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B20:019:001 etter is the poor that walketh in his integrity, than he that is perverse in his lips, and is a fool. 20:019:002 Also, that the soul be without knowledge, it is not good; and he that hasteth with his feet sinneth. 20:019:003 The foolishness of man perverteth his way: and his heart fretteth against the LORD. 20:019:004 Wealth maketh many friends; but the poor is separated from his neighbour. 20:019:005 A false witness shall not be unpunished, and he that speaketh lies shall not escape. 20:019:006 Many will intreat the favour of the prince: and every man is a friend to him that giveth gifts. 20:019:007 All the brethren of the poor do hate him: how much more do his friends go far from him? he pursueth them with words, yet they are wanting to him. 20:019:008 He that getteth wisdom loveth his own soul: he that keepeth understanding shall find good. 20:019:009 A false witness shall not be unpunished, and he that speaketh lies shall perish. 20:019:010 Delight is not seemly for a fool; much less for a servant to have rule over princes. 20:019:011 The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression. 20:019:012 The king's wrath is as the roaring of a lion; but his favour is as dew upon the grass. 20:019:013 A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. 20:019:014 House and riches are...
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Summary
This chapter cuts straight to uncomfortable truths about money and relationships. Solomon observes that wealth attracts friends while poverty repels them - even family members distance themselves from broke relatives. It's a harsh reality check about human nature that anyone who's experienced financial hardship recognizes immediately. But Solomon isn't just being cynical; he's preparing readers for these dynamics so they won't take them personally. The chapter also tackles anger management, noting that the ability to control your temper and overlook slights is actually a form of strength, not weakness. This connects to workplace dynamics where staying calm under pressure often determines who gets promoted. Solomon addresses parenting with equal directness, advocating for discipline while children are young enough to learn from it. He warns against repeatedly bailing out adults who make destructive choices - a pattern many working families know well when dealing with relatives struggling with addiction or irresponsibility. The chapter emphasizes that wisdom comes from listening to good advice, even when it's hard to hear. Solomon distinguishes between genuine kindness and people-pleasing, noting that a poor person with integrity beats a wealthy liar every time. Throughout, he balances realism about human nature with hope that people can learn and grow. The overall message: understand how the world actually works, protect yourself accordingly, but don't let cynicism destroy your capacity for genuine relationships and moral behavior.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Integrity
Moral wholeness where your actions match your values, especially when no one is watching. In Solomon's world, this meant keeping your word and dealing honestly even when it cost you financially.
Modern Usage:
We see this when someone returns extra change at the store or admits their mistake at work even though they could have gotten away with it.
False witness
Deliberately lying about someone else, especially in legal or formal settings. In ancient Israel, false testimony could literally get someone killed, so this was considered one of the worst crimes.
Modern Usage:
Today this shows up as lying on someone's job reference, spreading false rumors that damage someone's reputation, or giving false testimony in court.
Discretion
The wisdom to know when to speak and when to stay quiet, when to act and when to wait. Solomon sees this as a form of self-control that prevents you from making situations worse.
Modern Usage:
This is knowing not to text your ex when you're angry, or waiting to respond to that work email until you've cooled down.
Transgression
When someone crosses a line or violates a boundary, whether intentionally or not. Solomon argues that overlooking minor offenses shows strength, not weakness.
Modern Usage:
This happens when your coworker takes credit for your idea, or your friend shows up late again - choosing which battles are worth fighting.
Contentions
Ongoing arguments and conflicts, especially the kind that never seem to resolve. Solomon uses this to describe relationships where every conversation turns into a fight.
Modern Usage:
We see this in marriages where every discussion about money becomes a screaming match, or families where certain topics always explode into drama.
Prince/Ruler favor
The concept that powerful people are surrounded by people seeking their approval and benefits. Solomon observes how wealth and power change social dynamics.
Modern Usage:
This shows up when everyone wants to be friends with the boss, or how differently people treat you when you get a promotion versus when you're unemployed.
Characters in This Chapter
The poor man with integrity
Moral exemplar
Represents someone who chooses honesty over financial gain. Solomon uses him to show that character matters more than wealth, even though society often treats poor people badly.
Modern Equivalent:
The honest mechanic who tells you the cheap fix instead of selling you expensive repairs you don't need
The false witness
Antagonist figure
Someone who lies about others for personal gain. Solomon warns that this behavior will eventually catch up with them, even if they seem to get away with it initially.
Modern Equivalent:
The coworker who throws others under the bus to make themselves look good
The foolish son
Cautionary example
An adult child whose poor choices cause ongoing pain and financial drain for their parents. Solomon acknowledges this as one of life's hardest challenges for parents.
Modern Equivalent:
The adult kid who keeps asking for money to fix problems they created
The contentious wife
Difficult relationship partner
Represents someone who turns every interaction into conflict. Solomon compares living with constant arguing to water torture - it wears you down over time.
Modern Equivalent:
The partner who picks fights about everything and never lets anything go
The gift-giver/prince
Person with power and resources
Someone whose wealth and status attract people seeking favors. Solomon observes how money changes relationships and reveals people's true motivations.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who suddenly has lots of new 'friends' after winning the lottery
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when people's treatment of you shifts based on your perceived status or usefulness rather than your actual worth.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone's friendliness increases or decreases based on what you can do for them - this reveals who sees you as a person versus a resource.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Better is the poor that walketh in his integrity, than he that is perverse in his lips, and is a fool."
