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Mr Tulliver Shows His Weaker Side “Suppose sister Glegg should call her money in; it ’ud be very awkward for you to have to raise five hundred pounds now,” said Mrs Tulliver to her husband that evening, as she took a plaintive review of the day. Mrs Tulliver had lived thirteen years with her husband, yet she retained in all the freshness of her early married life a facility of saying things which drove him in the opposite direction to the one she desired. Some minds are wonderful for keeping their bloom in this way, as a patriarchal goldfish apparently retains to the last its youthful illusion that it can swim in a straight line beyond the encircling glass. Mrs Tulliver was an amiable fish of this kind, and after running her head against the same resisting medium for thirteen years would go at it again to-day with undulled alacrity. This observation of hers tended directly to convince Mr Tulliver that it would not be at all awkward for him to raise five hundred pounds; and when Mrs Tulliver became rather pressing to know _how_ he would raise it without mortgaging the mill and the house which he had said he never _would_ mortgage, since nowadays people were none so ready to lend money without security, Mr Tulliver, getting warm, declared that Mrs Glegg might do as she liked about calling in her money, he should pay it in whether or not. He was not going to be beholden to...
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Summary
Mr. Tulliver faces a financial crisis when his sister-in-law threatens to call in a loan, forcing him to consider collecting money he lent to his struggling brother-in-law, Mr. Moss. Initially determined to be businesslike and demand repayment, Tulliver rides to the Moss farm with resolve hardened by their poverty and poor management. The farm is clearly failing, with broken gates, muddy yards, and eight children to feed. Tulliver's sister Gritty greets him warmly despite knowing he's angry, and her humble acceptance of his coldness reveals the painful dynamics between those who have and those who struggle. When Tulliver demands the three hundred pounds, Moss despairs that he'll have to sell everything. But as Tulliver rides away, a crucial realization stops him: his harsh treatment of his sister might set an example for how his son Tom could one day treat Maggie. This thought transforms him completely. He returns, tells his sister not to worry about the money, and promises to bring Maggie for a visit. The chapter masterfully shows how financial stress can either harden us or reveal our capacity for grace. Tulliver's change of heart isn't just about money—it's about recognizing that family loyalty and protecting the vulnerable matter more than business principles. His love for Maggie becomes the lens through which he sees his sister's worth.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Mortgaging
Using your property as security for a loan - if you can't pay back the money, the lender can take your house or land. In Tulliver's time, losing the family mill would mean losing both home and livelihood. It was the ultimate financial disaster for working families.
Modern Usage:
Today we see this when families risk foreclosure by taking second mortgages or home equity loans to pay off debt.
Calling in a loan
When someone who lent you money demands immediate full repayment instead of waiting for the agreed schedule. Sister Glegg has this power over Tulliver, making her a financial threat to his family's security.
Modern Usage:
This happens today when credit card companies or banks suddenly demand full payment, often when they think you're becoming a risk.
Security
Something valuable you promise to give up if you can't repay a loan - like your house, car, or business. Without security, lenders won't trust you with money, especially if you're already struggling financially.
Modern Usage:
Modern secured loans include car loans and mortgages - the bank can repossess if you don't pay.
Beholden
Owing someone a favor or debt that puts you under their control. Tulliver hates feeling dependent on his wife's family for money because it threatens his pride and authority as head of household.
Modern Usage:
We use this when someone does us a big favor and we feel obligated to them - 'I don't want to be beholden to my boss for this promotion.'
Family obligation vs. business sense
The conflict between helping struggling relatives and protecting your own financial interests. Tulliver faces this with his brother-in-law Moss - should he demand repayment or forgive the debt to help family?
Modern Usage:
This plays out today when family members ask for loans, co-signing, or help with bills while you're barely making it yourself.
Patriarchal authority
The father's role as ultimate decision-maker and financial head of the household. Tulliver's pride is tied to maintaining this authority, which is why owing money to his wife's family feels so threatening to his identity.
Modern Usage:
We still see this dynamic when breadwinners feel their authority threatened by financial dependence or when partners struggle over money decisions.
Characters in This Chapter
Mr. Tulliver
Protagonist facing moral crisis
Struggles between financial survival and family loyalty when pressured to collect a debt from his struggling brother-in-law. His initial hardness melts when he realizes his treatment of his sister could model how Tom might someday treat Maggie.
Modern Equivalent:
The family member torn between helping struggling relatives and protecting their own finances
Mrs. Tulliver
Well-meaning but counterproductive spouse
Accidentally makes situations worse by saying exactly what will provoke her husband's stubbornness. Her worry about Sister Glegg calling in the loan pushes Tulliver toward reckless defiance instead of careful planning.
Modern Equivalent:
The partner who brings up money stress at exactly the wrong moment and in exactly the wrong way
Sister Glegg
Financial threat
Though not present in this chapter, her potential to call in Tulliver's loan creates the crisis that forces him to consider demanding repayment from Moss. She represents the power that money gives over family relationships.
Modern Equivalent:
The relative with money who holds it over everyone else's head
Mr. Moss
Struggling debtor
Tulliver's brother-in-law who owes him money but clearly can't pay. His poverty and desperation when faced with losing everything shows the human cost of financial hardship in farming families.
Modern Equivalent:
The family member always struggling financially who you've lent money to but probably won't get back
Gritty (Mrs. Moss)
Humble peacemaker
Tulliver's sister who accepts his coldness with grace, knowing she can't repay what her family owes. Her gentle dignity in the face of poverty and criticism moves Tulliver to remember family bonds matter more than money.
