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XXVIII Her refusal, though unexpected, did not permanently daunt Clare. His experience of women was great enough for him to be aware that the negative often meant nothing more than the preface to the affirmative; and it was little enough for him not to know that in the manner of the present negative there lay a great exception to the dallyings of coyness. That she had already permitted him to make love to her he read as an additional assurance, not fully trowing that in the fields and pastures to “sigh gratis” is by no means deemed waste; love-making being here more often accepted inconsiderately and for its own sweet sake than in the carking, anxious homes of the ambitious, where a girl’s craving for an establishment paralyzes her healthy thought of a passion as an end. “Tess, why did you say ‘no’ in such a positive way?” he asked her in the course of a few days. She started. “Don’t ask me. I told you why—partly. I am not good enough—not worthy enough.” “How? Not fine lady enough?” “Yes—something like that,” murmured she. “Your friends would scorn me.” “Indeed, you mistake them—my father and mother. As for my brothers, I don’t care—” He clasped his fingers behind her back to keep her from slipping away. “Now—you did not mean it, sweet?—I am sure you did not! You have made me so restless that I cannot read, or play, or do anything. I am in no hurry, Tess, but I...
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Summary
Angel continues pursuing Tess despite her refusal, convinced that her 'no' is just feminine coyness rather than genuine rejection. When he presses her for reasons, Tess can only say she's 'not worthy' and that his family would scorn her, unable to reveal the real truth about her past with Alec. The emotional torture intensifies during their work together—when Angel kisses her arm while they're making cheese, Tess's resolve nearly crumbles completely. She promises to give him a full answer by Sunday, planning to tell him 'everything.' But as the days pass, Tess realizes she's losing the battle against her own heart. Despite knowing that marrying Angel without telling him about Alec could destroy him, her love overwhelms her conscience. She retreats to the willows, torn between the rational knowledge that she should protect Angel from her past and the desperate desire to accept his love. By Saturday night, she's on the verge of surrender, jealously declaring she can't bear to let anyone else have him. This chapter captures the agony of impossible choices—when doing the 'right' thing means sacrificing love, and following your heart means potentially destroying the person you love most. Tess's internal war reflects how secrets in relationships create unbearable pressure, and how love can make us act against our better judgment.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Dallyings of coyness
The Victorian belief that women played hard-to-get as a social game, that 'no' was just part of feminine flirtation rather than genuine refusal. Men were taught that persistence would eventually win out.
Modern Usage:
We still see this toxic pattern when people refuse to accept 'no' as an answer, assuming the other person is just playing games.
Craving for an establishment
A woman's desperate need to secure marriage for financial security and social status. In Hardy's time, unmarried women had few options for supporting themselves.
Modern Usage:
Today we might call this 'gold-digging' or marrying for security rather than love, though women now have more economic independence.
Sigh gratis
To express romantic feelings freely without expecting anything in return. Hardy suggests rural people were more honest about attraction than city folks who calculated everything.
Modern Usage:
Like having a crush and just enjoying the feeling without needing it to go anywhere - pure emotional expression.
Not worthy enough
Tess's belief that her sexual past makes her unfit for Angel's love. Victorian society created impossible standards of female 'purity' that trapped women in shame.
Modern Usage:
We still struggle with feeling 'not good enough' for someone we love, often based on past mistakes or different backgrounds.
Fine lady
A woman of proper social class and refinement. Tess fears she lacks the education and manners expected of Angel's social circle.
Modern Usage:
Like feeling intimidated by your partner's wealthy or educated family, worrying you don't fit their world.
Carking, anxious homes
Households consumed with worry about social climbing and financial advancement, where love takes second place to practical concerns.
Modern Usage:
Families obsessed with status and success, where everything becomes about networking and getting ahead rather than genuine connection.
Characters in This Chapter
Angel Clare
Romantic pursuer
He refuses to accept Tess's rejection, convinced her 'no' is just feminine game-playing. His persistence shows how men were taught to ignore women's actual words and feelings.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy who won't take no for an answer
Tess
Conflicted protagonist
She's trapped between her love for Angel and her knowledge that her past with Alec makes her 'unworthy.' Her internal war shows the impossible position Victorian women faced.
Modern Equivalent:
Someone hiding a deal-breaker secret from their partner
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how intense emotions can hijack our better judgment and make harmful decisions feel justified in the moment.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you feel desperate to avoid a difficult conversation—that's your signal to slow down and ask what you're really protecting.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"His experience of women was great enough for him to be aware that the negative often meant nothing more than the preface to the affirmative"
Context: Explaining why Angel doesn't accept Tess's refusal of his proposal
This reveals the dangerous Victorian assumption that women's 'no' didn't really mean no. Angel's supposed 'experience' actually blinds him to Tess's genuine feelings and creates the foundation for future tragedy.
In Today's Words:
He thought he knew women well enough to know that 'no' usually meant 'try harder.'
"I am not good enough—not worthy enough"
Context: When Angel presses her for reasons why she refused him
Tess can't tell the real truth about Alec, so she falls back on the only explanation society would understand - class difference. Her sense of unworthiness runs deeper than social status.
