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CHAPTER XIII Of other benefits which this night of sense causes in the soul. In the dryness and emptiness of this dark night of desire, wherein the soul leaves all things behind and is brought low in its own eyes, there is gained that spiritual humility which is the opposite of the spiritual pride which it had as a beginner. By means of this dark night the soul also acquires true obedience to God's will, freeing itself from the desires and attachments to its own will and pleasure. The soul also learns to walk in purity of faith, without seeking visions, sweetness, or any other kind of sign. Thus faith increases, and with faith, hope and charity. God humbles the soul greatly in order that He may afterwards exalt it greatly; and if He did not ordain that, when these tempests assail the soul, it should feel them but little, and that they should speedily come to an end, it would be impossible for it to endure them.
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Summary
John reveals the unexpected gifts that come from spiritual dryness and emptiness. When we feel abandoned and stripped of comfort, we're actually receiving three crucial benefits. First, we develop real humility - not the fake modesty of beginners who secretly think they're special, but the genuine recognition of our actual place in the world. Second, we learn true obedience to life's larger patterns rather than demanding things go our way. We stop chasing after signs, feelings, or proof that we're on the right path. Third, our faith, hope, and love actually grow stronger because they're no longer dependent on good feelings or dramatic experiences. John explains that God allows us to feel small and lost precisely so we can later be lifted up authentically. These difficult periods are like spiritual boot camp - they feel overwhelming, but they're designed to be temporary and survivable. The key insight is that what feels like spiritual failure is actually spiritual progress. When we stop getting the emotional rewards we used to receive from our spiritual practices, we're not going backward - we're graduating to a more mature level. This emptiness isn't punishment; it's preparation. Just as a muscle grows stronger when it works against resistance, our spiritual life becomes more solid when it's tested by apparent absence rather than comforted by obvious presence.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Dark Night of the Senses
A spiritual phase where all the emotional rewards and good feelings from prayer or religious practice suddenly dry up. The person feels spiritually empty and abandoned, even though they're still doing all the right things.
Modern Usage:
Like when you've been working hard at something meaningful - fitness, sobriety, a relationship - and suddenly lose all motivation and good feelings about it, even though you know it's still important.
Spiritual Pride
The subtle arrogance that comes from feeling special or advanced because of your spiritual experiences. Beginners often mistake emotional highs for spiritual progress and feel superior to others.
Modern Usage:
Like people who become insufferable after starting yoga, therapy, or any self-improvement journey - they think their new insights make them better than everyone else.
Purity of Faith
Believing and trusting without needing constant proof, signs, or emotional validation. It's faith that doesn't depend on feeling good or seeing results.
Modern Usage:
Like staying committed to your values or goals even when you can't see progress and don't feel motivated - doing the right thing without needing a reward.
Divine Humbling
The process where life strips away your illusions of control and specialness, forcing you to see your actual place in the world. It feels terrible but leads to authentic growth.
Modern Usage:
Like getting laid off from a job you thought made you important, or having a health scare that reminds you you're not invincible - painful but ultimately grounding experiences.
Spiritual Dryness
A period where prayer, meditation, or spiritual practices feel empty and meaningless, even though you continue them. Nothing brings the comfort or insight it used to.
Modern Usage:
Like when hobbies or activities that used to energize you suddenly feel pointless, but you keep doing them anyway because you know they're good for you.
Detachment from Own Will
Learning to stop demanding that life go according to your personal preferences and timeline. It's accepting that your individual desires aren't the center of the universe.
Modern Usage:
Like finally accepting that your adult children will make their own choices, or that your career won't follow the exact path you planned.
Characters in This Chapter
The Beginner Soul
Spiritual novice
Represents someone early in their spiritual journey who mistakes emotional highs for real progress. They feel special because of their experiences and judge others who seem less advanced.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who gets really into wellness culture and starts lecturing everyone about their lifestyle choices
The Soul in the Dark Night
Protagonist undergoing transformation
The person experiencing spiritual dryness and emptiness. They feel abandoned and lost but are actually being prepared for deeper growth through this difficult passage.
Modern Equivalent:
Someone going through a rough patch who feels like they're failing but is actually developing real resilience
God
Divine guide and teacher
The force that allows the soul to experience emptiness not as punishment but as preparation. Works through apparent absence to build authentic strength and humility.
Modern Equivalent:
Life itself - the way difficult experiences teach us what easy times never could
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to identify when apparent regression is actually progression to a more mature level of capability.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when something that used to feel easy now feels difficult - that's often a sign you're being challenged to develop real competence rather than relying on beginner's luck.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"God humbles the soul greatly in order that He may afterwards exalt it greatly"
Context: Explaining why the dark night feels so difficult and why it's actually beneficial
This reveals the paradoxical nature of spiritual growth - we have to be brought low before we can be authentically lifted up. It's not about punishment but about preparation for something greater.
In Today's Words:
Sometimes life has to knock you down a few pegs before you can actually grow into who you're meant to be.
