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CHAPTER XII The Rostóvs remained in Moscow till the first of September, that is, till the eve of the enemy’s entry into the city. After Pétya had joined Obolénski’s regiment of Cossacks and left for Bélaya Tsérkov where that regiment was forming, the countess was seized with terror. The thought that both her sons were at the war, had both gone from under her wing, that today or tomorrow either or both of them might be killed like the three sons of one of her acquaintances, struck her that summer for the first time with cruel clearness. She tried to get Nicholas back and wished to go herself to join Pétya, or to get him an appointment somewhere in Petersburg, but neither of these proved possible. Pétya could not return unless his regiment did so or unless he was transferred to another regiment on active service. Nicholas was somewhere with the army and had not sent a word since his last letter, in which he had given a detailed account of his meeting with Princess Mary. The countess did not sleep at night, or when she did fall asleep dreamed that she saw her sons lying dead. After many consultations and conversations, the count at last devised means to tranquillize her. He got Pétya transferred from Obolénski’s regiment to Bezúkhov’s, which was in training near Moscow. Though Pétya would remain in the service, this transfer would give the countess the consolation of seeing at least one of her sons under...
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Summary
The Rostov family remains in Moscow as Napoleon's army approaches, paralyzed by the Countess's terror over her sons at war. After losing sleep and sanity worrying about both Nicholas and Petya in combat, she manipulates to get sixteen-year-old Petya transferred to a safer regiment near Moscow. Her relief at having one son closer only amplifies her anxiety about the other. When Petya finally returns, his mother's suffocating attention embarrasses him - he fears becoming 'womanish' and pulls away from her, bonding instead with his sister Natasha. Meanwhile, Moscow descends into chaos as wounded soldiers flood in from the Battle of Borodino and panicked residents flee with their belongings. Wild rumors spread daily - some say no one can leave, others that everyone must go. The city continues its normal routines while secretly knowing destruction approaches, like a condemned man straightening his cap before execution. Count Rostov runs around collecting gossip and giving hasty orders. The Countess obsesses over packing and chasing Petya. Only practical Sonya actually organizes their departure, though she's heartbroken knowing Nicholas will likely marry wealthy Princess Mary to save the family finances. Petya and Natasha laugh and play, energized by youth and the excitement of impending battle. This chapter captures how families fracture under extreme stress - some become controlling, others withdraw, still others throw themselves into busy work or denial. Tolstoy shows that even in historical moments, human nature reveals itself most clearly through how people handle fear, love, and loss of control.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Maternal anxiety spiral
When a mother's worry about her children's safety becomes consuming and irrational, leading to desperate attempts to control uncontrollable situations. The Countess exemplifies this as she obsesses over her sons at war, unable to sleep or think clearly.
Modern Usage:
We see this in helicopter parents who track their college kids constantly or mothers who can't let go when children deploy overseas.
War profiteering
Making money from wartime chaos and desperation. In this chapter, merchants charge outrageous prices for transport out of Moscow, exploiting people's fear.
Modern Usage:
Price gouging during hurricanes, pandemic mask shortages, or charging triple for gas during evacuations.
Cognitive dissonance
Holding two conflicting beliefs simultaneously. Muscovites continue normal routines while knowing their city is doomed, like 'a criminal who knows he'll be executed but still straightens his cap.'
Modern Usage:
Going to work normally while your company is clearly failing, or planning future vacations when your relationship is falling apart.
Aristocratic privilege
The wealthy class's ability to escape consequences that destroy common people. The Rostovs debate whether to leave Moscow while poor residents have no choice but to stay and face Napoleon's army.
Modern Usage:
Rich families fleeing natural disasters in private jets while working families shelter in place because they can't afford to evacuate.
Performative masculinity
When boys or men act tough to prove their manhood, often rejecting anything seen as feminine. Petya pulls away from his mother's affection, fearing it will make him 'womanish.'
Modern Usage:
Teenage boys who won't hug their moms in public or men who refuse to show emotion because it's 'not manly.'