Modern Equivalent:
The family member who never complains about their struggles but whose quiet dignity makes you want to help
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to identify the exact moment when perspective shifts from justified hardness to genuine understanding.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you catch yourself justifying harsh treatment of someone—then ask 'How would I feel if someone treated my loved one this way?'
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Mrs Tulliver had lived thirteen years with her husband, yet she retained in all the freshness of her early married life a facility of saying things which drove him in the opposite direction to the one she desired."
Context: Describing how Mrs. Tulliver accidentally provokes her husband when trying to discuss their money problems
This reveals the tragic pattern in their marriage where her anxiety makes her say exactly what will make him more stubborn. It shows how financial stress can poison communication between partners who actually want the same thing - security.
In Today's Words:
After thirteen years of marriage, she still had a talent for saying exactly the wrong thing at the wrong time.
"He was not going to be beholden to his wife's family."
Context: Tulliver's defiant response to the suggestion that Sister Glegg might call in her loan
This shows how pride can override practical thinking when money threatens a man's sense of independence. His refusal to be 'beholden' drives him toward potentially ruinous decisions rather than swallowing his pride.
In Today's Words:
He wasn't going to owe his in-laws anything or let them have power over him.
"Suppose Tom should be such a husband to Maggie as I've been to my sister."
Context: The moment when Tulliver realizes his harsh treatment of his sister could be a model for how Tom might treat Maggie
This is the turning point where Tulliver's love for his daughter transforms his understanding of family obligation. He sees that protecting Maggie's future means modeling kindness toward vulnerable family members now.
In Today's Words:
What if Tom treats Maggie the same cold way I'm treating my sister?
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Mirror Recognition
We often can't see our own cruelty until we imagine it directed at someone we love.
Thematic Threads
Class
In This Chapter
The painful gap between Tulliver's modest success and his sister's grinding poverty creates tension and shame for both
Development
Building from earlier chapters showing class anxiety within the Tulliver family itself
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when family members at different economic levels struggle to relate without judgment or guilt
Family Loyalty
In This Chapter
Tulliver's love for Maggie becomes the key that unlocks his compassion for his sister
Development
Introduced here as a transformative force that overrides business logic
In Your Life:
You see this when thinking about your own children helps you understand how to treat other people's struggles
Financial Stress
In This Chapter
Money pressure initially hardens Tulliver's heart, making him cruel to those he'd normally protect
Development
Expanding from Tulliver's mill troubles to show how financial fear spreads to family relationships
In Your Life:
You might notice how your own money worries make you less generous or patient with people who need help
Moral Recognition
In This Chapter
Tulliver's sudden realization about the example he's setting reveals how we often act without seeing ourselves clearly
Development
Introduced here as a moment of moral clarity that changes behavior
In Your Life:
You experience this when you suddenly see your own actions from an outside perspective and don't like what you see
Gender and Protection
In This Chapter
Tulliver's concern for how Tom might treat Maggie reveals assumptions about women needing male family members' protection
Development
Building on earlier themes about Maggie's vulnerability in a male-dominated world
In Your Life:
You might see this in how family dynamics still often center on protecting women from other men's potential cruelty
Modern Adaptation
When Family Calls in Favors
Following Maggie's story...
Maggie's been covering her brother Jake's share of their mom's care costs for months while he struggles with unemployment and three kids. When her own hours get cut at the school, she drives to his apartment determined to demand he figure something out—she can't keep floating him. The place is a mess, kids crying, Jake looking defeated. She starts her speech about responsibility and fairness, watching him crumble as he explains he'll have to choose between rent and groceries. But walking back to her car, she stops cold. What if someday Jake has to choose between helping her or his own daughter? What if her niece grows up watching her dad abandon family when money gets tight? Maggie turns around, hugs Jake, and tells him they'll figure it out together. She realizes that how she treats her struggling brother teaches her niece what family loyalty looks like.
The Road
The road Tulliver walked in 1860, Maggie walks today. The pattern is identical: financial pressure makes us cruel to family until we imagine our loved ones receiving the same treatment.
The Map
This chapter provides a navigation tool for staying human under financial stress. Maggie can use the 'flip test'—before making harsh decisions about family, imagine someone treating her loved ones the same way.
Amplification
Before reading this, Maggie might have justified cutting off struggling family members as 'tough love.' Now she can NAME the pattern of stress-induced cruelty, PREDICT how it damages relationships, and NAVIGATE toward choices that preserve both boundaries and compassion.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What changes Mr. Tulliver's mind about collecting the money from his sister and brother-in-law?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does thinking about Tom and Maggie transform how Tulliver sees his sister's situation?
analysis • medium - 3
When have you seen someone become more compassionate after imagining their loved one in a similar situation?
application • medium - 4
How can you use Tulliver's 'flip the script' moment as a tool when you're frustrated with someone?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about the difference between being fair and being kind?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Practice the Mirror Test
Think of a recent situation where you felt justified in being harsh or unsympathetic toward someone. Write down your reasoning. Now imagine someone treating your child, parent, or best friend exactly the same way for exactly the same reasons. Notice what changes in your perspective and what stays the same.
Consider:
- •Your initial feelings were probably valid - this isn't about guilt
- •Look for the difference between being firm and being cruel
- •Consider how stress and fear might have affected your response
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone showed you unexpected grace when you were struggling. How did it change your relationship with them? How might you offer that same grace to someone in your life right now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 9: The Weight of Family Expectations
Moving forward, we'll examine childhood shame can spiral from small incidents into lasting wounds, and understand the exhausting performance required to maintain family status and approval. These insights bridge the gap between classic literature and modern experience.