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CHAPTER VI Having thanked Anna Pávlovna for her charming soiree, the guests began to take their leave. Pierre was ungainly. Stout, about the average height, broad, with huge red hands; he did not know, as the saying is, how to enter a drawing room and still less how to leave one; that is, how to say something particularly agreeable before going away. Besides this he was absent-minded. When he rose to go, he took up instead of his own, the general’s three-cornered hat, and held it, pulling at the plume, till the general asked him to restore it. All his absent-mindedness and inability to enter a room and converse in it was, however, redeemed by his kindly, simple, and modest expression. Anna Pávlovna turned toward him and, with a Christian mildness that expressed forgiveness of his indiscretion, nodded and said: “I hope to see you again, but I also hope you will change your opinions, my dear Monsieur Pierre.” When she said this, he did not reply and only bowed, but again everybody saw his smile, which said nothing, unless perhaps, “Opinions are opinions, but you see what a capital, good-natured fellow I am.” And everyone, including Anna Pávlovna, felt this. Prince Andrew had gone out into the hall, and, turning his shoulders to the footman who was helping him on with his cloak, listened indifferently to his wife’s chatter with Prince Hippolyte who had also come into the hall. Prince Hippolyte stood close to the pretty, pregnant princess, and...
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Summary
As Anna Pavlovna's salon winds down, we see three men dealing with social expectations in very different ways. Pierre stumbles through his goodbye—literally grabbing the wrong hat and fumbling with pleasantries—but his genuine kindness shines through his clumsiness. Everyone feels drawn to his authentic, bumbling nature despite his social missteps. Meanwhile, Prince Hippolyte flirts shamelessly with Andrew's pregnant wife, wrapping her in her shawl with obvious inappropriate intentions while Andrew watches with weary indifference. The contrast is stark: Pierre's awkwardness comes from sincerity, while Hippolyte's smooth charm masks selfishness. Later, alone together, Andrew presses Pierre about choosing a career—military or diplomatic service. But Pierre is wrestling with bigger questions about the war against Napoleon, wondering if it's morally right to fight the 'greatest man in the world' just to help England and Austria. Andrew dismisses these philosophical concerns as childish, but when Pierre asks why Andrew himself is going to war, the answer reveals everything: 'I am going because the life I am leading here does not suit me!' Andrew isn't fighting for noble causes—he's running away from his unhappy marriage and empty social life. This chapter brilliantly shows how we often judge people by their social polish when we should be looking at their hearts, and how the biggest life decisions are sometimes made for the most personal, desperate reasons.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
salon culture
Elite social gatherings in aristocratic homes where people came to network, gossip, and discuss politics and ideas. These weren't parties for fun—they were strategic social events where careers were made and broken through connections.
Modern Usage:
Like networking events, corporate mixers, or even strategic social media presence—places where you perform your social value.
social awkwardness vs. authenticity
The contrast between people who are smooth in social situations but shallow, versus those who stumble socially but are genuinely good-hearted. Tolstoy shows how we often value the wrong qualities in people.
Modern Usage:
Think of the colleague who's great at office politics but backstabs everyone, versus the coworker who's awkward in meetings but always has your back.
drawing room etiquette
Complex social rules about how to enter, behave in, and leave aristocratic social spaces. Knowing these rules marked you as belonging to high society—breaking them marked you as an outsider.
Modern Usage:
Like knowing unwritten workplace culture rules, or how to act at upscale restaurants, or social media etiquette—invisible codes that signal your status.
absent-mindedness as character trait
Pierre's tendency to be lost in thought and make social mistakes. In Tolstoy's world, this often signals someone who thinks deeply about important things rather than focusing on shallow social performance.
Modern Usage:
The person who forgets names at parties because they're actually listening to what people say, or who's bad at small talk because they're thinking about bigger issues.
marriage as social prison
In aristocratic society, marriages were often arranged for political or financial reasons, leaving spouses trapped in relationships without love or compatibility. This created deep unhappiness beneath polished social surfaces.
Modern Usage:
Any situation where you feel stuck in a life that looks good from the outside but makes you miserable—wrong career, wrong relationship, wrong social circle.
philosophical vs. practical worldview
The tension between Pierre's big moral questions about war and justice versus Andrew's practical cynicism about personal motivations. Shows two different ways of approaching life's big decisions.
Modern Usage:
Like debating whether to take a job at a company with questionable ethics (philosophical) versus just needing to pay the bills (practical).
Characters in This Chapter
Pierre
awkward truth-teller
Stumbles through social situations but wins people over with his genuine kindness and sincerity. His clumsiness with the hat and inability to make smooth conversation actually make him more likeable because people sense his authenticity.
Modern Equivalent:
The coworker who's terrible at presentations but everyone trusts because they're genuinely caring and honest
Anna Pávlovna
social orchestrator
Hosts the salon and tries to manage everyone's behavior and opinions. She forgives Pierre's social mistakes with 'Christian mildness' but clearly wants to control what people think and how they act.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who always hosts gatherings but tries to manage everyone's conversations and relationships
Prince Hippolyte
smooth operator
Flirts inappropriately with Andrew's pregnant wife, showing how social polish can mask selfish behavior. He knows exactly how to behave in social situations but uses that skill for his own gratification.
Modern Equivalent:
The charming guy who hits on married women at office parties—socially smooth but morally questionable
Prince Andrew
disillusioned aristocrat
Watches his wife being flirted with and feels nothing but weary indifference. Reveals he's going to war not for noble reasons but because he's desperately unhappy with his current life and marriage.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who takes a job across the country not for career advancement but to escape a life that's suffocating them
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to separate someone's social polish from their actual integrity and intentions.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone's smooth delivery doesn't match their follow-through, or when someone awkward consistently shows up for others.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"I hope to see you again, but I also hope you will change your opinions, my dear Monsieur Pierre."
