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BOOK XI. HSIEN TSIN. CHAP. I. 1. The Master said, 'The men of former times, in the matters of ceremonies and music were rustics, it is said, while the men of these latter times, in ceremonies and music, are accomplished gentlemen. 2. 'If I have occasion to use those things, I follow the men of former times.' CHAP. II. 1. The Master said, 'Of those who were with me in Ch'an and Ts'ai, there are none to be found to enter my door.' 2. Distinguished for their virtuous principles and practice, there were Yen Yuan, Min Tsze-ch'ien, Zan Po-niu, and Chung-kung; for their ability in speech, Tsai Wo and Tsze-kung; for their adminis- trative talents, Zan Yu and Chi Lu; for their literary acquirements, Tsze-yu and Tsze-hsia. CHAP. III. The Master said, 'Hui gives me no assistance. There is nothing that I say in which he does not delight.' CHAP. IV. The Master said, 'Filial indeed is Min Tsze-ch'ien! Other people say nothing of him different from the report of his parents and brothers.' CHAP. V. Nan Yung was frequently repeating the lines about a white scepter stone. Confucius gave him the daughter of his elder brother to wife. CHAP. VI. Chi K'ang asked which of the disciples loved to learn. Confucius replied to him, 'There was Yen Hui; he loved to learn. Unfortunately his appointed time was short, and he died. Now there is no one who loves to learn, as he did.' CHAP. VII. 1. When Yen Yuan...
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Summary
This chapter reveals Confucius as a master teacher who understands that one size doesn't fit all. Through intimate portraits of his students, we see how he adapts his guidance to each person's temperament. When the impulsive Tsze-lu asks about taking immediate action, Confucius tells him to consult his family first. But when the hesitant Zan Yu asks the same question, the teacher urges him to act right away. The chapter's emotional heart comes with the death of Yen Yuan, Confucius's most beloved student. The teacher's raw grief - crying out that 'Heaven is destroying me!' - shows us that meaningful mentorship involves real love and loss. His students want to give Yen Yuan an elaborate funeral, but Confucius refuses, later explaining that while Yen treated him like a father, he couldn't treat Yen like a son due to social boundaries. The chapter ends with a beautiful scene where four students share their dreams. Three want political power and influence, but Tien simply wishes to enjoy a spring day by the river with friends, washing, feeling the breeze, and singing on the way home. Confucius approves of this simple vision, suggesting that sometimes the most profound wisdom lies not in grand ambitions but in appreciating life's simple pleasures. This teaches us that effective leadership means knowing your people deeply enough to guide each one differently.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Filial piety
The Confucian virtue of honoring and caring for your parents and elders. It meant absolute respect, obedience, and putting family needs before your own desires. This was considered the foundation of all other virtues in Chinese society.
Modern Usage:
We see this in cultures that expect adult children to care for aging parents, or in workplace dynamics where respect for seniority is paramount.
Ceremonial propriety
The proper way to conduct rituals, social interactions, and formal occasions according to established traditions. Confucius believed these ceremonies taught people their place in society and how to treat others with respect.
Modern Usage:
This shows up in everything from wedding etiquette to workplace protocols - knowing how to behave appropriately in different social situations.
Administrative talent
The practical ability to organize people, manage resources, and get things done efficiently. Confucius valued this as much as book learning because society needs people who can execute ideas in the real world.
Modern Usage:
These are the people who become great managers, project coordinators, or anyone who can turn chaos into order and make systems work.
Virtue through example
The idea that good character is taught more through modeling behavior than through lectures or rules. Confucius believed people learn virtue by watching and imitating those they respect.
Modern Usage:
This is why 'leading by example' is still considered the most effective management style, and why kids pick up their parents' habits more than their words.
Differentiated instruction
Adapting your teaching or guidance style to match each person's individual personality, strengths, and weaknesses. Confucius gave opposite advice to different students based on their temperaments.
