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XXXIX. The Miss Dashwoods had now been rather more than two months in town, and Marianne’s impatience to be gone increased every day. She sighed for the air, the liberty, the quiet of the country; and fancied that if any place could give her ease, Barton must do it. Elinor was hardly less anxious than herself for their removal, and only so much less bent on its being effected immediately, as that she was conscious of the difficulties of so long a journey, which Marianne could not be brought to acknowledge. She began, however, seriously to turn her thoughts towards its accomplishment, and had already mentioned their wishes to their kind hostess, who resisted them with all the eloquence of her good-will, when a plan was suggested, which, though detaining them from home yet a few weeks longer, appeared to Elinor altogether much more eligible than any other. The Palmers were to remove to Cleveland about the end of March, for the Easter holidays; and Mrs. Jennings, with both her friends, received a very warm invitation from Charlotte to go with them. This would not, in itself, have been sufficient for the delicacy of Miss Dashwood;—but it was inforced with so much real politeness by Mr. Palmer himself, as, joined to the very great amendment of his manners towards them since her sister had been known to be unhappy, induced her to accept it with pleasure. When she told Marianne what she had done, however, her first reply was not...
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Summary
Edward Ferrars finally arrives at Barton Cottage, and the moment Elinor has been dreading and hoping for is here. But instead of the passionate reunion she might have imagined, their meeting is awkward and stilted. Edward seems uncomfortable, almost guilty, and Elinor can't shake the feeling that something is terribly wrong. The conversation feels forced, like they're both dancing around something neither wants to address. When Lucy Steele's name comes up indirectly, Edward's reaction confirms Elinor's worst fears - he's still engaged to Lucy, still trapped in that secret commitment he made years ago. The weight of this knowledge sits between them like a wall. Elinor realizes that Edward's visit isn't about rekindling their connection; it's about him trying to do the honorable thing while being miserable about it. She watches him struggle with his duty versus his feelings, and her heart breaks not just for herself, but for him too. This chapter shows how sometimes love isn't enough when social expectations and prior commitments create impossible situations. Edward's torn between what his heart wants and what honor demands, while Elinor must watch the man she loves suffer while knowing she can't help him. It's a masterclass in how societal pressures can trap good people in situations that make everyone unhappy. The chapter reveals how different Edward and Willoughby are - where Willoughby abandoned responsibility for passion, Edward sacrifices happiness for duty, and somehow both choices lead to heartbreak.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Secret engagement
A binding promise to marry that was kept hidden from families and society. In Austen's time, engagements were almost as legally and socially binding as marriage itself, making them nearly impossible to break without scandal.
Modern Usage:
Like being in a relationship you can't publicly acknowledge because of family disapproval or workplace policies - you're committed but trapped by circumstances.
Duty versus desire
The conflict between what you're supposed to do according to social expectations and what you actually want to do. This was a central theme in Austen's world where personal happiness often had to be sacrificed for family honor or social standing.
Modern Usage:
Staying in a job you hate because your family needs the income, or maintaining a relationship because you've been together so long even though you've grown apart.
Honorable behavior
Acting according to moral principles and social expectations, even when it causes personal suffering. For men like Edward, honor meant keeping promises and protecting others' reputations, regardless of personal cost.
Modern Usage:
Following through on commitments even when they no longer serve you, like paying off a debt when you could legally get out of it, or not gossiping about an ex.
Stilted conversation
Awkward, formal dialogue that feels unnatural and forced. This happens when people are avoiding difficult topics or when there's tension they can't address directly.
Modern Usage:
Those painful conversations with an ex when you run into them at the grocery store - you both know there's history but you're pretending everything's fine.
Social entrapment
Being stuck in situations by societal rules and expectations rather than legal requirements. People couldn't simply follow their hearts if it meant breaking social codes or family obligations.
Modern Usage:
Feeling pressured to stay in situations because of what others will think - like not leaving a toxic relationship because you've already sent wedding invitations.
Unspoken understanding
When people communicate important information through hints, reactions, and what they don't say rather than direct conversation. In polite society, many truths couldn't be stated outright.
Modern Usage:
When everyone at work knows someone's getting fired but no one says it directly, or when you and your friend both know her boyfriend is cheating but dance around the topic.
Characters in This Chapter
Edward Ferrars
conflicted love interest
He arrives at Barton Cottage visibly uncomfortable and guilty, struggling between his feelings for Elinor and his secret engagement to Lucy. His awkward behavior confirms he's still trapped by his earlier promise, making him miserable but determined to do what he sees as right.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy who's emotionally unavailable because he's still technically with his ex but too honorable to cheat
Elinor Dashwood
observant protagonist
She watches Edward carefully, reading his discomfort and gradually realizing that her worst fears are true - he's still engaged to Lucy. Despite her heartbreak, she shows remarkable emotional intelligence in understanding his position and even feeling sorry for him.
Modern Equivalent:
The emotionally mature woman who can see through someone's facade and understands they're struggling even when it hurts her
Lucy Steele
absent but powerful presence
Though not physically present, her influence dominates the chapter. Edward's reaction when her name comes up indirectly confirms that she still has a hold on him through their secret engagement, making her the invisible barrier between Edward and Elinor.