Context: Said as Pierre is leaving the salon after his awkward goodbye
Shows how social hosts try to control not just behavior but thoughts. Anna Pávlovna can't just let Pierre be himself—she needs him to think the 'right' way too. It reveals the suffocating nature of high society.
In Today's Words:
Nice seeing you, but I really hope you'll start thinking like the rest of us.
"Opinions are opinions, but you see what a capital, good-natured fellow I am."
Context: Pierre's wordless response to Anna Pávlovna's attempt to change his mind
Pierre doesn't argue or defend his views—his smile just says he's a good person regardless of his opinions. It shows his wisdom in not getting drawn into pointless debates and letting his character speak for itself.
In Today's Words:
We can disagree and I can still be a decent human being.
"I am going because the life I am leading here does not suit me!"
Context: When Pierre asks why Andrew is really going to war
This brutally honest admission reveals that Andrew's military service isn't about patriotism or duty—it's about escaping an unbearable domestic life. It shows how we often make major life changes for deeply personal, even desperate reasons.
In Today's Words:
I'm leaving because I can't stand my life here anymore!
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Surface vs. Substance
We judge people by social polish and confidence when we should evaluate them by character and consistent actions.
Thematic Threads
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Pierre fails at salon etiquette but succeeds at human connection, while Hippolyte excels at social graces but violates basic decency
Development
Building from earlier salon scenes—now we see the consequences of prioritizing form over substance
In Your Life:
You might find yourself impressed by smooth talkers while overlooking the reliable, less polished people who actually deliver.
Identity
In This Chapter
Pierre struggles with career choices and moral questions about the war, seeking authentic purpose rather than social advancement
Development
Pierre's identity crisis deepens—he wants meaning, not just position
In Your Life:
You face similar pressure to choose careers based on status rather than what aligns with your values.
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Andrew reveals he's going to war not for noble reasons but to escape his unhappy life—a moment of brutal self-awareness
Development
First glimpse of Andrew's inner truth beneath his cynical exterior
In Your Life:
You might recognize making major life changes for escape rather than growth—running from problems instead of solving them.
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
The contrast between Pierre's genuine care for others and Hippolyte's predatory charm toward Andrew's wife
Development
Introduced here as a key measure of character
In Your Life:
You can assess people's character by watching how they treat those in vulnerable positions.
Class
In This Chapter
Social polish and breeding are shown to be poor indicators of worth—Pierre's awkwardness versus Hippolyte's refinement
Development
Continues the theme that aristocratic manners don't equal moral superiority
In Your Life:
You might defer too much to people with credentials or smooth presentation while undervaluing authentic, less polished individuals.
Modern Adaptation
When the Smooth Talker Gets the Raise
Following Andrew's story...
At the hospital break room farewell party for a retiring nurse, Andrew fumbles his goodbye speech, drops his coffee, and accidentally takes someone else's jacket. But his genuine words about how much the retiree meant to everyone bring tears to her eyes. Meanwhile, Marcus—the charge nurse everyone calls 'smooth'—delivers a polished tribute that sounds great but feels hollow. Later, Marcus corners Sarah, the pregnant new hire, offering to 'show her the ropes' with obvious ulterior motives while her husband watches uncomfortably from across the room. Everyone notices Marcus's inappropriate behavior, but his charm and connections protect him. Andrew, despite his awkwardness, becomes the person people actually trust with their problems. When Andrew questions whether he should apply for the supervisor position, wondering if he's qualified enough, his friend challenges him: 'You're running from responsibility because you think you're not polished enough. But look who they promoted last time—and look how that turned out.'
The Road
The road Andrew walked in 1805 St. Petersburg salons, Andrew walks today in hospital break rooms. The pattern is identical: society rewards smooth performance over genuine character, while the awkward but authentic struggle with self-doubt.
The Map
This chapter provides a character evaluation system: judge people by their consistency when no one important is watching, not by their social polish. Look for the gap between public performance and private behavior.
Amplification
Before reading this, Andrew might have assumed his awkwardness disqualified him from leadership and envied smooth operators like Marcus. Now he can NAME the difference between performance and character, PREDICT that charm without substance eventually fails, and NAVIGATE by developing his authentic strengths rather than mimicking hollow polish.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Why does everyone feel drawn to Pierre despite his social awkwardness, while Hippolyte's smooth charm makes people uncomfortable?
analysis • surface - 2
What does Andrew's real reason for going to war ('the life I am leading here does not suit me') reveal about how we make major life decisions?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about your workplace or school. Who gets more respect - the smooth talkers or the genuine workers? How does this play out?
application • medium - 4
When you're evaluating someone's character, what specific behaviors do you look for beyond how confidently they speak?
application • deep - 5
Why do we often run toward dramatic changes (like Andrew joining the war) when we're unhappy, instead of addressing the real problems?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Character vs. Performance Audit
Think of three people you interact with regularly - at work, in your family, or in your community. For each person, write down what makes them seem competent or trustworthy at first glance, then write what you've observed about their actual character over time. Look for gaps between the surface impression and the deeper reality.
Consider:
- •Notice whether smooth communication always matches reliable follow-through
- •Consider how each person treats people who can't help them advance
- •Observe whether their private actions align with their public statements
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you misjudged someone based on their social polish (either positively or negatively). What did you learn about reading character versus reading performance?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 7: The Strain of War Preparations
The coming pages reveal unspoken tensions can poison intimate relationships, and teach us timing matters when discussing life-changing decisions. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.