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The Aunts and Uncles Are Coming It was Easter week, and Mrs Tulliver’s cheesecakes were more exquisitely light than usual. “A puff o’ wind ’ud make ’em blow about like feathers,” Kezia the housemaid said, feeling proud to live under a mistress who could make such pastry; so that no season or circumstances could have been more propitious for a family party, even if it had not been advisable to consult sister Glegg and sister Pullet about Tom’s going to school. “I’d as lief not invite sister Deane this time,” said Mrs Tulliver, “for she’s as jealous and having as can be, and’s allays trying to make the worst o’ my poor children to their aunts and uncles.” “Yes, yes,” said Mr Tulliver, “ask her to come. I never hardly get a bit o’ talk with Deane now; we haven’t had him this six months. What’s it matter what she says? My children need be beholding to nobody.” “That’s what you allays say, Mr Tulliver; but I’m sure there’s nobody o’ _your_ side, neither aunt nor uncle, to leave ’em so much as a five-pound note for a leggicy. And there’s sister Glegg, and sister Pullet too, saving money unknown, for they put by all their own interest and butter-money too; their husbands buy ’em everything.” Mrs Tulliver was a mild woman, but even a sheep will face about a little when she has lambs. “Tchuh!” said Mr Tulliver. “It takes a big loaf when there’s many to breakfast. What...
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Summary
Mrs. Tulliver prepares for a family gathering, anxious about impressing her well-to-do Dodson sisters while securing their favor for her children's future. The Dodsons represent old money respectability—they have particular ways of doing everything and judge others harshly for not following their traditions. Mrs. Tulliver feels caught between loyalty to her husband's side and the social advantages her sisters might provide. Meanwhile, Tom and Maggie share jam puffs in a scene that reveals their different natures. When Tom fairly divides the pastry but Maggie eats hers without saving him any, he calls her greedy. Though he acted honorably, he expected gratitude and feels hurt when she doesn't reciprocate his sacrifice. Maggie is devastated by his criticism, showing her deep need for his approval. Tom then goes off with Bob Jakin, a working-class boy who fascinates him with knowledge of birds, traps, and mischief. Their friendship ends in a fight over a gambling dispute, with Tom taking a rigid moral stance against cheating while Bob sees it as part of the game. The chapter explores how children navigate fairness, loyalty, and social boundaries. Tom's strict sense of justice makes him judgmental, while Maggie's emotional sensitivity makes her vulnerable to others' opinions. Both children are already shaped by the class tensions and family pressures surrounding them.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Dodson respectability
The rigid social standards and traditions that established families use to maintain their status. The Dodsons have specific ways of doing everything - from housekeeping to behavior - and judge others who don't meet these standards.
Modern Usage:
Like families who insist on formal holiday traditions or judge relatives for not having the 'right' kind of wedding or home decor.
Legacy hunting
When people cultivate relationships with wealthier relatives hoping to inherit money or property. Mrs. Tulliver wants to stay in her sisters' good graces so they might leave something to Tom and Maggie.
Modern Usage:
Like being extra nice to the rich aunt at family gatherings, or adult children who visit elderly parents mainly when they need money.
Class mixing anxiety
The discomfort people feel when children from different social classes become friends. Tom's friendship with working-class Bob Jakin worries the adults because it crosses social boundaries.
Modern Usage:
Parents today who worry when their kids befriend children from different economic backgrounds or neighborhoods.
Moral rigidity
Having such strict ideas about right and wrong that you can't see gray areas or forgive mistakes. Tom shows this when he completely cuts off Bob over a gambling dispute.
Modern Usage:
People who end friendships over political disagreements or refuse to forgive any mistake, no matter how small.
Emotional manipulation through sacrifice
When someone does something generous but then expects praise and gratitude in return. Tom fairly divides the jam puffs but gets upset when Maggie doesn't appreciate his sacrifice enough.
Modern Usage:
Like doing extra housework and then getting mad when your partner doesn't notice and thank you repeatedly.
Family loyalty vs. social advancement
The conflict between staying loyal to your immediate family and pursuing relationships that could improve your social or financial position.
Modern Usage:
Choosing between supporting your struggling sibling or networking with successful colleagues who might advance your career.
Characters in This Chapter
Mrs. Tulliver
Anxious mother and social climber
She's preparing for the family gathering while worrying about impressing her wealthy Dodson sisters. She wants their approval and potential inheritance for her children, but feels torn between loyalty to her husband and pursuing these advantages.
Modern Equivalent:
The mom who stresses about hosting the in-laws and wants her kids to make a good impression on the wealthy relatives
Tom Tulliver
Morally rigid young protagonist
He fairly shares jam puffs with Maggie but expects gratitude for his sacrifice. Later fights with Bob Jakin over gambling and refuses to forgive what he sees as cheating, showing his inflexible sense of right and wrong.
Modern Equivalent:
The kid who always follows rules and gets upset when others don't appreciate his good behavior
Maggie Tulliver
Emotionally sensitive young protagonist
She eats her share of jam puffs without thinking to save Tom any, then becomes devastated when he calls her greedy. Her intense need for approval and emotional reactions show her vulnerable nature.
Modern Equivalent:
The sensitive child who acts impulsively but then falls apart when criticized
Bob Jakin
Working-class friend and tempter
A boy from a lower class who fascinates Tom with his knowledge of birds, traps, and mischief. Their friendship ends when they fight over gambling, with Bob seeing it as normal fun while Tom sees it as immoral cheating.
Modern Equivalent:
The street-smart kid who introduces sheltered children to a different way of life
Mr. Tulliver
Proud but financially struggling father
He insists on inviting all the relatives despite his wife's concerns, showing his pride and refusal to appear dependent on others. He wants his children to be independent but doesn't have the resources to ensure it.