Modern Equivalent:
The ex-girlfriend whose shadow still looms over your current relationship even when she's not around
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to spot when someone's past commitments make them unable to fully engage, even when they want to.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone seems interested but holds back—watch for the guilt, the forced conversations, the way they mention other obligations when things get too real.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"His countenance, as he entered the room, was not too happy, even for Elinor."
Context: When Edward first arrives at Barton Cottage for his visit
This subtle observation shows that Edward's unhappiness is so obvious that even Elinor, who loves him and wants to see him happy, can't ignore it. It immediately sets the tone that this isn't the joyful reunion she might have hoped for.
In Today's Words:
He looked so miserable that even someone who wanted to see the best in him couldn't pretend he was okay.
"A few minutes more of silent exertion enabled him to proceed with composure."
Context: Edward struggling to control his emotions during conversation
This shows Edward literally having to force himself to act normal, revealing how much effort it takes him to maintain the facade of politeness when he's internally torn apart by his situation.
In Today's Words:
He had to take a moment to get his act together before he could keep pretending everything was fine.
"Elinor's security sunk; but her self-command did not sink with it."
Context: When Elinor realizes Edward is still engaged to Lucy
This captures the moment Elinor's hopes are crushed but shows her remarkable emotional strength. She may be devastated inside, but she maintains her composure and dignity, demonstrating her mature character.
In Today's Words:
Her heart broke, but she didn't let it show on her face.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Duty Versus Desire
When honoring past commitments creates more suffering than breaking them would cause.
Thematic Threads
Honor
In This Chapter
Edward chooses duty to Lucy over love for Elinor, believing this makes him honorable
Development
Evolving from Willoughby's complete abandonment of duty to Edward's complete submission to it
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you're staying in situations that no longer serve anyone out of misplaced loyalty.
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Edward feels bound by societal rules about keeping engagements, even secret ones
Development
Building on earlier themes of how society's rules often conflict with personal happiness
In Your Life:
You see this when you make choices based on what others expect rather than what actually works.
Communication
In This Chapter
Edward and Elinor dance around the truth, both knowing but neither speaking directly
Development
Continuing the pattern of characters suffering from things left unsaid
In Your Life:
This shows up when you avoid difficult conversations, hoping the other person will just 'understand' without words.
Sacrifice
In This Chapter
Both Edward and Elinor sacrifice their happiness for what they see as the greater good
Development
Deepening the exploration of when self-sacrifice helps versus when it just creates more pain
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you're constantly putting others' needs first while everyone ends up unhappy.
Growth
In This Chapter
Edward has outgrown his youthful engagement to Lucy but feels trapped by his past self's choices
Development
Introduced here as a new angle on personal development
In Your Life:
This appears when you feel stuck honoring decisions your younger, less wise self made.
Modern Adaptation
When Good Intentions Become Chains
Following Maya's story...
Maya's heart sinks when David finally shows up at the bank's break room after weeks of awkward text exchanges. She's been hoping this moment would clear the air between them, maybe even lead somewhere real. Instead, David seems uncomfortable, guilty almost, like he's forcing himself through the motions. Their conversation feels stilted—him asking about her weekend plans, her trying to read between the lines. When Jennifer from HR walks by and mentions the upcoming office party, David's face goes tight. Maya suddenly understands: he's still seeing that girl from his college, the one he mentioned months ago. The engagement ring he keeps fidgeting with isn't new—it's been there all along, just hidden. Maya realizes this isn't about rekindling anything. David's here because he feels bad about leading her on, trying to do the right thing by being friendly while staying committed to someone else. She watches him struggle with wanting to connect with her while honoring his prior commitment, and her heart breaks—not just for herself, but for him too.
The Road
The road Edward walked in 1811, Maya walks today. The pattern is identical: good people trapped between desire and duty, choosing honor over happiness, making everyone miserable in the process.
The Map
This chapter maps the duty trap—when keeping your word becomes more important than anyone's actual wellbeing. Maya can recognize when 'doing the right thing' is actually prolonging everyone's suffering.
Amplification
Before reading this, Maya might have kept hoping David would choose her, not understanding his internal conflict. Now she can NAME the duty trap, PREDICT that his honor will keep him miserable and unavailable, and NAVIGATE by protecting her own heart instead of waiting for him to break free.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Why is Edward's visit so awkward when both he and Elinor clearly care about each other?
analysis • surface - 2
What's really keeping Edward tied to Lucy - love, duty, or fear of social consequences?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see people today staying in situations that make everyone miserable because they feel they 'gave their word'?
application • medium - 4
When is breaking a commitment actually more honorable than keeping it?
application • deep - 5
What does Edward's struggle reveal about the difference between being good and being wise?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Own Duty Traps
Make a list of commitments or obligations in your life that feel heavy or burdensome. For each one, write down who benefits from you keeping this commitment and who suffers (including yourself). Then ask: is this still serving its original purpose, or has it become a trap?
Consider:
- •Some commitments we keep out of habit, not choice
- •The people we think we're protecting might prefer honesty to martyrdom
- •Breaking a commitment requires a plan to minimize harm to others
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you stayed in a situation longer than you should have because you felt you 'owed' someone. What would you do differently now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 40: The Servant's Tale
The next chapter brings new insights and deeper understanding. Continue reading to discover how timeless patterns from this classic literature illuminate our modern world and the choices we face.