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W61. 1. hat makes a great state is its being (like) a low-lying, down-flowing (stream);--it becomes the centre to which tend (all the small states) under heaven. 2. (To illustrate from) the case of all females:--the female always overcomes the male by her stillness. Stillness may be considered (a sort of) abasement. 3. Thus it is that a great state, by condescending to small states, gains them for itself; and that small states, by abasing themselves to a great state, win it over to them. In the one case the abasement leads to gaining adherents, in the other case to procuring favour. 4. The great state only wishes to unite men together and nourish them; a small state only wishes to be received by, and to serve, the other. Each gets what it desires, but the great state must learn to abase itself.
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Summary
Lao Tzu reveals a counterintuitive truth about power: the most influential states and people position themselves like valleys, not mountains. Just as water naturally flows to the lowest point, people gravitate toward those who make themselves accessible and humble. He uses the example of feminine energy - how stillness and receptivity often overcome aggressive force. This isn't about weakness; it's strategic positioning. A great nation gains allies not by intimidating smaller ones, but by lowering itself and offering support. Small states win favor by acknowledging their position and offering service. Both get what they want, but the key insight is that true power comes from making yourself the place others want to come to, not the force they want to escape from. In modern terms, this is about being the person others trust with their problems, the leader who serves their team, the friend who listens more than they talk. The most magnetic people aren't those who demand attention, but those who create space for others to shine. This principle works in relationships, workplace dynamics, and community building. Real influence comes from being useful, accessible, and genuinely interested in others' wellbeing. When you position yourself as the helper rather than the hero, you become indispensable.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Valley Spirit
The Taoist concept that the most powerful position is the lowest one, like a valley that receives all water flowing downward. Valleys appear empty but become full because everything naturally flows to them.
Modern Usage:
We see this in successful customer service - companies that position themselves as helpful and accessible attract more business than those that act superior.
Feminine Principle (Yin)
In Taoism, the receptive, yielding, quiet energy that paradoxically overcomes aggressive force through patience and strategic positioning. Not about gender, but about types of power.
Modern Usage:
Think of how a good therapist or nurse gains influence through listening and creating safe space rather than giving orders.
Wu Wei (Non-Action)
The art of accomplishing goals without forcing or pushing. Like water wearing away rock, it's about working with natural forces rather than against them.
Modern Usage:
The manager who gets things done by removing obstacles for their team rather than micromanaging every task.
Strategic Humility
Deliberately taking a lower position not from weakness, but as a calculated way to gain influence and attract others. Making yourself approachable to become indispensable.
Modern Usage:
The experienced coworker who helps train newbies becomes the person everyone trusts and comes to for advice.
Magnetic Leadership
Leading by creating conditions that make people want to follow rather than forcing compliance. Being the center that others naturally gravitate toward.
Modern Usage:
The friend in your group who everyone calls when they need advice because they listen without judgment and actually help.
Mutual Benefit
The Taoist idea that true power comes from arrangements where everyone gets what they need. No one has to lose for someone else to win.
Modern Usage:
The best workplace relationships where helping others succeed also advances your own goals.
Characters in This Chapter
The Great State
Model of wise leadership
Represents the powerful entity that gains influence by positioning itself humbly, like a valley that receives all streams. Shows how true strength comes from serving others.
Modern Equivalent:
The respected team leader who gets results by supporting their people
Small States
Example of strategic positioning
Demonstrate how those with less power can still achieve their goals by acknowledging reality and offering genuine value through service.
Modern Equivalent:
The new employee who succeeds by being helpful and learning from everyone
The Female
Symbol of receptive power
Represents the principle that stillness and receptivity can overcome aggressive force. Shows how yielding can be a form of strategic strength.
Modern Equivalent:
The calm person who defuses tense situations by staying centered
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to distinguish between positional power that creates resistance and magnetic power that creates attraction.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone tries to influence you through intimidation versus service—watch your own response and see which approach actually moves you to action.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"What makes a great state is its being like a low-lying, down-flowing stream"
Context: Opening the chapter with the central metaphor
This challenges our usual thinking about power. Instead of being the mountain that dominates the landscape, real influence comes from being the valley where everything naturally flows.
In Today's Words:
The most powerful people make themselves easy to reach and helpful to others.
"The female always overcomes the male by her stillness"
Context: Explaining how receptive energy defeats aggressive force
This isn't about gender but about different approaches to power. Sometimes the person who stays calm and listens wins over the one who argues loudest.
