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CHAPTER IV Princess Mary as she sat listening to the old men’s talk and faultfinding, understood nothing of what she heard; she only wondered whether the guests had all observed her father’s hostile attitude toward her. She did not even notice the special attentions and amiabilities shown her during dinner by Borís Drubetskóy, who was visiting them for the third time already. Princess Mary turned with absent-minded questioning look to Pierre, who hat in hand and with a smile on his face was the last of the guests to approach her after the old prince had gone out and they were left alone in the drawing room. “May I stay a little longer?” he said, letting his stout body sink into an armchair beside her. “Oh yes,” she answered. “You noticed nothing?” her look asked. Pierre was in an agreeable after-dinner mood. He looked straight before him and smiled quietly. “Have you known that young man long, Princess?” he asked. “Who?” “Drubetskóy.” “No, not long....” “Do you like him?” “Yes, he is an agreeable young man.... Why do you ask me that?” said Princess Mary, still thinking of that morning’s conversation with her father. “Because I have noticed that when a young man comes on leave from Petersburg to Moscow it is usually with the object of marrying an heiress.” “You have observed that?” said Princess Mary. “Yes,” returned Pierre with a smile, “and this young man now manages matters so that where there is a wealthy heiress there he...
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Summary
Princess Mary sits through dinner feeling invisible and wondering if everyone notices how coldly her father treats her. When the guests leave, only Pierre stays behind, and she's grateful for his kind presence. Their conversation reveals Boris Drubetskoy's calculated courtship strategy—he's shopping for a wealthy wife and alternates between Mary and another heiress, Julie Karagina. Pierre warns Mary that Boris puts on a melancholy act to appeal to fashionable Moscow girls. The conversation triggers something deeper in Mary. Her loneliness and desperation pour out as she admits she'd marry anyone just to escape her suffocating situation. She breaks down, revealing how helpless she feels watching her father's hostility toward her brother Andrew's engagement. She can't help Andrew, can't change her father, and has nowhere to go. When she asks Pierre about Natasha Rostov, her future sister-in-law, his glowing but vague description—'enchanting but I don't know why'—confirms her fears that Natasha might be shallow. Mary desperately wants to like Natasha but clearly has doubts. This chapter shows how family dysfunction and isolation can leave us vulnerable to both manipulative people and our own worst impulses. Mary's emotional breakdown reveals the cost of living in a toxic environment where love comes with conditions and approval must be earned through submission.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Heiress hunting
The practice of seeking marriage primarily for financial gain rather than love. In aristocratic society, men would strategically court wealthy women to secure their own financial future.
Modern Usage:
We see this in gold-diggers, people who date for money, or anyone who prioritizes a partner's wealth over genuine connection.
Arranged courtship
A formal system where families orchestrate romantic relationships based on social and financial compatibility. Young people had limited choice in marriage partners.
Modern Usage:
Similar to how some families still push certain relationships, or how dating apps filter by income and education.
Filial duty
The obligation children had to obey and please their parents, even at the cost of personal happiness. Disobedience could mean losing family support entirely.
Modern Usage:
Like adult children who can't set boundaries with controlling parents because they fear being cut off emotionally or financially.
Social isolation
Being cut off from meaningful relationships and support systems, often due to family dysfunction or rigid social expectations.
Modern Usage:
Anyone trapped in toxic family dynamics, controlling relationships, or situations where speaking up means losing everything.
Emotional manipulation
Using someone's feelings, insecurities, or desperation to control their behavior or decisions. Often involves playing on sympathy or fear.
Modern Usage:
Guilt-tripping, love-bombing, or anyone who exploits your vulnerabilities to get what they want.
Performative melancholy
Acting sad or brooding to appear deep and attractive, especially to appeal to romantic interests who mistake moodiness for sensitivity.
Modern Usage:
The 'mysterious bad boy' act, or anyone who uses depression or trauma as a dating strategy on social media.
Characters in This Chapter
Princess Mary
Isolated protagonist
Breaks down emotionally, revealing her desperation to escape her father's control and her loneliness. She's so starved for affection she'd marry anyone just to leave home.
Modern Equivalent:
The adult child trapped living with an abusive parent because they can't afford to leave
Pierre
Compassionate friend
Stays behind to comfort Mary and warns her about Boris's mercenary intentions. He's the only person who treats her with genuine kindness and respect.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who actually listens and calls out red flags when everyone else ignores your problems
Boris Drubetskoy
Calculating suitor
Revealed as a fortune hunter who strategically courts wealthy women, putting on an act of sensitivity to manipulate their emotions for financial gain.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy who love-bombs you after checking your LinkedIn and Instagram for signs of money
Old Prince Bolkonsky
Controlling patriarch
His hostile treatment of Mary in front of guests shows his psychological abuse. His disapproval of Andrew's engagement reveals his need to control his children's lives.
Modern Equivalent:
The parent who uses emotional manipulation and public humiliation to maintain control over adult children
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to spot people who strategically befriend others based on what they can gain, like Boris shopping between wealthy women or Derek researching salaries.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone suddenly becomes friendly after learning about your resources, connections, or status - genuine friends show interest in you before they know what you can offer them.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"I have noticed that when a young man comes on leave from Petersburg to Moscow it is usually with the object of marrying an heiress."
Context: Warning Mary about Boris's true intentions
Pierre cuts through social politeness to reveal the calculated nature of aristocratic courtship. He's protecting Mary from being used.
