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CHAPTER XII The day after the opera the Rostóvs went nowhere and nobody came to see them. Márya Dmítrievna talked to the count about something which they concealed from Natásha. Natásha guessed they were talking about the old prince and planning something, and this disquieted and offended her. She was expecting Prince Andrew any moment and twice that day sent a manservant to the Vozdvízhenka to ascertain whether he had come. He had not arrived. She suffered more now than during her first days in Moscow. To her impatience and pining for him were now added the unpleasant recollection of her interview with Princess Mary and the old prince, and a fear and anxiety of which she did not understand the cause. She continually fancied that either he would never come or that something would happen to her before he came. She could no longer think of him by herself calmly and continuously as she had done before. As soon as she began to think of him, the recollection of the old prince, of Princess Mary, of the theater, and of Kurágin mingled with her thoughts. The question again presented itself whether she was not guilty, whether she had not already broken faith with Prince Andrew, and again she found herself recalling to the minutest detail every word, every gesture, and every shade in the play of expression on the face of the man who had been able to arouse in her such an incomprehensible and terrifying feeling. To the...
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Summary
Natasha is drowning in anxiety while waiting for Prince Andrew to return. Every day he doesn't come feels like torture, and she's starting to question everything—did she do something wrong? Is she being unfaithful just by having doubts? The weight of uncertainty is crushing her ability to think clearly. Meanwhile, the adults around her are having hushed conversations about 'the situation,' which only makes her feel more isolated and worried. Into this emotional chaos walks Hélène Bezukhova, Pierre's wife, radiating confidence and charm. Hélène flatters Natasha, invites her to a party, and casually mentions that her brother Anatole is 'madly in love' with Natasha. What should be alarming news instead feels like a lifeline to Natasha's bruised ego. Hélène's warmth and attention make Natasha feel special again, and her sophisticated reasoning—that even engaged people should enjoy society—sounds perfectly logical. This chapter shows how vulnerability creates blind spots in our judgment. When we're anxious and isolated, we become easy targets for people who tell us what we want to hear. Natasha's desperate need for reassurance makes her miss the red flags in Hélène's sudden interest and her brother's inappropriate pursuit of an engaged woman.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Calling cards and social visits
In 19th century Russian society, people left calling cards when visiting and followed strict rules about when to visit whom. Not receiving visitors or going out was a social signal that something was wrong.
Modern Usage:
Like going radio silent on social media or not responding to texts - people notice when you suddenly withdraw from normal social interaction.
Chaperone system
Young unmarried women couldn't socialize freely without older women supervising them. This was supposed to protect their reputation and prevent inappropriate relationships.
Modern Usage:
Similar to how parents monitor their teens' social media or dating apps, trying to control who they interact with.
Engagement contracts
Engagements were serious business arrangements between families, not just personal promises. Breaking an engagement could ruin a woman's reputation and marriage prospects forever.
Modern Usage:
Like signing a lease or business contract - there are real consequences for backing out, even if your feelings change.
Salon culture
Wealthy women hosted regular social gatherings in their homes where people discussed politics, art, and gossip. These salons were centers of influence and matchmaking.
Modern Usage:
Like exclusive networking events or VIP parties where the real business gets done through personal connections.
Love bombing
Though not a term from Tolstoy's time, this describes Hélène's sudden intense attention and flattery toward Natasha. It's overwhelming someone with affection to manipulate them.
Modern Usage:
When someone you barely know suddenly showers you with compliments, gifts, or attention - often a red flag that they want something.
Emotional vulnerability
When we're anxious, lonely, or hurt, we become more susceptible to manipulation. Our judgment gets clouded by our need for comfort and validation.
Modern Usage:
Why people fall for scams or toxic relationships when they're going through divorce, job loss, or other stressful life changes.
Characters in This Chapter
Natasha Rostóva
Protagonist in crisis
She's spiraling with anxiety about Prince Andrew's absence and starting to doubt herself. Her emotional state makes her vulnerable to Hélène's manipulation and flattery.
Modern Equivalent:
The anxious girlfriend who overthinks every text delay and becomes easy prey for someone offering validation
Hélène Bezukhova
Manipulative socialite
Pierre's wife swoops in with charm and flattery, deliberately targeting Natasha when she's vulnerable. She plants seeds about her brother Anatole being 'in love' with Natasha.
Modern Equivalent:
The mean girl who befriends you when you're down, but only because she has an agenda
Prince Andrew
Absent fiancé
Though not physically present, his absence drives the entire chapter. Natasha's anxiety about his delay creates the emotional opening that Hélène exploits.
Modern Equivalent:
The partner who goes radio silent during a rough patch, leaving you wondering where you stand
Márya Dmítrievna
Protective guardian
She's having secret conversations with Count Rostóv about 'the situation,' trying to manage the fallout from the failed visit to Prince Andrew's family.
Modern Equivalent:
The family friend who tries to handle drama behind the scenes to protect you
Anatole Kurágin
Threat in the shadows
Though barely mentioned directly, he's the dangerous element that Hélène is introducing into Natasha's life. His 'love' for an engaged woman is completely inappropriate.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy who slides into DMs even though he knows you're in a relationship
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how manipulative people target us precisely when we're most vulnerable and desperate for validation.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone offers you exactly what you're craving during a difficult time—pause and ask what they gain from helping you.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"She continually fancied that either he would never come or that something would happen to her before he came."
