortress against unbearable truths, while class tensions simmer beneath social politeness.
The Map
This chapter provides the navigation tool of recognizing protective denial—both in families facing crisis and in systems resisting change. Margaret can use this to separate what requires immediate action from what needs patient acceptance.
Amplification
Before reading this, Margaret might have gotten frustrated with her father's endless questions or dismissed Thornton's dinner invitation as mere networking. Now she can NAME protective denial, PREDICT how it delays necessary conversations, and NAVIGATE by addressing the fear underneath the behavior.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
How does Mr. Hale respond to the doctor's concerns about his wife's health, and what does his behavior reveal about how he's processing this news?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Mrs. Hale eagerly accept the dinner invitation from Mrs. Thornton, and what does this tell us about how people cope with serious illness?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about a time when someone you knew faced bad news about health, job loss, or relationship problems. How did they react, and do you see similarities to the Hale family's responses?
application • medium - 4
When you're facing a situation you can't control, how do you distinguish between helpful action and protective denial? What strategies help you focus on what you actually can influence?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter suggest about why love sometimes makes us less able to face difficult truths rather than more able to handle them?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Denial Patterns
Think of a current situation in your life where you might be avoiding a difficult truth. Write down three questions you keep asking repeatedly, then identify what fear might be driving each question. Finally, separate what you can actually control in this situation from what you cannot control.
Consider:
- •Notice if you're seeking reassurance rather than genuine information
- •Pay attention to which aspects of the problem you focus on versus which you avoid
- •Consider whether your repeated questions are helping you take action or helping you avoid action
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you eventually had to face a truth you'd been avoiding. What finally helped you move from denial to acceptance, and what would you tell someone else going through a similar situation?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 19: Dreams and Desperate Realities
Moving forward, we'll examine class differences create invisible barriers even in friendship, and understand economic desperation can drive people to seemingly irrational choices. These insights bridge the gap between classic literature and modern experience.