In Today's Words:
These guys who suddenly show up aren't looking for love - they're shopping for someone with money.
"I would marry anybody!"
Context: Her emotional breakdown about feeling trapped
This desperate outburst reveals how toxic family situations can make people vulnerable to any escape route, even harmful ones.
In Today's Words:
I'm so miserable here I'd take any way out, even if it's with the wrong person.
"She is enchanting, but I don't know why."
Context: Describing Natasha to Mary
His vague praise confirms Mary's fears that Natasha might be all charm and no substance, adding to her anxiety about her brother's choice.
In Today's Words:
She's amazing, but I can't really explain what makes her special.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Desperate Compromise - When Isolation Makes Us Vulnerable
Chronic isolation and emotional abuse make us vulnerable to accepting harmful situations because any change feels like rescue.
Thematic Threads
Isolation
In This Chapter
Mary's emotional breakdown reveals how her father's coldness has left her completely alone and desperate for any human connection
Development
Building from earlier chapters showing her father's increasing hostility and her growing desperation
In Your Life:
You might feel this when work stress or family problems leave you so drained that any offer of help feels like salvation, even from questionable sources.
Manipulation
In This Chapter
Boris calculates his courtship strategy, alternating between wealthy prospects and putting on fake melancholy to appeal to fashionable girls
Development
Continues the theme of characters using social position and emotional manipulation for personal gain
In Your Life:
You see this in dating apps, job interviews, or sales situations where people craft personas to get what they want from you.
Class
In This Chapter
Boris shops for wives based on wealth, while Mary's desperation makes her vulnerable to his calculated approach despite her social position
Development
Expands on how class dynamics create both opportunity and vulnerability in relationships
In Your Life:
You might experience this when financial stress makes you consider opportunities you'd normally question, or when people target you based on perceived status.
Family Dysfunction
In This Chapter
Mary feels helpless watching her father's hostility toward Andrew's engagement while being unable to help or protect anyone
Development
Deepens the portrait of how the old prince's controlling behavior damages everyone around him
In Your Life:
You know this feeling when family conflicts leave you caught in the middle, wanting to help but knowing intervention might make things worse.
Identity
In This Chapter
Mary's sense of self has been so eroded by her father's treatment that she defines herself mainly through what she lacks and fears
Development
Shows how prolonged emotional abuse shapes self-perception and decision-making capacity
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you realize you've been making choices based on fear and scarcity rather than your actual values and desires.
Modern Adaptation
When Nobody Sees You Drowning
Following Andrew's story...
Andrew sits through the company holiday party watching his supervisor Marcus barely acknowledge him while praising everyone else. When the party ends, only his coworker Sarah stays behind to help clean up. She warns Andrew that the new guy Derek has been asking around about Andrew's salary and benefits - Derek's been doing the same with other longtime employees, clearly calculating who to befriend based on seniority and pay grade. The conversation triggers something in Andrew. His loneliness at work pours out as he admits he's so desperate for recognition he'd probably take any promotion, even a lateral move, just to feel valued somewhere. He breaks down about watching Marcus systematically freeze out anyone who questions the new policies. He can't help his work friends, can't change Marcus, and has no other job prospects. When Sarah mentions the new manager Natasha who's supposed to start next month, Andrew's hope is obvious - maybe she'll be different. But Sarah's description is vague: 'She seems nice, but I can't put my finger on why.' Andrew desperately wants to believe things will improve, but clearly has doubts.
The Road
The road Princess Mary walked in 1812 Russia, Andrew walks today. The pattern is identical: emotional starvation in a toxic environment makes us vulnerable to anyone offering the smallest kindness, even when warning signs are obvious.
The Map
This chapter provides the Desperation Recognition Tool - learning to pause when you're willing to accept 'anything' and ask whether you're choosing from genuine opportunity or just trying to escape pain.
Amplification
Before reading this, Andrew might have jumped at Derek's fake friendship or pinned all hopes on the new manager. Now they can NAME desperation thinking, PREDICT how it leads to bad choices, NAVIGATE by creating small connections outside the toxic situation.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What does Mary reveal about her emotional state when she talks to Pierre, and what specific circumstances have led her to this breaking point?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Pierre's warning about Boris's calculated courtship strategy not seem to register with Mary, and what does this tell us about how desperation affects our judgment?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this pattern of desperation making people vulnerable to manipulation in today's world - in workplaces, relationships, or online communities?
application • medium - 4
If you were Mary's friend, what specific steps would you suggest to help her make better decisions despite her desperate circumstances?
application • deep - 5
What does Mary's situation teach us about the difference between choosing something because it's good versus choosing it because we're desperate to escape our current situation?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Create Your Desperation Detector
Think of a major decision you're facing or have recently faced. Write down your top three reasons for wanting this choice. Then honestly ask yourself: are these reasons about this option being genuinely good, or about escaping something that feels bad? Create a simple checklist of warning signs that might indicate you're in a desperation trap.
Consider:
- •Notice if you feel pressured to decide quickly or cut off other relationships
- •Pay attention to whether you're focusing more on what you're running from than what you're running toward
- •Consider whether you have trusted people outside the situation who can offer perspective
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when loneliness or desperation led you to accept something that wasn't actually good for you. What warning signs did you miss, and what would you tell your past self?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 150: The Art of Strategic Romance
In the next chapter, you'll discover financial desperation can corrupt authentic relationships, and learn performative emotions often mask deeper insecurities. These insights reveal timeless patterns that resonate in our own lives and relationships.