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CHAPTER IX It was the eve of St. Nicholas, the fifth of December, 1820. Natásha had been staying at her brother’s with her husband and children since early autumn. Pierre had gone to Petersburg on business of his own for three weeks as he said, but had remained there nearly seven weeks and was expected back every minute. Besides the Bezúkhov family, Nicholas’ old friend the retired General Vasíli Dmítrich Denísov was staying with the Rostóvs this fifth of December. On the sixth, which was his name day when the house would be full of visitors, Nicholas knew he would have to exchange his Tartar tunic for a tail coat, and put on narrow boots with pointed toes, and drive to the new church he had built, and then receive visitors who would come to congratulate him, offer them refreshments, and talk about the elections of the nobility; but he considered himself entitled to spend the eve of that day in his usual way. He examined the bailiff’s accounts of the village in Ryazán which belonged to his wife’s nephew, wrote two business letters, and walked over to the granaries, cattle yards and stables before dinner. Having taken precautions against the general drunkenness to be expected on the morrow because it was a great saint’s day, he returned to dinner, and without having time for a private talk with his wife sat down at the long table laid for twenty persons, at which the whole household had assembled. At that...
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Summary
Nicholas and Mary Rostov experience one of those inexplicable marital tensions that can arise even in the happiest relationships. On the eve of St. Nicholas Day, Nicholas returns from farm duties in an irritable mood, leaving Mary feeling hurt and confused about what she's done wrong. Their usually harmonious household becomes strained as Mary, pregnant and feeling vulnerable, interprets his distance as rejection. The situation escalates when she tries to check on him while he's napping, accidentally waking him when their young son Andrew calls out. However, their three-year-old daughter Natasha unknowingly becomes the catalyst for reconciliation when she boldly enters her father's room and kisses his hand. Her innocent confidence that 'Papa doesn't want to sleep, he's laughing' breaks through the adult tension. Nicholas and Mary finally talk honestly about their feelings, with Nicholas explaining that his love for her isn't based on physical beauty but on something deeper - comparing her to his own finger, something so essential he couldn't function without it. The chapter demonstrates how even strong marriages go through difficult moments, especially during times of stress like pregnancy, but also shows how communication and the simple presence of love can restore harmony. The arrival of Pierre at the chapter's end promises to bring new energy to their household.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Name day
In Russian Orthodox tradition, a celebration of the saint you're named after, often more important than birthdays. Nicholas is celebrating St. Nicholas Day, which means receiving formal visitors and social obligations.
Modern Usage:
Like having to host extended family for a major holiday when you just want to stay home in your pajamas.
Bailiff's accounts
Financial reports from the person who manages your estate or property when you're not there. Nicholas reviews how much money his properties are making and what expenses they have.
Modern Usage:
Similar to checking your rental property statements or business reports to see if you're making or losing money.
Tartar tunic
Comfortable, informal Russian clothing that Nicholas prefers to wear around the house. He has to change into formal European-style clothes for social occasions.
Modern Usage:
Like having to change from your comfortable work clothes into a suit for a formal event you don't want to attend.
Marital tension cycles
The natural ups and downs that happen in even good marriages, where small irritations can create temporary distance between partners. Both people feel hurt but neither knows exactly why.
Modern Usage:
When you and your partner are both grumpy and snapping at each other over nothing, usually when you're stressed or tired.
Pregnancy vulnerability
The emotional sensitivity that often comes with being pregnant, where normal interactions can feel more hurtful or threatening. Mary interprets Nicholas's mood as rejection.
Modern Usage:
When hormones or stress make you read too much into your partner's bad mood and think it's about you.
Child as peacemaker
How children's innocent actions can break adult tension because they don't understand the conflict and act naturally. Little Natasha's boldness reminds her parents what matters.
Modern Usage:
When your kid does something cute that makes you and your partner laugh and forget what you were fighting about.
Characters in This Chapter
Nicholas Rostov
Husband and landowner
Struggling with the stress of managing estates and social obligations while trying to be a good husband and father. His irritability creates tension with Mary, but he ultimately communicates his deep love for her.
Modern Equivalent:
The overwhelmed breadwinner who brings work stress home
Mary (Countess Bezukhova)
Pregnant wife
Feeling emotionally vulnerable due to pregnancy, she misinterprets Nicholas's mood as rejection. Her hurt feelings escalate the marital tension until they finally talk honestly.
Modern Equivalent:
The pregnant wife who thinks everything her husband does means he doesn't love her anymore
Little Natasha
Innocent peacemaker
The three-year-old daughter whose fearless affection for her father breaks through the adult tension. Her simple confidence that 'Papa is laughing' helps restore family harmony.
Modern Equivalent:
The toddler who doesn't understand why the grown-ups are being weird
Andrew
Young son
Nicholas and Mary's baby son whose crying accidentally wakes Nicholas from his nap, adding to the day's minor irritations but also bringing the family together.
Modern Equivalent:
The baby whose needs don't stop just because parents are having relationship issues
Pierre Bezukhov
Expected guest
Though he only appears at the very end, his arrival promises to bring new energy and perspective to the household after the day's emotional tensions.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend whose visit you're looking forward to because they always lighten the mood
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to identify when relationship tension stems from outside pressures rather than actual incompatibility or personal rejection.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you or someone close to you becomes irritable or distant—ask 'what external pressure might be causing this?' before assuming it's personal.
