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CHAPTER XX After Pierre’s departure that first evening, when Natásha had said to Princess Mary with a gaily mocking smile: “He looks just, yes, just as if he had come out of a Russian bath—in a short coat and with his hair cropped,” something hidden and unknown to herself, but irrepressible, awoke in Natásha’s soul. Everything: her face, walk, look, and voice, was suddenly altered. To her own surprise a power of life and hope of happiness rose to the surface and demanded satisfaction. From that evening she seemed to have forgotten all that had happened to her. She no longer complained of her position, did not say a word about the past, and no longer feared to make happy plans for the future. She spoke little of Pierre, but when Princess Mary mentioned him a long-extinguished light once more kindled in her eyes and her lips curved with a strange smile. The change that took place in Natásha at first surprised Princess Mary; but when she understood its meaning it grieved her. “Can she have loved my brother so little as to be able to forget him so soon?” she thought when she reflected on the change. But when she was with Natásha she was not vexed with her and did not reproach her. The reawakened power of life that had seized Natásha was so evidently irrepressible and unexpected by her that in her presence Princess Mary felt that she had no right to reproach her even in her...
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Summary
After Pierre's visit, Natasha undergoes a dramatic transformation that surprises everyone, including herself. The young woman who had been consumed by grief over Prince Andrew's death suddenly comes alive again—her voice, walk, and entire demeanor change overnight. She stops dwelling on past sorrows and begins making plans for the future, though she barely mentions Pierre directly. When Princess Mary sees this change, she's conflicted. Part of her is hurt, wondering if Natasha could have loved her brother so little to forget him so quickly. But she also recognizes that Natasha's reawakening seems beyond her control—a natural force of life reasserting itself. The tension comes to a head when Natasha eagerly asks if Pierre has declared his feelings. When Princess Mary confirms he has but mentions he's leaving for Petersburg, Natasha is stunned. More importantly, she notices Princess Mary's sadness and suddenly feels guilty about her own joy. She breaks down crying and asks for guidance: 'Tell me what I should do! I am afraid of being bad.' This moment captures the complex emotions around moving forward after loss—the guilt that accompanies new happiness, the fear of dishonoring the dead, and the need for permission to live again. Princess Mary, recognizing Natasha's genuine struggle, forgives her joy and blesses the potential union, though she draws boundaries about discussing her own romantic prospects.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Reawakened power of life
The natural force that pulls people back toward hope and happiness after grief or trauma. Tolstoy presents this as an irrepressible biological drive that happens whether we want it or not.
Modern Usage:
We see this when someone starts dating again after a divorce, or when a grieving person suddenly finds themselves laughing at a joke and feels guilty about it.
Survivor's guilt
The complex emotions that arise when someone begins to heal or feel joy after loss. The person feels they're betraying the dead by moving forward with their life.
Modern Usage:
Common after deaths, breakups, or trauma - feeling bad for enjoying yourself when someone you loved is gone or suffering.
Social permission to grieve
The unspoken rules about how long someone should mourn and when it's acceptable to move on. Different people have different timelines for what seems 'appropriate.'
Modern Usage:
When friends judge someone for dating 'too soon' after a breakup, or when family members have different ideas about when to stop wearing black.
Emotional transformation
A sudden, dramatic change in someone's entire demeanor and outlook. Tolstoy shows how love or hope can literally change how someone walks, talks, and carries themselves.
Modern Usage:
When someone falls in love or gets exciting news and suddenly seems like a completely different person - more confident, energetic, glowing.
Conflicted loyalty
Being torn between supporting someone's happiness and feeling they're dishonoring a shared loss. Princess Mary wants Natasha to be happy but feels protective of her dead brother's memory.
Modern Usage:
When your best friend starts dating right after a bad breakup and you're happy for them but also think they're moving too fast.
Russian bath
A traditional steam bath that leaves people looking refreshed, clean, and glowing. Natasha uses this comparison to describe how healthy and renewed Pierre looks.
Modern Usage:
Like saying someone looks like they just came from a spa day or got a makeover - refreshed and revitalized.
Characters in This Chapter
Natasha
Protagonist experiencing emotional rebirth
Undergoes a complete transformation after Pierre's visit, moving from grief-stricken mourning to vibrant hope. Her sudden change reveals the power of love to resurrect someone from emotional death, but also her guilt about moving on from Prince Andrew.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who's been depressed for months then suddenly starts wearing makeup and making plans again
Princess Mary
Conflicted observer and moral guide
Struggles with mixed feelings about Natasha's transformation - hurt that her brother might be forgotten so quickly, but also recognizing Natasha's right to happiness. She ultimately chooses to bless the relationship despite her own pain.
Modern Equivalent:
The protective sister-in-law who has to watch her brother's ex move on
Pierre
Catalyst for transformation
Though barely present in the chapter, his previous visit has awakened Natasha from her grief. His declaration of love and impending departure to Petersburg creates urgency and emotional stakes.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy whose one honest conversation changes everything but then has to leave town for work
Prince Andrew
Absent but influential presence
Though dead, his memory haunts the chapter as both women grapple with what it means to honor him while allowing life to continue. His ghost shapes their guilt and permissions around new love.
Modern Equivalent:
The deceased spouse whose memory affects every new relationship decision
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to identify when loyalty becomes self-punishment and joy feels morally wrong after loss.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you feel guilty about good things happening after someone left your life—ask yourself what they would actually want for you.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"He looks just, yes, just as if he had come out of a Russian bath—in a short coat and with his hair cropped"
Context: Describing Pierre after his visit, seemingly casually but revealing her attraction
This playful observation masks deeper feelings. Natasha notices Pierre's vitality and renewal, which mirrors her own transformation. The casual tone hides the fact that she's really seeing him as a man for the first time.