Modern Usage:
Good managers, parents, and coaches know you can't treat everyone the same way - some people need encouragement while others need tough love.
Social boundaries
The understood limits of relationships based on class, position, or role in society. Even close relationships had rules about what was appropriate behavior between people of different social ranks.
Modern Usage:
We still navigate this in workplace relationships, where you might be friends with your boss but there are still professional boundaries to maintain.
Characters in This Chapter
Confucius
Master teacher and mentor
Shows deep understanding of his students' individual personalities, adapting his guidance to each one's needs. His genuine grief over Yen Yuan's death reveals the emotional investment he has in his students' lives.
Modern Equivalent:
The beloved coach or teacher who knows exactly what each student needs to hear
Yen Yuan (Hui)
Beloved star student
Described as the one who truly loved learning and never disagreed with Confucius. His early death devastates his teacher, showing the deep bond between them and the tragedy of lost potential.
Modern Equivalent:
The promising student who dies young - the one everyone says 'could have changed the world'
Tsze-lu
Impulsive, action-oriented student
Represents those who act first and think later. When he asks about taking immediate action, Confucius tells him to consult his family first, knowing he needs to slow down.
Modern Equivalent:
The coworker who volunteers for everything without thinking it through
Zan Yu
Hesitant, overthinking student
The opposite of Tsze-lu - he tends to hesitate and second-guess himself. When he asks the same question as Tsze-lu, Confucius encourages him to act immediately.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who analyzes every decision to death and needs a push to take action
Tien
Simple, content student
While others dream of political power, he simply wants to enjoy a spring day by the river with friends. Confucius approves of this modest vision, suggesting wisdom lies in appreciating simple pleasures.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who chooses work-life balance over climbing the corporate ladder
Min Tsze-ch'ien
Model of filial devotion
Praised for his exceptional treatment of his parents. Even his family members have nothing but good things to say about him, which was remarkable in a culture that valued family harmony.
Modern Equivalent:
The adult child who everyone wishes they had - always there for family, never causes drama
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to observe people's natural patterns and adapt your communication style to what they actually need rather than what feels comfortable to you.
Practice This Today
This week, notice whether people in your life tend to be impulsive or hesitant, then try giving them opposite types of advice—restraint for the impulsive, encouragement for the hesitant.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"If I have occasion to use those things, I follow the men of former times."
Context: Discussing whether to follow traditional ceremonies or modern innovations
Confucius values the wisdom of the past over contemporary trends. He believes older traditions contain tested wisdom that shouldn't be abandoned for the sake of appearing sophisticated.
In Today's Words:
When in doubt, I stick with what worked for previous generations rather than chasing the latest trends.
"Hui gives me no assistance. There is nothing that I say in which he does not delight."
Context: Describing his relationship with his favorite student Yen Yuan
This reveals both affection and slight frustration. Yen Yuan agrees with everything, which shows respect but doesn't challenge Confucius to think deeper. Good students sometimes need to push back.
In Today's Words:
He never argues with me or makes me think harder - he just agrees with everything I say.
"There was Yen Hui; he loved to learn. Unfortunately his appointed time was short, and he died. Now there is no one who loves to learn, as he did."
Context: Answering a question about which student most loved learning
The raw grief in this statement shows how deeply Confucius cared for his students. It also reveals his belief that true love of learning is rare and precious.
In Today's Words:
I had one student who genuinely loved learning for its own sake, but he died young. I've never found another one like him.
"In the late spring, when the spring clothes have been completed, I should like to go with five or six adults and six or seven boys to bathe in the river, enjoy the breeze, and return home singing."
Context: Sharing his simple dream when other students talk about political ambitions
This beautiful vision of contentment stands in stark contrast to others' desires for power and influence. It represents finding joy in community, nature, and simple pleasures.
In Today's Words:
I'd just like to spend a nice day by the water with friends and family, enjoying the weather and each other's company.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Adaptive Leadership
Effective guidance requires giving different people different advice for the same situation based on their individual temperaments and needs.
