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H24. e who stands on his tiptoes does not stand firm; he who stretches his legs does not walk (easily). (So), he who displays himself does not shine; he who asserts his own views is not distinguished; he who vaunts himself does not find his merit acknowledged; he who is self-conceited has no superiority allowed to him. Such conditions, viewed from the standpoint of the Tao, are like remnants of food, or a tumour on the body, which all dislike. Hence those who pursue (the course) of the Tao do not adopt and allow them.
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Summary
Lao Tzu uses vivid physical imagery to explain why forcing yourself into the spotlight usually backfires. Just like someone standing on their tiptoes looks unstable rather than tall, or someone taking unnaturally long strides looks awkward rather than graceful, people who constantly show off appear insecure rather than impressive. The chapter identifies specific behaviors that signal desperation rather than confidence: constantly displaying your achievements, always asserting your opinions as the only right ones, bragging about your accomplishments, and acting superior to others. These behaviors are so off-putting that Lao Tzu compares them to spoiled food or a tumor - things that naturally repel people. The deeper wisdom here is about understanding the difference between genuine confidence and overcompensation. When you're secure in yourself, you don't need to constantly prove your worth to others. Your competence speaks for itself through your actions, not your announcements. This principle applies everywhere from job interviews to social media to workplace dynamics. The person who quietly does excellent work often gets more respect than the one who constantly talks about how great they are. Lao Tzu suggests that those following the Tao - the natural way of living - avoid these attention-seeking behaviors because they understand that true influence comes from authenticity, not performance. It's a timeless insight about human psychology: people are drawn to those who are comfortable in their own skin, not those desperately trying to convince everyone how amazing they are.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Tao
The natural way of living and being in the world, like following the current of a river rather than fighting against it. In this chapter, it represents authentic behavior that doesn't need to force or prove itself.
Modern Usage:
We see this when someone is naturally confident without bragging, or when a skilled worker lets their results speak for themselves.
Wu Wei
The principle of effortless action - accomplishing things without forcing or straining. It's about working with natural rhythms rather than against them.
Modern Usage:
Like a nurse who moves efficiently through their shift without rushing or a manager who gets things done without micromanaging everyone.
Self-display
Constantly showing off your achievements or abilities to get attention and validation from others. Lao Tzu sees this as a sign of inner insecurity masquerading as confidence.
Modern Usage:
Social media humble-bragging, name-dropping accomplishments in every conversation, or constantly talking about how busy and important you are.
Natural virtue
Authentic goodness that comes from within rather than performing goodness to impress others. It's about being genuinely helpful rather than looking helpful.
Modern Usage:
The coworker who quietly helps others without announcing it versus the one who makes sure everyone sees their good deeds.
Overreaching
Trying too hard to appear bigger, better, or more important than you naturally are. Like standing on tiptoes to seem taller - it actually makes you look unstable.
Modern Usage:
Using big words you don't really understand, pretending to know more than you do, or taking credit for things you barely contributed to.
Remnants of food
Lao Tzu's metaphor for behaviors that are naturally disgusting to people - like leftover scraps that have gone bad. He uses this to describe show-off behaviors.
Modern Usage:
That cringey feeling you get when someone won't stop talking about themselves or constantly needs to one-up everyone's stories.
Characters in This Chapter
The one who stands on tiptoes
Cautionary example
Represents someone trying to appear taller or more impressive than they naturally are. Lao Tzu shows how this actually makes them look unstable and insecure rather than confident.
Modern Equivalent:
The coworker who exaggerates their role in every project
The one who displays himself
Negative example
Someone who constantly shows off their achievements or abilities. Ironically, this behavior makes them less impressive rather than more so, because people can sense the desperation.
Modern Equivalent:
The social media attention-seeker who posts every accomplishment
The one who asserts his views
Warning figure
Represents people who always need to be right and make sure everyone knows their opinion. This pushes people away rather than earning respect.
Modern Equivalent:
The know-it-all who dominates every conversation
Those who pursue the Tao
Positive model
People who follow the natural way and avoid attention-seeking behaviors. They understand that real confidence doesn't need to announce itself constantly.
Modern Equivalent:
The quietly competent person everyone actually respects and turns to for help
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when someone's self-promotion reveals underlying insecurity rather than genuine confidence.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone's bragging makes you uncomfortable—that discomfort is your instinctive recognition of overcompensation in action.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"He who stands on his tiptoes does not stand firm"
Context: Opening the chapter with a physical metaphor about forcing yourself to appear bigger
This sets up the entire chapter's theme about how trying too hard to impress others actually backfires. The image of someone wobbling on their tiptoes perfectly captures how unstable and ridiculous overcompensation looks.