Context: Describing Natasha's spiraling anxiety about Prince Andrew's absence
This shows how anxiety creates worst-case scenarios in our minds. When we're already stressed, our brain jumps to catastrophic thinking instead of reasonable explanations.
In Today's Words:
She kept imagining he was ghosting her or that she'd somehow mess everything up before he got back.
"The question again presented itself whether she was not guilty, whether she had not already broken faith with Prince Andrew."
Context: Natasha questioning her own actions and feelings
Guilt and self-doubt make us vulnerable to manipulation. When we're already questioning ourselves, we're more likely to believe someone who offers easy answers or validation.
In Today's Words:
She kept wondering if she'd already screwed up their relationship somehow.
"You are enchanting! No, I assure you, when I saw you in the theater, I thought, 'How could anyone wish to change anything in that charming creature?'"
Context: Flattering Natasha during their first real conversation
This is classic love-bombing - excessive flattery designed to make someone feel special and valued. Hélène is deliberately targeting Natasha's bruised self-esteem.
In Today's Words:
You're absolutely perfect just the way you are! Anyone who wants to change you is crazy!
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Desperate Validation
Emotional desperation makes us easy targets for people who offer exactly what we're craving while ignoring obvious red flags.
Thematic Threads
Vulnerability
In This Chapter
Natasha's anxiety about Prince Andrew's absence makes her desperate for any reassurance or attention
Development
Evolved from her earlier confidence to deep insecurity as circumstances change
In Your Life:
You become most vulnerable to manipulation when you're already stressed or doubting yourself
Manipulation
In This Chapter
Hélène uses flattery and sophisticated reasoning to normalize inappropriate behavior
Development
Introduced here as a new form of social predation
In Your Life:
Watch for people who suddenly show interest in you right when you're struggling
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Hélène reframes social rules to make Natasha's engagement seem restrictive rather than protective
Development
Continues theme of how society's rules can be twisted to serve individual agendas
In Your Life:
Be wary when someone tells you that your commitments are holding you back from 'living your life'
Isolation
In This Chapter
Natasha feels cut off from meaningful support while adults whisper about 'the situation'
Development
Growing theme of how isolation makes people susceptible to poor influences
In Your Life:
When you feel most alone is exactly when you need trusted friends most
Identity
In This Chapter
Natasha's sense of self becomes dependent on external validation rather than internal worth
Development
Continues her journey from confident young woman to someone seeking approval
In Your Life:
Your worth doesn't fluctuate based on how much attention you're getting from others
Modern Adaptation
When Validation Comes Knocking
Following Andrew's story...
Andrew's been waiting three weeks for Sarah to call back after their fight about his drinking. Every silent day makes him question everything—was he really that bad? Is she done with him? The uncertainty is eating him alive, and his sponsor keeps saying 'focus on your recovery,' but that feels impossible when his heart's breaking. Then his old party buddy Marcus shows up at the diner, all smiles and compliments. 'Man, you look great! Sarah doesn't know what she's missing.' Marcus invites him to a 'low-key gathering'—just a few beers, nothing crazy. 'You've been sober for months, you can handle it. Besides, you deserve to have some fun while Sarah figures her stuff out.' After weeks of isolation and self-doubt, Marcus's attention feels like oxygen. His logic sounds perfectly reasonable: why should Andrew sit home miserable when Sarah won't even return his calls?
The Road
The road Natasha walked in 1812, Andrew walks today. The pattern is identical: emotional vulnerability creates blind spots that manipulative people exploit by offering exactly what we're desperate to hear.
The Map
This chapter provides a vulnerability detector. When someone offers perfect validation during your worst moments, that's not rescue—it's predation.
Amplification
Before reading this, Andrew might have seen Marcus as a good friend offering support. Now he can NAME the validation trap, PREDICT where it leads (relapse and more problems), and NAVIGATE it by calling his sponsor instead.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What emotional state makes Natasha vulnerable to Hélène's influence, and how does Hélène take advantage of it?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Hélène's advice about 'enjoying society' sound reasonable to Natasha when it clearly contradicts her engagement to Prince Andrew?
analysis • medium - 3
When have you seen someone offer exactly what a vulnerable person wanted to hear? What were they really after?
application • medium - 4
What warning signs could help someone recognize when they're being targeted during an emotionally vulnerable time?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about how isolation and anxiety affect our ability to make good decisions?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Vulnerability Windows
Think about the last time you were stressed, lonely, or doubting yourself. Write down what you were craving most in that moment - validation, solutions, attention, or something else. Then identify who in your life tends to show up during these vulnerable times and what they typically want from you.
Consider:
- •Notice the timing - do certain people only reach out when you're struggling?
- •Consider what you were willing to overlook because someone was giving you what you needed
- •Think about the difference between people who support you and people who exploit your vulnerabilities
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone offered you exactly what you wanted to hear during a difficult period. Looking back, what were the red flags you missed, and how can you protect yourself from similar situations in the future?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 158: Dangerous Attraction at Hélène's Salon
What lies ahead teaches us social environments can compromise our judgment and values, and shows us physical attraction can feel like love even when it conflicts with deeper commitments. These patterns appear in literature and life alike.