In Today's Words:
He looks so fresh and put-together, like he just got a complete makeover
"Can she have loved my brother so little as to be able to forget him so soon?"
Context: Princess Mary's internal struggle watching Natasha's rapid recovery
This captures the painful question survivors face - does moving on mean the love wasn't real? Princess Mary judges Natasha's timeline while not understanding that healing doesn't diminish past love.
In Today's Words:
If she really loved him, how can she be over it already?
"Tell me what I should do! I am afraid of being bad"
Context: Breaking down when she realizes her joy might hurt Princess Mary
Natasha's vulnerability shows she knows her happiness feels wrong to others. She needs permission to feel joy again, revealing how social judgment can make natural healing feel like betrayal.
In Today's Words:
I don't know if it's okay to be happy right now - tell me I'm not a terrible person
"The reawakened power of life that had seized Natasha was so evidently irrepressible and unexpected by her"
Context: Explaining why Princess Mary can't stay angry at Natasha
Tolstoy presents life force as something that happens TO us, not something we choose. This removes moral judgment from Natasha's healing, making it a natural phenomenon rather than a character flaw.
In Today's Words:
She couldn't help feeling alive again - it just happened to her whether she wanted it or not
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Survivor's Guilt - When New Joy Feels Like Betrayal
The belief that moving forward after loss somehow dishonors or betrays those we've lost, creating a trap where joy feels morally wrong.
Thematic Threads
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Natasha's sudden transformation from grief to vibrant life shows how growth often happens in dramatic leaps rather than gradual steps
Development
Evolved from earlier themes of gradual character development to show how external events can trigger rapid internal change
In Your Life:
You might experience this during major life transitions when you suddenly see yourself and your possibilities differently
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Princess Mary's conflicted response to Natasha's change reveals how others' transformations can trigger our own insecurities and judgments
Development
Deepened from earlier relationship dynamics to explore how personal change affects those around us
In Your Life:
You might feel threatened when friends or family members make positive changes that highlight your own stagnation
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Natasha's fear of 'being bad' for feeling joy reflects society's unwritten rules about appropriate grief timelines and behavior
Development
Continued exploration of how social norms constrain individual emotional expression and healing
In Your Life:
You might police your own emotions based on what others expect rather than what you actually feel
Identity
In This Chapter
Natasha's struggle between her grieving self and her emerging joyful self shows the discomfort of identity shifts
Development
Advanced from earlier identity themes to show how we can feel guilty about positive changes in ourselves
In Your Life:
You might resist personal growth because it means leaving behind familiar versions of yourself, even painful ones
Modern Adaptation
When Joy Feels Like Betrayal
Following Andrew's story...
After his mentor Jake died in a workplace accident, Andrew has been going through the motions at the factory for months. But after reconnecting with Sarah, a coworker who knew Jake well, something shifts overnight. Andrew finds himself laughing again, making plans for the weekend, even humming while he works. His supervisor notices the change, and so does Maria, Jake's daughter who works in the office. When Andrew realizes he's been happy—actually happy—for the first time since Jake's death, guilt crashes over him. He confesses to Maria: 'I feel like I'm betraying your dad's memory. How can I be okay when he's gone?' Maria sees his struggle and her own mixed emotions. Part of her resents how quickly Andrew seems to have 'moved on,' but she also recognizes something her father would have wanted: Andrew choosing life over endless grief.
The Road
The road Natasha walked in 1812, Andrew walks today. The pattern is identical: survivor's guilt makes joy feel like betrayal, requiring permission from others to live again after loss.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for recognizing survivor's guilt and understanding that moving forward doesn't dishonor the dead. Andrew can use this to separate grief from loyalty.
Amplification
Before reading this, Andrew might have sabotaged his own happiness to prove his loyalty to Jake's memory. Now he can NAME survivor's guilt, PREDICT its emotional traps, and NAVIGATE toward healing without betrayal.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific changes does everyone notice in Natasha after Pierre's visit, and how does she react when she learns he's leaving for Petersburg?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Natasha suddenly feel guilty about her happiness and ask Princess Mary if she's 'being bad'?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this pattern of feeling guilty about moving forward after loss in modern life - at work, in relationships, or in families?
application • medium - 4
If someone you cared about was struggling with survivor's guilt like Natasha, what would you tell them about honoring the past while embracing the future?
application • deep - 5
What does Natasha's transformation teach us about the difference between healthy grief and getting stuck in guilt?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Write Your Permission Letter
Think of a time when you felt guilty about moving forward after a loss, change, or difficult situation. Write a brief letter from the perspective of someone who loved you - maybe the person you lost, your former self, or even an imaginary wise friend. What would they want you to know about embracing new opportunities or happiness?
Consider:
- •Focus on what someone who truly loved you would want for your life
- •Consider how staying stuck might actually dishonor their memory or sacrifice
- •Think about the difference between remembering someone and imprisoning yourself in grief
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you held yourself back from something good because it felt disloyal to your past. What would it look like to honor that past while still moving forward?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 338: The Impossibility of Perfect Judgment
What lies ahead teaches us historical figures are judged unfairly by later generations, and shows us power and circumstances shape decision-making more than character. These patterns appear in literature and life alike.