Rumor mill
How unverified information spreads rapidly during crisis, often contradicting itself. Moscow is flooded with conflicting reports about whether people can leave the city.
Modern Usage:
Social media during breaking news, workplace gossip during layoffs, or neighborhood WhatsApp groups during emergencies.
Characters in This Chapter
Countess Rostova
Anxious mother
Consumed by terror over her sons at war, she manipulates military connections to get Petya transferred to safety. Her sleepless nights and desperate schemes show how fear can make parents irrational and controlling.
Modern Equivalent:
The helicopter mom who calls the school daily and tries to fix every problem for her kids
Petya Rostov
Rebellious teenager
At sixteen, he's eager for military glory but embarrassed by his mother's suffocating attention. He bonds with Natasha instead, showing how young men often reject maternal care to prove their independence.
Modern Equivalent:
The teenage boy who's too cool to be seen with his mom but still needs family connection
Count Rostov
Ineffective patriarch
Runs around Moscow collecting gossip and giving contradictory orders about evacuation. He appears busy and important but accomplishes nothing practical, leaving real decisions to others.
Modern Equivalent:
The dad who acts like he's handling the family crisis but mostly just creates more chaos
Sonya
Practical caretaker
While others panic or scheme, she quietly organizes the actual packing and departure preparations. Despite her own heartbreak over Nicholas, she focuses on what needs doing.
Modern Equivalent:
The responsible family member who handles all the real work during emergencies while everyone else falls apart
Natasha Rostova
Resilient youth
Laughs and plays with Petya despite the approaching danger, showing how young people can find joy even in crisis. Her energy contrasts sharply with the adults' anxiety.
Modern Equivalent:
The teenager who stays positive and adaptable even when the whole family is stressed
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to spot when people use small control behaviors to avoid big scary decisions during emergencies.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when family stress makes everyone focus on minor conflicts instead of the real problem—then gently redirect: 'What's the actual decision we're avoiding here?'
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"The thought that both her sons were at the war, had both gone from under her wing, that today or tomorrow either or both of them might be killed like the three sons of one of her acquaintances, struck her that summer for the first time with cruel clearness."
Context: Describing the Countess's sudden realization of her sons' mortal danger
This captures the moment when abstract worry becomes visceral terror. The reference to another mother who lost three sons makes the threat concrete and personal, showing how war's reality finally penetrates aristocratic denial.
In Today's Words:
It finally hit her that both her boys could actually die - not just some vague worry, but really die, like what happened to her friend who lost all three kids.
"Moscow continued living its life as people always do, though they know that destruction is approaching and that they will all perish, just as a criminal condemned to death knows he will die but still straightens his cap."
Context: Describing how the city maintains normal routines despite impending invasion
This powerful metaphor reveals human nature's need for normalcy even in hopeless situations. The image of straightening one's cap before execution shows how we cling to dignity and routine when everything else is chaos.
In Today's Words:
People kept going to work and doing normal stuff even though they knew they were screwed - like fixing your hair right before getting fired.
"Petya was no longer the boy who used to blush when teased about Protásov the hussar, but had become a man who was beginning to think seriously about the choice of a career."
Context: Showing how Petya has matured since joining the military
War forces rapid maturation, transforming a blushing boy into someone contemplating adult responsibilities. This change both thrills and worries his family, representing the bittersweet loss of childhood innocence.
In Today's Words:
Petya wasn't a little kid anymore who got embarrassed about crushes - now he was thinking like a man about his future.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Crisis Paralysis - When Fear Freezes Decision-Making
When facing overwhelming threats, people redirect control energy into manageable but meaningless tasks while avoiding the crucial decisions that actually matter.
Thematic Threads
Control
In This Chapter
The Countess tries to control Petya's safety through manipulation while losing control of the family's evacuation
Development
Evolved from earlier themes of social control to personal survival control under extreme stress
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you obsess over small details during major life changes instead of facing the big scary decisions.