In Today's Words:
I don't deserve you.
"Your friends would scorn me"
Context: Explaining why she can't marry Angel
Tess correctly predicts how Angel's family and social circle would react to her background, showing her clear-eyed understanding of class barriers that Angel naively dismisses.
In Today's Words:
Your people would look down on me.
"You have made me so restless that I cannot read, or play, or do anything"
Context: Pleading with Tess to reconsider his proposal
Angel's romantic desperation sounds passionate but reveals his self-centeredness - it's all about his feelings, his restlessness, his needs rather than understanding why Tess said no.
In Today's Words:
You're driving me crazy - I can't focus on anything.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Impossible Choices
When intense emotions, especially love or fear, cause us to act against our better judgment and moral compass.
Thematic Threads
Impossible Choices
In This Chapter
Tess must choose between honest rejection that protects Angel or deceptive acceptance that could destroy him
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You face this when you must choose between what feels good and what you know is right.
Secrets
In This Chapter
Tess's inability to reveal her past with Alec creates unbearable psychological pressure
Development
Building from her earlier shame about her family's poverty to this deeper, more dangerous secret
In Your Life:
You know this when you're hiding something that affects someone you care about.
Love vs. Logic
In This Chapter
Tess's rational mind knows she should refuse Angel, but her heart overwhelms her conscience
Development
Evolved from her initial attraction to this consuming internal battle
In Your Life:
You experience this when your feelings pull you toward choices your mind knows are wrong.
Self-Worth
In This Chapter
Tess believes she's 'not worthy' of Angel but can't explain why without revealing her past
Development
Deepened from earlier class insecurity to this profound sense of being fundamentally damaged
In Your Life:
You feel this when past mistakes make you question whether you deserve good things.
Power of Touch
In This Chapter
Angel's kiss on her arm while making cheese nearly destroys Tess's resolve completely
Development
Building from their earlier physical awareness to this moment of overwhelming intimacy
In Your Life:
You know this when physical closeness makes it impossible to think clearly about a relationship.
Modern Adaptation
When Love Overrides Logic
Following Teresa's story...
Teresa has been working at the dairy for six months when Jake, the farm manager's son, starts pursuing her seriously. He's college-educated, kind, and sees a future with her. But Teresa carries a secret—last year, her previous supervisor Marcus assaulted her at a company party, then fired her when she tried to report it. Now Jake wants to meet her family, talk about marriage, move her to the main house. Every time he asks about her past jobs, Teresa deflects with 'I'm not good enough for you' or 'your parents won't approve.' She knows she should tell him about Marcus—what if he finds out later? What if Marcus is still out there, hurting other women? But Jake is so hopeful, so loving. When he kisses her after their shift, her resolve crumbles. She promises to give him a real answer by Sunday. By Saturday night, watching him laugh with the other workers, she's consumed with jealousy at the thought of losing him to someone 'cleaner.' Her heart screams that she deserves this happiness, even as her mind knows the foundation is built on lies.
The Road
The road Angel walked in 1891, Teresa walks today. The pattern is identical: when love collides with conscience, we choose immediate emotional comfort over long-term honesty, believing we can protect both ourselves and our partner from painful truths.
The Map
This chapter provides the navigation tool of recognizing emotional override—when our feelings flood our judgment and make terrible decisions seem reasonable. Teresa can learn to pause when her heart screams 'but I love him' and ask what she's really protecting.
Amplification
Before reading this, Teresa might have convinced herself that keeping secrets protects the people she loves. Now she can NAME emotional override, PREDICT that secrets in intimate relationships always explode eventually, and NAVIGATE by choosing difficult honesty over comfortable lies.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Why does Tess keep saying she's 'not worthy' of Angel instead of telling him the real reason she can't marry him?
analysis • surface - 2
What's happening in Tess's mind when she says she 'can't let anyone else have him'? How does jealousy change her decision-making?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about relationships you know where someone kept a big secret 'to protect' the other person. How did that usually work out?
application • medium - 4
If you were Tess's friend, what would you tell her to do? What if you were Angel's friend?
application • deep - 5
Why do we sometimes choose what feels good in the moment even when we know it will cause bigger problems later?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
The 24-Hour Truth Test
Think of a situation in your life where you're avoiding a difficult conversation or hiding something 'to protect' someone you care about. Write down what you would say if you had to tell the complete truth in 24 hours. Then write what you think would actually happen if you told the truth versus what you fear might happen.
Consider:
- •Are you protecting them or protecting yourself from their reaction?
- •What's the worst realistic outcome if you tell the truth now versus later?
- •How has keeping this secret already affected your relationship?
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone kept a secret from you 'for your own good.' How did you feel when you found out? What would you have wanted them to do differently?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 29: The Weight of Secrets
Moving forward, we'll examine keeping secrets in relationships creates invisible barriers that grow stronger over time, and understand timing matters when revealing difficult truths - too late can be as damaging as too early. These insights bridge the gap between classic literature and modern experience.