Thematic Threads
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Students develop differently under individualized guidance rather than uniform treatment
Development
Evolved from earlier emphasis on self-cultivation to show how growth requires personalized approaches
In Your Life:
Your development accelerates when mentors understand your specific learning style and personality
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Confucius shows genuine grief over Yen Yuan's death while maintaining social boundaries
Development
Deepened from earlier discussions of proper relationships to show the emotional complexity of meaningful bonds
In Your Life:
You can love someone deeply while still maintaining appropriate professional or social boundaries
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Funeral arrangements reveal tension between personal feelings and social propriety
Development
Continued exploration of how social roles sometimes conflict with personal desires
In Your Life:
You regularly navigate situations where what you want to do conflicts with what's socially expected
Class
In This Chapter
Tien's simple dream of enjoying nature is valued over political ambitions
Development
Challenges earlier assumptions about status by elevating humble pleasures over power
In Your Life:
Sometimes the most fulfilling path involves appreciating simple moments rather than chasing status
Identity
In This Chapter
Each student expresses different life visions, showing individual paths to fulfillment
Development
Expanded from personal virtue to show how identity emerges through individual choices and dreams
In Your Life:
Your sense of who you are develops through pursuing what genuinely matters to you, not what others expect
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Grace's story...
Maya just got promoted to shift supervisor at the nursing home, and she's struggling with how to manage her former peers. When confident CNA Jessica asks if she should speak up about a medication error, Maya tells her to check with the head nurse first. But when anxious CNA David asks the same question, Maya encourages him to report it immediately. Her coworkers notice she's giving different advice and accuse her of playing favorites. Meanwhile, her mentor Sarah—the previous supervisor who taught Maya everything—suddenly passes away from a heart attack. Maya wants to organize a big memorial service, but administration says it's not appropriate since Sarah wasn't family. At the staff meeting, everyone shares their career goals. Most want to become RNs or move to better facilities. But quiet CNA Roberto just says he wants to keep doing good work and go fishing with his kids on weekends. Maya finds herself nodding—sometimes the simple dreams matter most.
The Road
The road Confucius walked 2,500 years ago, Maya walks today. The pattern is identical: true leadership means adapting your guidance to each person's temperament and needs, not applying one-size-fits-all solutions.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for adaptive leadership. Maya can learn to read people's natural tendencies—who needs encouragement versus restraint—and adjust her approach accordingly.
Amplification
Before reading this, Maya might have thought good leadership meant treating everyone exactly the same. Now she can NAME different personality types, PREDICT what guidance each person needs, and NAVIGATE team management by adapting her style to each individual.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Why does Confucius give opposite advice to Tsze-lu and Zan Yu when they ask the same question about taking action?
analysis • surface - 2
What does Confucius's grief over Yen Yuan's death reveal about the relationship between teachers and students?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about your workplace or family - where do you see people needing different approaches to the same problem based on their personalities?
application • medium - 4
When Tien chooses simple pleasures over political ambition, why does Confucius approve? What does this suggest about how we measure success?
reflection • deep - 5
How would you adapt your communication style if you were managing both an impulsive person and a hesitant person on the same team?
application • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Leadership Adaptations
Think of three people you regularly interact with at work, home, or in your community. Write their names and describe their typical response patterns - are they impulsive or cautious? Do they need encouragement or restraint? Then write how you would adapt your approach to each person for the same hypothetical situation, like asking them to take on a new responsibility.
Consider:
- •Notice if you tend to use the same approach with everyone regardless of their personality
- •Consider whether your natural style matches what each person actually needs
- •Think about times when your usual approach backfired with someone
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you gave someone advice that worked perfectly for you but failed completely for them. What would you do differently now that you understand adaptive leadership?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 12: The Art of Perfect Virtue
The coming pages reveal self-control and proper behavior create lasting respect, and teach us treating everyone like an honored guest builds trust. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.