Class
In This Chapter
The wealthy Rostovs can afford to delay evacuation decisions while common soldiers flood Moscow with no such luxury
Development
Continues showing how class privilege can become a liability when it enables avoidance of harsh realities
In Your Life:
You see this when people with more resources use those resources to avoid rather than solve fundamental problems.
Family Roles
In This Chapter
Each family member retreats into exaggerated versions of their typical roles under stress - mother becomes overprotective, father becomes busy, practical Sonya becomes the real leader
Development
Building on earlier exploration of family dynamics, now showing how crisis reveals true versus assumed family structures
In Your Life:
During family emergencies, you might notice who actually steps up versus who just gets louder about their usual concerns.
Youth vs Experience
In This Chapter
Petya and Natasha find energy and excitement in the chaos while adults are paralyzed by understanding the real dangers
Development
Continues the theme of how different life stages perceive and respond to the same threats
In Your Life:
You see this generational split whenever major changes hit - younger people adapt faster while experience can become a burden.
Denial
In This Chapter
Moscow continues normal routines while knowing destruction approaches, like 'a condemned man straightening his cap before execution'
Development
Introduced here as a collective psychological defense mechanism during existential threats
In Your Life:
You might catch yourself maintaining normal routines when facing job loss, relationship ending, or health crisis instead of preparing for reality.
Modern Adaptation
When Crisis Hits the Family
Following Andrew's story...
Andrew's family faces eviction after his mother's medical bills drained their savings. His mom obsesses over protecting his teenage brother Jake from 'bad influences' at school, trying to transfer him to a different district while ignoring the apartment search. His dad runs around collecting rumors about rent assistance programs but won't actually apply for any. Jake rebels against his mother's hovering, embarrassed by her constant worry. Only Andrew's practical girlfriend Maria actually calls landlords and organizes their belongings for moving. The whole family knows they have two weeks to find a place, but everyone's handling the crisis by controlling what feels manageable instead of facing the big scary decisions. His mom controls Jake's social life. His dad controls information gathering. Meanwhile, the real work—finding housing they can afford—goes undone.
The Road
The road the Rostov family walked in 1812, Andrew's family walks today. The pattern is identical: when facing overwhelming threats, people fragment into controlling small things while avoiding the big decisions that actually matter.
The Map
This chapter provides a map for recognizing crisis paralysis—when fear makes families double down on control behaviors instead of facing reality. Andrew can identify who's avoiding what, and redirect energy toward actual solutions.
Amplification
Before reading this, Andrew might have joined the family chaos, arguing about Jake's curfew while homeless loomed. Now he can NAME the pattern (crisis paralysis), PREDICT where it leads (eviction), and NAVIGATE toward real action (housing search).
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
How does each Rostov family member react differently to the approaching danger, and what does their behavior reveal about their personality?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does the Countess's attempt to protect Petya by bringing him closer actually make her more anxious rather than less?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about a crisis in your workplace, family, or community. Who focused on small, controllable tasks instead of addressing the real problem? What happened as a result?
application • medium - 4
If you were advising the Rostov family, how would you help them focus on what actually matters for their survival instead of getting lost in busy work?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter suggest about why some people become more effective during crises while others become paralyzed by trying to control everything?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Crisis Response Audit
Think of a stressful situation you're currently facing or recently experienced. Write down all the things you've been focusing on or worrying about. Now divide them into two columns: 'Things I can actually control' and 'Things I'm using to avoid the real decision.' Look at your second column - what's the big, scary decision you're avoiding?
Consider:
- •Notice if you're spending more energy on the avoidance column than the control column
- •Ask yourself who in your situation is like Sonya - emotionally distant enough to see clearly
- •Consider whether your 'productive' activities are actually moving you toward a solution
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you got so caught up in controlling small details that you missed the bigger picture. What were you really afraid of facing, and how did avoiding it make things worse?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 242: When Crisis Reveals Character
The coming pages reveal people respond differently to crisis - some freeze, others act, and teach us small acts of kindness matter most during chaos. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.