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CHAPTER XII Before the beginning of the campaign, Rostóv had received a letter from his parents in which they told him briefly of Natásha’s illness and the breaking off of her engagement to Prince Andrew (which they explained by Natásha’s having rejected him) and again asked Nicholas to retire from the army and return home. On receiving this letter, Nicholas did not even make any attempt to get leave of absence or to retire from the army, but wrote to his parents that he was sorry Natásha was ill and her engagement broken off, and that he would do all he could to meet their wishes. To Sónya he wrote separately. “Adored friend of my soul!” he wrote. “Nothing but honor could keep me from returning to the country. But now, at the commencement of the campaign, I should feel dishonored, not only in my comrades’ eyes but in my own, if I preferred my own happiness to my love and duty to the Fatherland. But this shall be our last separation. Believe me, directly the war is over, if I am still alive and still loved by you, I will throw up everything and fly to you, to press you forever to my ardent breast.” It was, in fact, only the commencement of the campaign that prevented Rostóv from returning home as he had promised and marrying Sónya. The autumn in Otrádnoe with the hunting, and the winter with the Christmas holidays and Sónya’s love, had opened out to...
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Summary
Nicholas Rostóv receives devastating news from home: his sister Natásha is ill and her engagement is broken. His family begs him to come home, but he chooses to stay with his regiment as the campaign begins. He writes passionate letters about duty and honor, but Tolstoy reveals the deeper truth—Nicholas actually finds military life easier than facing his complicated family situation and marriage to Sónya. As the Russian army retreats through Poland, Nicholas throws himself into army life, earning promotions and finding genuine satisfaction in his role. When a fellow officer tells an exaggerated heroic story about General Raévski bringing his sons into battle, Nicholas recognizes it as the kind of war tale that gets embellished with each telling. His experience has taught him that real war is messier and more random than these glorious stories suggest. The chapter shows how people often use noble-sounding reasons to avoid difficult choices, and how we all participate in creating myths that make harsh realities more bearable. Nicholas has learned to find contentment by focusing on immediate tasks rather than wrestling with life's bigger questions—a survival strategy that works in war but may not serve him well in peace.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Campaign
A military operation planned to achieve specific goals, often lasting months or seasons. In this context, it refers to Napoleon's invasion of Russia in 1812. These campaigns required massive coordination and often determined the fate of nations.
Modern Usage:
We use this term for organized efforts to achieve goals, like political campaigns or marketing campaigns.
Leave of absence
Official permission for a soldier to temporarily leave military duty, usually to handle family emergencies or personal matters. Getting leave required approval from commanding officers and was not guaranteed.
Modern Usage:
Today we call this time off work for personal reasons, whether paid or unpaid leave.
Honor vs. duty conflict
The tension between personal desires and social obligations. Nicholas faces pressure to help his family while feeling bound by military duty. This creates internal conflict between what he wants and what he believes he should do.
Modern Usage:
We see this when people choose career advancement over family time, or stay in jobs they hate because they have responsibilities.
Fatherland
One's native country, viewed with deep emotional attachment and loyalty. For Russians, this concept carried special weight as they faced foreign invasion. It represents patriotic duty that transcends personal interests.
Modern Usage:
Similar to how we talk about serving your country or patriotic duty, though the emotional intensity was stronger in Tolstoy's time.
War mythology
The tendency to create heroic stories about warfare that emphasize glory and bravery while downplaying chaos and suffering. These tales get embellished with each retelling, creating legends that may have little resemblance to actual events.
Modern Usage:
We see this in how war movies romanticize combat, or how any dramatic story gets exaggerated as it spreads on social media.
Avoidance through duty
Using legitimate obligations as an excuse to avoid dealing with difficult personal situations. Nicholas uses military service to postpone making hard decisions about his family and romantic life.
Modern Usage:
Like staying late at work to avoid going home to relationship problems, or taking on extra projects to delay difficult conversations.
Characters in This Chapter
Nicholas Rostóv
conflicted protagonist
Receives urgent family news but chooses to stay with his regiment rather than go home. He writes passionate letters about duty and honor, but Tolstoy reveals he's actually avoiding difficult family responsibilities and his complicated engagement to Sónya.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who throws themselves into work to avoid dealing with family drama
Natásha
absent family member in crisis
Nicholas's sister whose illness and broken engagement create the family emergency. Though she doesn't appear in this chapter, her situation drives the main conflict between Nicholas's family obligations and military duty.
Modern Equivalent:
The family member whose crisis forces everyone else to make difficult choices
Sónya
distant romantic interest
Nicholas's fiancée who receives passionate letters promising future devotion. She represents the personal happiness Nicholas claims to sacrifice for duty, though he's actually relieved to postpone their complicated relationship.
Modern Equivalent:
The long-distance partner who gets promises about 'someday' while real issues remain unresolved
General Raévski
legendary war hero
The subject of an embellished war story about bringing his sons into battle. His tale demonstrates how war stories get mythologized, turning messy reality into inspiring legend.
Modern Equivalent:
The person whose story gets more dramatic every time someone tells it
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to spot the gap between our stated motivations and our real emotional drivers.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when your explanations for choices sound slightly defensive or overly noble—that's often where self-deception hides.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Nothing but honor could keep me from returning to the country. But now, at the commencement of the campaign, I should feel dishonored, not only in my comrades' eyes but in my own, if I preferred my own happiness to my love and duty to the Fatherland."
