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XXXIII It happened sometimes when Edna went to see Mademoiselle Reisz that the little musician was absent, giving a lesson or making some small necessary household purchase. The key was always left in a secret hiding-place in the entry, which Edna knew. If Mademoiselle happened to be away, Edna would usually enter and wait for her return. When she knocked at Mademoiselle Reisz’s door one afternoon there was no response; so unlocking the door, as usual, she entered and found the apartment deserted, as she had expected. Her day had been quite filled up, and it was for a rest, for a refuge, and to talk about Robert, that she sought out her friend. She had worked at her canvas—a young Italian character study—all the morning, completing the work without the model; but there had been many interruptions, some incident to her modest housekeeping, and others of a social nature. Madame Ratignolle had dragged herself over, avoiding the too public thoroughfares, she said. She complained that Edna had neglected her much of late. Besides, she was consumed with curiosity to see the little house and the manner in which it was conducted. She wanted to hear all about the dinner party; Monsieur Ratignolle had left _so_ early. What had happened after he left? The champagne and grapes which Edna sent over were _too_ delicious. She had so little appetite; they had refreshed and toned her stomach. Where on earth was she going to put Mr. Pontellier in that little house,...
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Summary
Edna seeks refuge at Mademoiselle Reisz's apartment after a day filled with social obligations and well-meaning but intrusive advice from friends. Madame Ratignolle warns her about Alcée Arobin's reputation and suggests she shouldn't live alone, while other acquaintances invite her to social gatherings she has little interest in attending. When Edna arrives at the musician's apartment, she finds it empty and settles in to wait, finding peace in the simple act of tending to plants and picking out melodies on the piano. Her solitude is interrupted by Robert's unexpected return—he's been back for two days but hasn't sought her out. Their reunion is awkward and stilted, nothing like the passionate encounter Edna has imagined countless times. Robert makes small talk about business and Mexico, avoiding any mention of deeper feelings. When Edna confronts him about not writing as promised, he claims his letters wouldn't interest her. The tension between what they feel and what they're willing to express creates an almost unbearable atmosphere. Eventually, Edna invites him to dinner at her little house, and when he sees her disappointment, his facade briefly drops and he admits he wants to stay. The chapter reveals how difficult it can be to bridge the gap between longing and reality, especially when both people are protecting themselves from vulnerability. Their careful dance around their true feelings shows how fear of rejection can make us strangers to those we care about most.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Social calling
The 19th-century practice of making formal visits to friends and acquaintances, often unannounced, as a way to maintain social connections and gather news. These visits had strict etiquette rules and were essential for a woman's social standing.
Modern Usage:
Like dropping by someone's house unannounced or the obligation to attend every family gathering to stay in good standing with relatives.
Chaperone expectations
The social requirement that unmarried women or women living alone should have proper supervision or companionship to protect their reputation. Living independently was seen as scandalous and potentially dangerous.
Modern Usage:
Similar to how single women today still face questions about living alone or traveling solo, though the judgment is much less severe.
Reputation management
The careful cultivation of one's public image, especially important for women whose social and economic security depended on being seen as respectable. One scandal could ruin a woman's entire future.
Modern Usage:
Like managing your social media presence or being careful about what photos you're tagged in because it could affect your job prospects.
Emotional restraint
The Victorian expectation that people, especially in romantic situations, should control and hide their true feelings. Direct expression of passion or desire was considered improper and dangerous.
Modern Usage:
Like playing hard to get or not wanting to seem 'too eager' in dating, or avoiding being the first to say 'I love you.'
Domestic accomplishments
Skills like painting, piano playing, and flower arranging that upper-class women were expected to master as signs of refinement and good breeding. These were considered more important than practical skills.
Modern Usage:
Similar to how certain hobbies or interests are seen as more 'classy' today - like wine tasting, yoga, or having an Instagram-worthy home.
Social refuge
A place or person where someone could escape the pressures and expectations of their regular social circle. For women especially, finding such spaces was rare and precious.
Modern Usage:
Like having that one friend's house where you can completely be yourself, or a hobby space where social media and work stress don't follow you.
Characters in This Chapter
Edna Pontellier
Protagonist seeking independence
She's trying to balance her desire for solitude and authentic connection with the social expectations constantly imposed on her. Her awkwardness with Robert shows how hard it is to be genuine when you've been performing for so long.
Modern Equivalent:
The woman trying to reinvent herself after a major life change but still getting pulled back into old patterns
Madame Ratignolle
Well-meaning but intrusive friend
She represents the voice of conventional society, warning Edna about her reputation while being genuinely concerned for her welfare. Her visit shows how even friends can become sources of pressure.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who means well but constantly gives unsolicited advice about your life choices
Mademoiselle Reisz
Absent sanctuary figure
Even when not present, her apartment serves as Edna's refuge from social expectations. Her absence forces Edna to confront her feelings alone, which leads to the encounter with Robert.
Modern Equivalent:
The mentor or therapist who gives you tools to handle life but isn't always available when you need them most
Robert Lebrun
Object of desire avoiding intimacy
His awkward return after two days back in town reveals how fear of vulnerability can make us act like strangers with people we care about most. He's protecting himself by keeping things surface-level.
Modern Equivalent:
The ex who comes back into your life but acts like nothing significant ever happened between you
Alcée Arobin
Reputation threat (mentioned)
Though not present, his reputation as a womanizer becomes a source of concern for Edna's friends, showing how a woman's associations could damage her standing in society.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy everyone warns you about because he's known for being a player
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter shows how fear of disappointing someone can make us become disappointing versions of ourselves.