In Today's Words:
You can often get your way better by staying calm and letting others exhaust themselves.
"The great state must learn to abase itself"
Context: The final lesson about true leadership
Even when you have power, you have to choose humility to keep it. The moment you start acting superior, people look for alternatives.
In Today's Words:
No matter how successful you get, you still need to treat people well if you want to stay successful.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Magnetic Influence - Why the Powerful Make Themselves Low
True influence comes from making yourself the place others want to come to, not the force they want to escape from.
Thematic Threads
Power
In This Chapter
Real power operates through attraction and accessibility rather than force and intimidation
Development
Builds on earlier themes about soft power and wu wei, showing practical application
In Your Life:
You gain more influence by helping others succeed than by proving your own superiority
Positioning
In This Chapter
Strategic placement at the 'bottom' creates magnetic pull that draws others naturally
Development
Introduced here as core concept of deliberate humility for practical gain
In Your Life:
Where you position yourself in conversations and relationships determines who seeks you out
Reciprocity
In This Chapter
Both large and small entities benefit when the powerful make themselves accessible
Development
Introduced here as mutual benefit principle in power dynamics
In Your Life:
Making yourself useful to others creates networks of people invested in your success
Feminine Energy
In This Chapter
Receptive, still, and supportive qualities overcome aggressive force through strategic patience
Development
Builds on earlier yin-yang concepts, emphasizing practical applications
In Your Life:
Sometimes the most powerful response is to listen, absorb, and respond thoughtfully rather than react immediately
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Lin's story...
Lin just got promoted to supervise the department where she used to work alongside everyone as equals. Her old colleagues are testing boundaries—some ignoring her requests, others being overly formal and distant. The previous supervisor ruled through intimidation and micromanagement, leaving behind a culture of fear and resentment. Lin could assert authority immediately, write people up, demand respect. Instead, she does something counterintuitive: she makes herself more available, not less. She starts each day asking individual team members what obstacles they're facing and how she can help remove them. When someone makes a mistake, instead of lecturing, she asks what support they need to prevent it next time. She positions herself as the person who makes their jobs easier, not harder. Slowly, people start bringing her problems before they become crises. They begin defending her decisions to other departments. Within three months, her team's productivity is up and turnover is down, not because she demanded more, but because she made herself indispensable by serving rather than commanding.
The Road
The road Lao Tzu walked in ancient China, Lin walks today. The pattern is identical: true influence comes from positioning yourself as the valley where others naturally flow, not the mountain they must climb around.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for understanding magnetic leadership. When you make yourself the solution to others' problems rather than another problem they must solve, you become the center they orbit around.
Amplification
Before reading this, Lin might have thought respect must be demanded and authority displayed. Now they can NAME valley positioning, PREDICT how people respond to accessibility versus intimidation, NAVIGATE power transitions by serving first and commanding second.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
According to Lao Tzu, why do people naturally gravitate toward those who position themselves like valleys rather than mountains?
analysis • surface - 2
What's the difference between being weak and strategically positioning yourself at the bottom? How does this create real influence?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about the most respected person in your workplace or community. Do they use 'mountain' positioning (demanding attention) or 'valley' positioning (creating space for others)? What specific behaviors show this?
application • medium - 4
When someone brings you a problem, what's your first instinct - to immediately offer solutions or to ask questions and listen? How might changing this response affect your relationships?
application • deep - 5
Why do you think people feel safer approaching someone who positions themselves as helpful rather than impressive? What does this reveal about human nature?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Influence Style
Think of three recent interactions where you tried to influence someone (convince a coworker, help a family member, resolve a conflict). For each situation, identify whether you used mountain positioning (showcasing expertise, talking more than listening) or valley positioning (asking questions, creating space for them). Write down what actually happened versus what you intended.
Consider:
- •Notice your default pattern - do you tend toward mountain or valley positioning?
- •Consider how the other person responded to your approach
- •Think about times when someone used valley positioning with you - how did it make you feel?
Journaling Prompt
Write about a relationship where you'd like more influence or trust. How could you experiment with valley positioning in your next interaction with this person? What specific questions could you ask instead of statements you might make?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 62: The Tao as Life's Hidden Treasure
The coming pages reveal to recognize value in things others overlook or dismiss, and teach us offering protection and guidance creates lasting influence. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.