Context: Writing to Sónya to explain why he can't come home despite family crisis
Nicholas uses noble language about honor and duty, but Tolstoy shows us he's actually relieved to avoid complicated family situations. This reveals how we often dress up our avoidance in moral terms.
In Today's Words:
I'd look terrible if I bailed on my responsibilities right now, even though part of me wants to.
"It was, in fact, only the commencement of the campaign that prevented Rostóv from returning home as he had promised and marrying Sónya."
Context: Tolstoy's ironic observation about Nicholas's true motivations
The narrator exposes the gap between Nicholas's stated reasons and his real feelings. This shows how we convince ourselves that external circumstances force choices we secretly want to make.
In Today's Words:
The truth is, he was glad to have an excuse not to deal with his personal problems.
"The story was very pretty and interesting, especially at the point where the rivals suddenly recognized one another; and the ladies looked agitated."
Context: Nicholas listening to an embellished war story about General Raévski
This reveals how war stories get romanticized for dramatic effect, with audiences preferring exciting fiction to messy reality. Nicholas recognizes the gap between real war and these heroic tales.
In Today's Words:
It was a good story that got people excited, but it wasn't really what happened.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Noble Avoidance
Using socially acceptable reasons to justify avoiding difficult personal decisions or confrontations.
Thematic Threads
Self-Deception
In This Chapter
Nicholas genuinely believes his noble story about duty while avoiding family complications
Development
Builds on earlier examples of characters lying to themselves about their motivations
In Your Life:
You might catch yourself using 'being busy' to avoid difficult conversations or decisions.
Duty vs. Desire
In This Chapter
Nicholas frames personal avoidance as military duty and honor
Development
Continues the book's exploration of how social expectations mask personal needs
In Your Life:
You might use work obligations to avoid family responsibilities or vice versa.
Mythmaking
In This Chapter
The exaggerated story about General Raévski shows how war tales get embellished
Development
Introduced here as commentary on how we create comforting narratives
In Your Life:
You might notice how family stories or workplace legends get more dramatic with each telling.
Survival Strategies
In This Chapter
Nicholas finds contentment by focusing on immediate military tasks
Development
Develops the theme of how people cope with overwhelming complexity
In Your Life:
You might use busy work or routine tasks to avoid thinking about bigger life questions.
Social Validation
In This Chapter
Military service provides automatic social approval for Nicholas's choices
Development
Continues exploration of how society reinforces certain behaviors
In Your Life:
You might choose paths that look good to others rather than what actually serves you.
Modern Adaptation
When Duty Becomes an Escape Route
Following Andrew's story...
Andrew gets a text from his sister: their mom's been diagnosed with early dementia, and she's asking when he's coming home to help. His family needs him to move back, help with care decisions, figure out finances. But Andrew has just started volunteering at a community center, teaching kids coding basics. He writes back about his 'commitment to these underserved youth' and how he 'can't abandon them mid-program.' He posts on social media about the importance of mentorship, gets lots of supportive comments. Truth is, dealing with his mom's decline terrifies him. The volunteer work gives him clear tasks, grateful kids, simple problems with obvious solutions. Going home means watching his sharp, independent mother fade away, making impossible decisions about care, and confronting his own mortality. The coding classes feel meaningful and manageable. Family caregiving feels overwhelming and heartbreaking.
The Road
The road Nicholas walked in 1812, Andrew walks today. The pattern is identical: using noble-sounding duties to avoid painful personal reckonings that feel too big to handle.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for recognizing when we're hiding from difficult emotions behind socially acceptable excuses. Andrew can learn to pause when his explanations sound too rehearsed.
Amplification
Before reading this, Andrew might have convinced himself his volunteer work was purely altruistic. Now he can NAME the avoidance, PREDICT where it leads (family resentment, delayed grief), and NAVIGATE by either choosing the avoidance consciously or facing the fear directly.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What reasons does Nicholas give for staying with his regiment instead of going home to his family?
analysis • surface - 2
What does Tolstoy suggest are Nicholas's real motivations for avoiding home, and how does this differ from what Nicholas tells himself?
analysis • medium - 3
Can you think of a time when you or someone you know used a noble-sounding reason to avoid dealing with a difficult situation? What was really going on underneath?
application • medium - 4
When you catch yourself making excuses to avoid something hard, what's the most helpful way to handle that moment of recognition?
application • deep - 5
Why do you think we're so good at fooling ourselves with respectable excuses, and what does this reveal about how our minds protect us from uncomfortable truths?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Own Noble Excuses
Think of something important you've been putting off or avoiding. Write down the reason you usually give yourself or others for not dealing with it. Then dig deeper: what might you actually be afraid of or trying to avoid? Finally, imagine what a trusted friend might gently point out about the gap between your stated reason and your real feelings.
Consider:
- •Be honest but gentle with yourself - everyone does this
- •Look for feelings of defensiveness or rehearsed explanations as clues
- •Consider what the 'worst case scenario' might be if you faced the issue directly
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you finally faced something you'd been avoiding with noble excuses. What happened when you stopped running from it, and what did you learn about yourself in the process?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 180: Finding Joy in Simple Moments
In the next chapter, you'll discover shared experiences can transform ordinary moments into memorable ones, and learn social dynamics shift when authority figures are present versus absent. These insights reveal timeless patterns that resonate in our own lives and relationships.