"The soul also learns to walk in purity of faith, without seeking visions, sweetness, or any other kind of sign"
Context: Describing what the soul gains from the dark night experience
This shows maturity - moving from needing constant validation and proof to being able to trust and act without immediate rewards. It's about developing internal strength rather than depending on external signs.
In Today's Words:
You learn to do the right thing even when you don't feel like it and can't see the results.
"In the dryness and emptiness of this dark night of desire, wherein the soul leaves all things behind and is brought low in its own eyes, there is gained that spiritual humility"
Context: Opening explanation of the unexpected benefits of spiritual emptiness
This introduces the central paradox - what feels like loss is actually gain. The emptiness that seems like failure is actually teaching real humility, which is the foundation for authentic growth.
In Today's Words:
When you feel like you've lost everything and see yourself clearly for the first time, that's when you actually start to get humble for real.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Earned Strength
Real capability develops not when we feel supported and successful, but when external rewards disappear and we must rely on internal resources.
Thematic Threads
Growth
In This Chapter
John shows that spiritual advancement requires periods of feeling abandoned and empty, not constant comfort and validation
Development
Builds on earlier themes about beginners needing to be weaned from spiritual consolations
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when mastering any skill requires pushing through phases where progress feels invisible
Humility
In This Chapter
True humility emerges from being stripped of false confidence and special feelings, not from pretending to be modest
Development
Deepens the earlier discussion of pride and self-deception in spiritual practice
In Your Life:
You see this when real competence at work comes from acknowledging what you don't know, not from acting humble while secretly thinking you're better than others
Faith
In This Chapter
Genuine faith grows stronger when it no longer depends on emotional rewards or obvious signs of progress
Development
Continues the theme of moving beyond beginner's need for constant spiritual consolation
In Your Life:
You experience this in any long-term commitment—marriage, parenting, career—where real dedication shows up when the initial excitement fades
Identity
In This Chapter
John reveals that feeling ordinary and unremarkable is often a sign of authentic spiritual progress, not failure
Development
Challenges earlier assumptions about spiritual identity being marked by special experiences
In Your Life:
You might see this when your professional identity shifts from needing to prove yourself to simply doing good work without fanfare
Expectations
In This Chapter
The chapter shows that expecting constant positive feedback and dramatic progress actually prevents real development
Development
Builds on themes about letting go of how we think spiritual life should feel
In Your Life:
You encounter this when learning that sustainable relationships require giving up the expectation of constant romance and excitement
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Juan's story...
Maya thought the promotion to shift supervisor would finally prove her worth. For six months, she'd felt confident, appreciated, respected by her team. Then budget cuts hit. Her schedule got slashed, her team resented the new rules she had to enforce, and management stopped returning her calls. The recognition dried up. The sense of purpose evaporated. She started questioning everything - was she cut out for this? Had she been fooling herself? The job that once made her feel special now made her feel invisible. Her old enthusiasm felt fake, her confidence shattered. She found herself working harder than ever but getting less appreciation than when she was just another CNA. The promotion that was supposed to elevate her had somehow made her feel smaller, more uncertain, more alone. She couldn't shake the feeling that she was failing at something she'd once been good at, that maybe she'd never been as capable as she thought.
The Road
The road Saint Juan walked in 1578, Maya walks today. The pattern is identical: what feels like spiritual or professional failure is actually graduation to a more mature level of capability.
The Map
This chapter provides a framework for recognizing earned strength - understanding that real competence develops when external validation disappears. Maya can use this to distinguish between actual failure and the natural progression from beginner's rewards to expert-level resilience.
Amplification
Before reading this, Maya might have interpreted the loss of good feelings as proof she wasn't meant for leadership. Now she can NAME it as the resistance-training phase, PREDICT that this emptiness is temporary preparation, and NAVIGATE it by building strength that doesn't depend on applause.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
According to John, what three specific benefits do people gain during periods of spiritual emptiness and dryness?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does John argue that feeling abandoned or stripped of comfort is actually a sign of progress rather than failure?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this pattern of 'no rewards during real growth' in modern life - at work, in relationships, or personal development?
application • medium - 4
How would you help someone who's in their own 'dark night' - feeling like they're failing when they might actually be growing?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter suggest about the difference between strength that depends on external validation versus strength that doesn't?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Growth Phases
Think of something you've gotten good at - a job skill, parenting, a hobby, or overcoming a personal challenge. Draw a simple timeline showing three phases: the honeymoon period when you got lots of encouragement, the middle phase when support disappeared and it got hard, and where you are now. Mark what you learned in each phase.
Consider:
- •Notice whether your real skills developed during the easy or difficult phases
- •Identify what kept you going when external rewards disappeared
- •Consider how recognizing this pattern might help you navigate current challenges
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you felt like you were failing or going backward, but later realized you were actually developing important strength or skills during that difficult period.
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 14: When Love Burns Through Emptiness
Moving forward, we'll examine spiritual dryness can actually fuel deeper longing, and understand removing comfort leads to genuine transformation. These insights bridge the gap between classic literature and modern experience.