In Today's Words:
When you try too hard to look important, you just look insecure
"He who displays himself does not shine"
Context: Explaining why showing off doesn't work the way people think it does
This reveals the paradox of attention-seeking behavior - the more you try to get people to notice how great you are, the less impressive you actually seem. True brilliance doesn't need a spotlight.
In Today's Words:
Show-offs don't actually impress anyone
"Such conditions are like remnants of food, or a tumour on the body, which all dislike"
Context: Describing how naturally repulsive these behaviors are to other people
Lao Tzu uses viscerally disgusting images to show how deeply off-putting these behaviors are. It's not just annoying - it triggers a natural human revulsion, like seeing spoiled food.
In Today's Words:
These behaviors make people's skin crawl - they're naturally gross to everyone
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Desperate Display
The more desperately someone tries to prove their worth through constant self-promotion, the less valuable they appear to others.
Thematic Threads
Insecurity
In This Chapter
Overcompensation through constant self-display and attention-seeking behaviors
Development
Introduced here as a specific behavioral pattern
In Your Life:
You might catch yourself name-dropping or over-explaining your qualifications when feeling uncertain about your position.
Authenticity
In This Chapter
True confidence requires no performance—it simply exists through consistent action
Development
Building on earlier themes about natural versus forced behavior
In Your Life:
You recognize the difference between people who are comfortable in their skin versus those putting on a show.
Social Perception
In This Chapter
Others instinctively detect and recoil from desperate attempts at impression management
Development
Introduced here as a social psychology principle
In Your Life:
You notice how certain people's constant self-promotion makes you uncomfortable rather than impressed.
Natural Restraint
In This Chapter
Those following the Tao avoid attention-seeking because they understand genuine influence comes from authenticity
Development
Continues the theme of wu wei (effortless action) applied to social behavior
In Your Life:
You might experiment with letting your work speak for itself rather than constantly highlighting your contributions.
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Lin's story...
Marcus watches his colleague Derek celebrate his promotion to shift supervisor by immediately ordering new business cards with three different titles and scheduling unnecessary meetings to 'establish authority.' Derek starts every conversation with reminders about his new position, interrupts veteran nurses to explain procedures they've done for years, and posts LinkedIn updates about 'leadership insights' he learned yesterday. Within two weeks, the staff who initially congratulated Derek are rolling their eyes and requesting schedule changes to avoid his shifts. Meanwhile, Sarah, who quietly took on extra responsibilities without fanfare, finds herself becoming the person everyone actually turns to for guidance. Marcus realizes he's watching the same pattern he sees in his coaching practice: the harder someone works to prove they deserve respect, the less respect they actually earn. Derek's desperate performance of authority makes everyone uncomfortable, while Sarah's natural competence draws people toward her leadership.
The Road
The road Lao Tzu's attention-seekers walked 2,400 years ago, Derek walks today. The pattern is identical: overcompensation signals insecurity, and desperation repels the very respect it seeks.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for recognizing when self-promotion crosses into self-sabotage. Marcus can help Derek understand that true authority comes from competence, not announcements.
Amplification
Before reading this, Marcus might have dismissed Derek's behavior as harmless ego. Now he can NAME the overcompensation pattern, PREDICT its inevitable backlash, and NAVIGATE by helping Derek focus on substance over performance.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific behaviors does Lao Tzu compare to standing on tiptoes or taking unnaturally long strides?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does constantly showing off make someone appear insecure rather than impressive?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this 'overcompensation pattern' playing out in social media, workplaces, or family gatherings?
application • medium - 4
When you feel the urge to prove yourself to others, what strategies could you use instead of self-promotion?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about the difference between genuine confidence and performed confidence?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Spot the Overcompensation
Think of someone you know who constantly brags or shows off. Without naming them, write down their specific behaviors that signal insecurity rather than confidence. Then reflect: what might they be trying to compensate for underneath all that performance? Finally, consider if you recognize any of these patterns in your own behavior.
Consider:
- •Focus on behaviors, not the person's character or worth
- •Look for the fear or insecurity driving the overcompensation
- •Notice how these behaviors affect your feelings toward that person
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you felt the need to prove yourself to others. What were you really afraid of? How might you handle that situation differently now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 25: The Source of Everything
In the next chapter, you'll discover to recognize the fundamental patterns that govern all systems, and learn understanding your place in larger hierarchies brings clarity. These insights reveal timeless patterns that resonate in our own lives and relationships.