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XXXIV The dining-room was very small. Edna’s round mahogany would have almost filled it. As it was there was but a step or two from the little table to the kitchen, to the mantel, the small buffet, and the side door that opened out on the narrow brick-paved yard. A certain degree of ceremony settled upon them with the announcement of dinner. There was no return to personalities. Robert related incidents of his sojourn in Mexico, and Edna talked of events likely to interest him, which had occurred during his absence. The dinner was of ordinary quality, except for the few delicacies which she had sent out to purchase. Old Celestine, with a bandana _tignon_ twisted about her head, hobbled in and out, taking a personal interest in everything; and she lingered occasionally to talk patois with Robert, whom she had known as a boy. He went out to a neighboring cigar stand to purchase cigarette papers, and when he came back he found that Celestine had served the black coffee in the parlor. “Perhaps I shouldn’t have come back,” he said. “When you are tired of me, tell me to go.” “You never tire me. You must have forgotten the hours and hours at Grand Isle in which we grew accustomed to each other and used to being together.” “I have forgotten nothing at Grand Isle,” he said, not looking at her, but rolling a cigarette. His tobacco pouch, which he laid upon the table, was a fantastic embroidered...
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Summary
Edna and Robert finally have dinner together in her small cottage, but the reunion feels strangely hollow. Despite being physically present, Robert seems emotionally distant, talking politely about Mexico while avoiding real intimacy. When Edna notices his new tobacco pouch—embroidered by a Mexican woman—she can't help but probe about this other woman in his life. Robert deflects her questions, claiming the woman meant nothing, but his evasiveness suggests otherwise. The arrival of Arobin, Edna's current lover, creates an awkward triangle. Arobin's casual mention of Mexican women and his flirtatious banter with Edna seems to make Robert uncomfortable enough to leave abruptly. After Robert's departure, Arobin tries to engage Edna, but she's emotionally unavailable, lost in thoughts of Robert. When Arobin finally leaves after declaring his adoration, Edna sits alone, replaying every moment with Robert and torturing herself with visions of the Mexican woman who gave him the pouch. The chapter reveals the painful irony that Robert felt closer to her when he was thousands of miles away in Mexico than he does now, sitting across from her at dinner. This distance isn't geographical—it's emotional. Edna realizes that the man she's been longing for may no longer be the same person who left, and the connection she treasured at Grand Isle might be lost forever.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
tignon
A headwrap worn by women of African descent in Louisiana, originally mandated by law but later embraced as cultural expression. In this chapter, Celestine wears a bandana tignon, marking her as part of the Creole household staff.
Modern Usage:
We see similar cultural head coverings today that serve both practical and identity purposes, from hijabs to durags to bandanas worn with pride.
patois
A local dialect or creole language mixing French, African, and other influences, common in Louisiana. Celestine speaks patois with Robert, showing their shared cultural background and his deep roots in this community.
Modern Usage:
Today we see code-switching when people speak differently with family versus at work, or use regional slang that connects them to their hometown.
emotional distance
When someone is physically present but mentally or emotionally unavailable. Robert sits across from Edna but avoids real connection, talking about safe topics instead of their feelings.
Modern Usage:
This happens constantly today - partners scrolling phones during dinner, friends giving polite responses when they're clearly checked out.
love triangle
A romantic situation involving three people where emotions and loyalties are divided. Edna is caught between her longing for Robert and her physical relationship with Arobin.
Modern Usage:
Modern dating apps and social media have made love triangles more common, with people juggling multiple connections and comparing options.
deflection
Avoiding direct answers or changing the subject to avoid uncomfortable topics. Robert deflects when Edna asks about the Mexican woman, claiming she meant nothing while clearly being evasive.
Modern Usage:
We see this in every relationship - people saying 'it's nothing' about their ex, or politicians dodging direct questions during interviews.
idealization vs. reality
The painful gap between how we remember someone or imagine a relationship versus how it actually is. Edna built up her reunion with Robert in her mind, but reality feels hollow.
Modern Usage:
This happens with high school reunions, reconnecting with exes on social media, or finally meeting someone you've been texting with online.
Characters in This Chapter
Edna
protagonist
She desperately tries to recreate the intimacy she shared with Robert at Grand Isle, but realizes he's emotionally distant. She probes about the Mexican woman, revealing her jealousy and insecurity about his time away.
Modern Equivalent:
The woman who's been waiting for her ex to come back, only to find he's changed
Robert
love interest
He's physically present but emotionally unavailable, talking politely about Mexico while avoiding real connection. His evasiveness about the Mexican woman and abrupt departure when Arobin arrives shows he's conflicted and possibly involved elsewhere.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy who ghosts you emotionally while still showing up physically
Arobin
rival/current lover
His unexpected arrival creates tension and makes Robert uncomfortable. He represents Edna's current physical relationship while Robert represents her emotional longing, highlighting her divided loyalties.
Modern Equivalent:
The rebound guy who shows up at the worst possible moment
Celestine
household staff/observer
She serves dinner and speaks patois with Robert, showing his deep roots in this community. Her presence adds domestic normalcy to an emotionally charged situation.