Context: Opening statement establishing the chapter's theme about character versus wealth
Solomon immediately challenges society's assumption that rich equals better. He's saying that a poor person who lives honestly is worth more than a wealthy person who lies and cheats. This would have been radical thinking in a world where poverty was seen as God's punishment.
In Today's Words:
I'd rather be broke and honest than rich and crooked.
"Wealth maketh many friends; but the poor is separated from his neighbour."
Context: Observing how money affects social relationships
This is Solomon being brutally honest about human nature. He's not saying this is right, just that it's reality. People gravitate toward those who can benefit them and avoid those who might need help. Understanding this prevents you from taking it personally when relationships change with your circumstances.
In Today's Words:
Money brings people around; being broke makes them disappear.
"The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression."
Context: Teaching about emotional control and conflict resolution
Solomon reframes self-control as strength rather than weakness. Being able to stay calm when provoked and choosing not to retaliate for minor slights shows wisdom and maturity. This is practical advice for workplace conflicts and family drama.
In Today's Words:
Keeping your cool when someone pisses you off shows real strength, and sometimes the best response is no response.
"A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping."
Context: Describing ongoing family relationship challenges
Solomon acknowledges two of the most painful ongoing stresses in family life. The comparison to water torture (continual dropping) shows how constant conflict wears people down over time. He's validating that these situations are genuinely difficult, not just minor annoyances.
In Today's Words:
A kid who keeps screwing up breaks their parent's heart, and living with someone who argues about everything is like water torture.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Fair-Weather Loyalty
People's loyalty and attention fluctuate based on your perceived value and circumstances rather than genuine connection.
Thematic Threads
Class
In This Chapter
Wealth creates artificial friendships while poverty reveals true relationships
Development
Building on earlier chapters about rich vs poor treatment
In Your Life:
Notice how differently people treat you when you're financially struggling versus doing well
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Relationships based on benefit versus character show different durability
Development
Deepens earlier themes about choosing companions wisely
In Your Life:
Evaluate your friendships - which ones would survive your worst day
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Self-control and the ability to overlook offenses as signs of maturity
Development
Continues emphasis on wisdom through restraint
In Your Life:
Your reputation at work often depends more on staying calm than being right
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Society expects the poor to be grateful and the rich to be generous
Development
Expands on how different classes face different behavioral expectations
In Your Life:
You're judged differently for the same actions depending on your economic status
Identity
In This Chapter
Better to be poor with integrity than wealthy through deception
Development
Reinforces core value of character over material success
In Your Life:
Your self-respect matters more than others' perception of your success
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following The Practical Sage's story...
Arthur thought he understood workplace politics until his promotion to shift supervisor got delayed indefinitely. Suddenly, coworkers who used to grab lunch with him started eating with the other supervisors instead. His girlfriend's family, who'd been hinting about marriage when they thought he was moving up, now questioned whether he was 'ambitious enough.' Even his own brother stopped asking for his opinion on family decisions. Meanwhile, his replacement hire - a young guy with a business degree but no floor experience - got fast-tracked to the position Arthur had been promised. Arthur watched as people who'd called him a friend began treating the new guy like their best buddy, laughing at his jokes and offering to cover his mistakes. The same relatives who'd bragged about Arthur's promotion now avoided mentioning work altogether. Arthur realized he was seeing something ugly but universal: how quickly people's loyalty shifted based on perceived status and usefulness.
The Road
The road Solomon walked in ancient Israel, Arthur walks today in a modern warehouse. The pattern is identical: when your perceived value drops, even close relationships cool off while people gravitate toward whoever seems to be rising.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for reading conditional loyalty. Arthur can now distinguish between relationships based on status versus character, and build his core circle accordingly.
Amplification
Before reading this, Arthur might have taken the social shifts personally and wondered what he'd done wrong. Now he can NAME the pattern of fair-weather loyalty, PREDICT who will stick around during setbacks, and NAVIGATE by investing in character-based relationships.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Solomon says wealth attracts friends while poverty repels them - even from family. What specific examples of this pattern have you witnessed?
analysis • surface - 2
Why do you think people unconsciously distance themselves from those facing financial hardship, even when they don't mean to be cruel?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this fair-weather loyalty pattern playing out today - in workplaces, social media, community groups, or family dynamics?
application • medium - 4
How would you build relationships that could survive your own tough times, and how would you identify people worth investing in during theirs?
application • deep - 5
Solomon balances brutal realism about human nature with hope that people can choose better. How do you stay realistic without becoming cynical?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Loyalty Network
Draw three circles: your good times circle (people who enjoy your company when things are going well), your crisis circle (people who would actually show up during real trouble), and your growth circle (people who challenge you to be better). Place names in each circle, noting overlaps. This isn't about judging people harshly - it's about seeing relationships clearly so you can invest your energy wisely.
Consider:
- •Some people are meant to be good-times friends, and that's perfectly fine
- •Your crisis circle might be smaller than expected - that's normal and valuable information
- •The people in your growth circle might not always feel comfortable to be around
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you discovered who your real friends were during a difficult period. What did that teach you about choosing relationships going forward?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 20: Hard Truths About Work and Character
In the next chapter, you'll discover shortcuts and deception always catch up with you, and learn to spot the difference between talkers and doers. These insights reveal timeless patterns that resonate in our own lives and relationships.