Practice This Today
Next time you're nervous about seeing someone important, notice if you're rehearsing conversations—then focus on one genuine question about their actual life instead of trying to recreate imagined chemistry.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"She had worked at her canvas—a young Italian character study—all the morning, completing the work without the model"
Context: Describing how Edna spent her morning before seeking refuge at Mademoiselle Reisz's apartment
This shows Edna's growing independence and artistic confidence - she no longer needs external validation or guidance to create. The fact that she can work 'without the model' suggests she's learning to trust her own vision and memory.
In Today's Words:
She was getting so good at her art that she could paint from memory instead of needing someone to pose for her
"It was for a rest, for a refuge, and to talk about Robert, that she sought out her friend"
Context: Explaining why Edna goes to Mademoiselle Reisz's apartment
This reveals how desperately Edna needs a space where she can be honest about her feelings. The word 'refuge' suggests she's fleeing something, and her need to talk about Robert shows how isolated she feels in her desires.
In Today's Words:
She needed somewhere she could actually talk about her feelings without being judged
"Where on earth was she going to put Mr. Pontellier in that little house"
Context: Questioning the practicality of Edna's new living arrangement
This seemingly innocent question reveals the assumption that Edna's independence is temporary - that she'll eventually return to her husband. It shows how society couldn't imagine a woman permanently choosing to live apart from her spouse.
In Today's Words:
How is your husband supposed to fit into this new life you're building?
"He had been with her, reading to her all the morning, and had never even mentioned such a place as the pigeon house"
Context: Edna realizing Robert has been back for days without contacting her
The pain in this realization cuts deep - while Edna has been thinking of Robert constantly, he's been back in town living his regular life without seeking her out. It shows the gap between her romantic fantasies and his actual behavior.
In Today's Words:
He'd been in town doing normal stuff and hadn't even bothered to text her
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Anticipated Perfection
Building up future encounters so perfectly in our minds that reality becomes a disappointment, causing us to perform rather than connect authentically.
Thematic Threads
Vulnerability
In This Chapter
Both Edna and Robert protect themselves from potential rejection by avoiding authentic expression
Development
Evolved from Edna's growing self-awareness to now showing how fear of vulnerability affects both people
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you avoid difficult conversations to protect yourself, only to create the distance you feared.
Expectations
In This Chapter
Edna's imagined reunion with Robert cannot match the awkward reality of their actual meeting
Development
Builds on earlier themes of societal expectations to show how personal expectations can be equally destructive
In Your Life:
You might see this when anticipated events—reunions, dates, job interviews—feel disappointing because you built them up too much.
Communication
In This Chapter
Robert and Edna talk around their feelings rather than expressing them directly, creating painful distance
Development
Develops from Edna's earlier struggles to express herself to showing how two people can fail to connect
In Your Life:
You might experience this when you and someone you care about both avoid saying what really matters, leaving both feeling misunderstood.
Self-Protection
In This Chapter
Robert stays away for two days and makes small talk to avoid risking emotional exposure
Development
Shows how the self-protection mechanisms Edna has been learning can backfire when overused
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you avoid reaching out to people you miss because you're afraid they don't miss you back.
Modern Adaptation
When Reality Can't Match the Dream
Following April's story...
After months of texting with Marcus, her high school boyfriend who moved to Atlanta for work, April finally arranges to meet when he's back in town. She's built up their reunion in her mind—imagining deep conversations about how they've both changed, maybe rekindling something real. She spends the day getting advice from coworkers about what to wear, her sister warning her that Marcus always was a player, friends suggesting coffee shops and restaurants. When they finally meet at the diner where they used to hang out as teenagers, everything feels forced. He talks about his job in logistics, she mentions the kids and her art classes. Neither brings up the flirty texts or the late-night calls where they almost said things that mattered. The conversation feels like small talk between strangers. When she suggests dinner at her apartment, his face changes for just a moment—showing the person she remembered—before he puts the polite mask back on.
The Road
The road April Pontellier walked in 1899, April walks today. The pattern is identical: we build up reunions so perfectly in our minds that reality becomes a performance of careful disappointment.
The Map
This chapter teaches how to recognize when anticipation is creating pressure that kills authenticity. When you catch yourself rehearsing conversations or building up meetings, lower the stakes by focusing on genuine curiosity instead of perfect outcomes.
Amplification
Before reading this, April might have blamed Marcus for being different or herself for expecting too much. Now she can NAME the pattern of anticipated perfection, PREDICT how it creates performance anxiety, and NAVIGATE toward authentic connection by asking real questions instead of performing imagined scripts.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Why does Robert avoid seeing Edna for two days after returning from Mexico, and how does their actual reunion compare to what Edna expected?
analysis • surface - 2
What role does fear play in making both Edna and Robert act distant and formal with each other, despite their obvious feelings?
analysis • medium - 3
When have you seen people build up a reunion, conversation, or event so much in their minds that the reality felt disappointing? What made it awkward?
application • medium - 4
If you were counseling Edna and Robert on how to have an authentic conversation instead of this stilted exchange, what specific advice would you give them?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about how our own expectations and fears can sabotage the very connections we most want to protect?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Rewrite the Reunion
Imagine you're a relationship counselor coaching Edna and Robert before their reunion. Write a brief script showing how their conversation could have gone if they'd focused on genuine curiosity instead of self-protection. What questions might they ask? What small, real things might they share instead of making awkward small talk about business and Mexico?
Consider:
- •Think about how fear of vulnerability creates the very distance we're afraid of finding
- •Consider what makes conversations feel authentic versus performed
- •Notice how lowering the stakes can actually increase genuine connection
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you built up an interaction so much in your mind that the reality felt disappointing. What were you protecting yourself from, and how did that protection backfire? What would you do differently now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 34: When Love Feels Like Distance
Moving forward, we'll examine physical presence doesn't guarantee emotional closeness, and understand jealousy reveals what we truly value in relationships. These insights bridge the gap between classic literature and modern experience.