Modern Equivalent:
The longtime family friend who knows everyone's history
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to distinguish between genuine emotional connection and the false intimacy we create when someone's absent.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you feel closer to someone through texts than in person—that's phantom intimacy warning you to test for real compatibility.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Perhaps I shouldn't have come back"
Context: He says this when returning from buying cigarette papers, sensing the awkwardness
This reveals Robert's awareness that something has fundamentally changed. He's questioning his decision to return, suggesting he feels the emotional distance too and might be regretting this reunion.
In Today's Words:
Maybe this was a mistake
"You never tire me. You must have forgotten the hours and hours at Grand Isle in which we grew accustomed to each other and used to being together"
Context: She's trying to reassure Robert and recapture their old intimacy
Edna is desperately trying to bridge the emotional gap by invoking their shared past. She's clinging to what they once had, not accepting that he's changed or moved on.
In Today's Words:
Remember how good we used to be together?
"I have forgotten nothing at Grand Isle"
Context: His response to Edna's plea, but he won't look at her while saying it
His words say one thing but his body language says another. He remembers everything but can't or won't engage with those memories emotionally, showing the painful distance between them.
In Today's Words:
I remember everything, but that doesn't mean I can go back
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Phantom Intimacy
The tendency to feel closer to people when they're absent than when they're physically present, mistaking longing and projection for genuine connection.
Thematic Threads
Emotional Distance
In This Chapter
Robert and Edna feel like strangers despite their deep connection at Grand Isle, unable to bridge the gap between physical presence and emotional intimacy
Development
Evolution from the easy intimacy of Grand Isle to the painful awkwardness of reunion
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when someone you felt close to through texts or calls becomes awkward and distant in person.
Jealousy
In This Chapter
Edna obsesses over the Mexican woman who embroidered Robert's tobacco pouch, torturing herself with imagined intimacies
Development
New manifestation of Edna's possessive feelings about Robert
In Your Life:
You might find yourself fixating on small signs of someone's other relationships, creating stories that cause unnecessary pain.
Social Performance
In This Chapter
Robert maintains polite conversation about Mexico while avoiding real emotional connection, performing normalcy instead of intimacy
Development
Continuation of characters using social scripts to avoid vulnerability
In Your Life:
You might catch yourself making small talk with someone you deeply care about because real conversation feels too risky.
Competing Desires
In This Chapter
Edna is torn between her longing for Robert and her physical relationship with Arobin, unable to fully commit to either
Development
Intensification of Edna's struggle to balance different types of connection
In Your Life:
You might find yourself wanting different things from different people, unable to find everything you need in one relationship.
Unspoken Communication
In This Chapter
The tension between Robert and Arobin communicates more than their words, with Arobin's casual dominance making Robert retreat
Development
Continuation of characters communicating through subtext rather than direct conversation
In Your Life:
You might notice how much gets communicated through what people don't say, especially in uncomfortable social situations.
Modern Adaptation
When Distance Was Easier
Following April's story...
April finally meets Marcus for dinner after months of intense texting while he was deployed overseas. She'd fallen for the man who wrote her beautiful messages at 3am, sharing fears about his future and dreams of art school. But sitting across from him at Applebee's, he's polite but distant, talking about base life and showing her a bracelet some German woman made him. When Jake, her current hookup, shows up unexpectedly and starts his usual flirting, Marcus gets uncomfortable and leaves early. Jake tries to get her attention, but April's lost in replaying every awkward moment with Marcus, torturing herself with images of him laughing with that German woman. The man who felt like her soulmate through a phone screen now feels like a stranger who happened to know her number.
The Road
The road April Pontellier walked in 1899, April walks today. The pattern is identical: we mistake longing for love and confuse phantom intimacy with real connection.
The Map
This chapter teaches her to test for authentic connection early—if someone's easier to love from a distance, that's crucial data about the relationship's foundation.
Amplification
Before reading this, April might have blamed herself for the awkwardness or kept chasing the fantasy. Now she can NAME phantom intimacy, PREDICT its emptiness, and NAVIGATE toward people who show up authentically in person.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Why does the dinner between Edna and Robert feel so awkward and distant, even though they've both been longing to see each other?
analysis • surface - 2
What does Robert's evasiveness about the Mexican woman and the tobacco pouch reveal about how he's changed during his absence?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this pattern of 'phantom intimacy' in modern relationships - feeling closer to someone when they're absent than when they're present?
application • medium - 4
How can you tell the difference between genuine connection and the idealized version of someone you create in their absence?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about why we sometimes feel safer loving the idea of someone rather than the real person in front of us?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Test Your Phantom Intimacy
Think of someone you feel close to primarily through texts, calls, or social media but rarely see in person. Write down three specific things you 'know' about them and three conversations you imagine having. Then honestly assess: how much of this connection exists in your head versus reality?
Consider:
- •Notice the difference between what they actually tell you versus what you assume about them
- •Consider whether your imagined conversations are realistic or idealized versions
- •Reflect on whether you'd feel comfortable sharing something vulnerable with them face-to-face
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when meeting someone in person felt disappointing after feeling connected to them from a distance. What did you learn about the difference between longing and actual compatibility?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 35: Hope, Disappointment, and Dangerous Distractions
In the next chapter, you'll discover hope can blind us to reality and set us up for crushing disappointment, and learn avoiding difficult conversations often makes situations worse. These insights reveal timeless patterns that resonate in our own lives and relationships.