Modern Equivalent:
The dad who won't ask for help even when the family is struggling financially
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when kindness comes with invisible price tags that create resentment.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you feel bitter after helping someone—ask yourself what unspoken expectation you created and whether you were truly giving freely.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"My children need be beholding to nobody."
Context: He's responding to his wife's concerns about impressing her wealthy sisters
This shows Mr. Tulliver's pride and his desire for independence, but also reveals the family's precarious financial situation. His pride may actually hurt his children's future prospects.
In Today's Words:
My kids don't need to depend on anyone else for help.
"It takes a big loaf when there's many to breakfast."
Context: He's dismissing his wife's worries about the wealthy relatives
He's using a practical metaphor to say that wealth gets divided among many heirs, so the sisters may not have as much to leave as his wife thinks. It shows his realistic but perhaps overly dismissive attitude.
In Today's Words:
When there are lots of people to feed, everyone gets a smaller piece.
"O Tom, why didn't you ask me?"
Context: She's upset after Tom calls her greedy for eating all her jam puffs
This reveals Maggie's impulsive nature and her deep need for Tom's approval. She acted without thinking but is devastated by his criticism, showing how much his opinion matters to her.
In Today's Words:
Why didn't you tell me what you wanted me to do?
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Righteous Expectations
Acting generously while secretly expecting specific responses or gratitude, then feeling betrayed when those unspoken expectations aren't met.
Thematic Threads
Class Anxiety
In This Chapter
Mrs. Tulliver desperately prepares to impress her Dodson sisters, caught between loyalty to her husband and securing advantages for her children
Development
Building from earlier hints about family tensions and social positioning
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you change how you act around certain family members or coworkers to maintain their good opinion
Moral Rigidity
In This Chapter
Tom takes an inflexible stance against Bob's gambling, ending their friendship over different views of fairness
Development
Tom's black-and-white thinking patterns becoming more pronounced
In Your Life:
You see this when someone cuts off relationships over moral disagreements without trying to understand different perspectives
Emotional Vulnerability
In This Chapter
Maggie is devastated by Tom's criticism, showing her deep need for his approval and acceptance
Development
Continuing Maggie's pattern of being deeply affected by others' opinions
In Your Life:
This appears when criticism from certain people hits you harder than it should, revealing whose approval you desperately need
Social Boundaries
In This Chapter
Tom's friendship with working-class Bob Jakin reveals the invisible lines that separate social classes, even in childhood
Development
Introduced here as a new dimension of class consciousness
In Your Life:
You might notice this in how certain friendships or relationships feel constrained by unspoken social expectations
Hidden Scorekeeping
In This Chapter
Tom's fair division of jam puffs becomes a test of Maggie's gratitude that she fails unknowingly
Development
Introduced here as a pattern in their sibling relationship
In Your Life:
This shows up when you find yourself mentally tallying who does what in relationships, keeping invisible scorecards others don't know exist
Modern Adaptation
When Good Deeds Come with Price Tags
Following Maggie's story...
Maggie covers extra shifts for her coworker Sarah, who's dealing with a sick kid. She doesn't ask for anything—just helps out. But secretly, she's keeping score, expecting Sarah to remember this kindness. When Maggie later needs someone to cover her Saturday shift for a writing workshop, Sarah says she can't. Maggie feels betrayed and bitter. 'After everything I did for you,' she thinks. Meanwhile, her aunt is hosting Sunday dinner, anxious about impressing her successful sister who might help Maggie's cousin get into nursing school. The family dynamics are tense—everyone performing respectability they can't quite afford. Maggie watches her younger cousin Jake share his dessert with his brother, then get upset when his brother doesn't save him any. She recognizes the pattern: the invisible contracts we create when we're generous, the scorekeeping that turns kindness into resentment. At work, at family gatherings, in friendships—we give with strings attached, then feel justified in our anger when others don't meet expectations they never agreed to.
The Road
The road Tom walked in 1860, Maggie walks today. The pattern is identical: we perform good acts while secretly keeping score, creating invisible contracts that set up both parties for disappointment and resentment.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for recognizing when generosity comes with hidden expectations. Maggie can learn to separate genuine giving from scorekeeping transactions.
Amplification
Before reading this, Maggie might have stewed in resentment, feeling like a victim of others' ingratitude. Now she can NAME the invisible contract pattern, PREDICT where scorekeeping leads, and NAVIGATE by either giving freely or making expectations explicit upfront.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What invisible expectations did Tom create when he fairly divided the jam puffs with Maggie?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Tom feel justified in calling Maggie greedy, even though he chose to share his portion?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this pattern of 'invisible contracts' in your workplace, family, or friendships?
application • medium - 4
How can you tell the difference between genuine generosity and keeping score when you help others?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about how we create resentment in relationships without meaning to?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Audit Your Invisible Contracts
Think of a recent time you felt unappreciated after helping someone. Write down what you did, what you expected in return (even if you didn't say it), and whether the other person knew about your expectations. Then rewrite the situation: how could you have either given freely or made your expectations clear upfront?
Consider:
- •Notice the difference between what you said and what you secretly hoped for
- •Consider whether your expectations were reasonable or communicated
- •Examine if your generosity came with strings attached
Journaling Prompt
Write about a relationship where you often feel like you give more than you receive. What invisible contracts might you be creating? How could you either give more freely or negotiate more openly?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 7: Family Tensions and First Impressions
The coming pages reveal family dynamics reveal class anxieties and social positioning, and teach us children's rebellious acts often stem from feeling misunderstood. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.