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"I love you more than anything in the world and you are dearer to me than myself, but I want something that is greater than me, and I haven't got it."
Context: When Mary asks if he's stopped loving her during their honest conversation
Nicholas reveals that his restlessness isn't about Mary but about feeling unfulfilled in his larger purpose in life. This shows how personal dissatisfaction can create relationship tension even when love is strong.
In Today's Words:
I love you completely, but I feel like something's missing in my life and I don't know what it is.
"You are like my own finger - I couldn't live without you, but I don't notice you until something hurts."
Context: Explaining to Mary why his love for her doesn't depend on physical beauty or romance
This metaphor shows how deep marital love becomes essential rather than exciting - it's about being necessary to each other's existence rather than constant passion.
In Today's Words:
You're so much a part of me that I take you for granted, but I couldn't function without you.
"Papa doesn't want to sleep, he's laughing!"
Context: When she boldly enters her father's room while he's supposed to be napping
The child's innocent misreading of her father's expression breaks the adult tension because she sees joy where the adults see conflict. Her fearless affection reminds everyone what really matters.
In Today's Words:
Daddy's not grumpy, he's happy to see me!
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Invisible Wounds - When Good Relationships Hit Rough Patches
External stress creates emotional distance that gets misinterpreted as personal rejection, escalating conflict between people who actually care about each other.
Thematic Threads
Marriage
In This Chapter
Nicholas and Mary experience their first serious marital tension, showing how even happy couples face inexplicable rough patches
Development
Evolution from their courtship to the reality of daily married life with children and responsibilities
In Your Life:
You might see this in how work stress affects your relationship, or how pregnancy changes family dynamics
Communication
In This Chapter
The couple's conflict stems from unspoken assumptions and misread emotional cues until they finally talk honestly
Development
Continues the theme of how misunderstandings drive conflict throughout the novel
In Your Life:
You might recognize this in how you assume someone's mood is about you when it's really about their own struggles
Children
In This Chapter
Three-year-old Natasha innocently breaks through adult tension with her bold confidence and honest observation
Development
Builds on how children throughout the novel see truth that adults miss
In Your Life:
You might notice how children's honesty can cut through family tension that adults overcomplicate
Love
In This Chapter
Nicholas explains his love for Mary isn't based on beauty but on essential connection - comparing her to his own finger
Development
Shows mature love versus the passionate infatuations seen earlier in the novel
In Your Life:
You might recognize this deeper kind of love that's about compatibility and necessity rather than excitement
Stress
In This Chapter
External pressures from farm management and pregnancy create emotional distance between loving partners
Development
Reflects how war's aftermath continues affecting daily life and relationships
In Your Life:
You might see this in how work pressure or health concerns affect your ability to connect with family
Modern Adaptation
When Success Feels Like Failure
Following Andrew's story...
Andrew's been volunteering at the community center, finally feeling useful after months of post-startup emptiness. But today he snapped at Maria, the program coordinator he's grown close to, when she asked about expanding their mentorship program. The stress of figuring out what to do with his life, combined with pressure from his family to 'get back to real work,' made him irritable and distant. Maria, who's been working extra hours and dealing with her own funding worries, interpreted his coldness as rejection of her ideas—and maybe of her. Now they're both hurt and confused, the easy partnership they'd built suddenly strained. Andrew retreats to his apartment, Maria stays late reorganizing files she's already organized twice. Neither understands why their good thing suddenly feels broken, especially when they both care so much about the work and, increasingly, about each other.
The Road
The road Nicholas and Mary walked in 1869, Andrew walks today. The pattern is identical: external stress creates emotional distance, which gets misinterpreted as personal rejection, creating a destructive cycle where two people who care about each other end up hurting each other instead of addressing the real problem.
The Map
This chapter provides a map for recognizing when relationship tension isn't actually about the relationship—it's about external pressure being misdirected. Andrew can learn to separate his identity crisis from his feelings for Maria.
Amplification
Before reading this, Andrew might have assumed Maria's hurt meant they weren't compatible, or that his irritability proved he wasn't ready for connection. Now he can NAME the stress-distance-rejection cycle, PREDICT how it escalates, and NAVIGATE it by addressing the real source of pressure instead of making it about their relationship.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What external pressures were affecting Nicholas when he came home irritable, and how did Mary interpret his mood?
analysis • surface - 2
Why did Nicholas and Mary's conflict escalate even though neither was actually angry at the other?
analysis • medium - 3
Where have you seen this pattern of stress creating distance that gets misinterpreted as rejection in your own relationships or workplace?
application • medium - 4
What could Nicholas or Mary have done differently to break the cycle of misunderstanding before little Natasha intervened?
application • deep - 5
What does Nicholas's comparison of Mary to his own finger reveal about the difference between surface attraction and deep love?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map the Stress-Distance-Rejection Cycle
Think of a recent conflict in your own life where tension seemed to come from nowhere. Draw or write out the cycle: what external stress was present, how did it create emotional distance, how was that distance misinterpreted, and how did the misinterpretation make things worse? Then identify where the cycle could have been broken.
Consider:
- •Look for external pressures that might not be obvious (work deadlines, health concerns, financial worries)
- •Notice how we often assume someone's mood is about us personally when it might be about something else entirely
- •Consider what simple phrase or action could have prevented the escalation
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you were stressed and took it out on someone you care about. What was really bothering you, and how could you handle similar situations differently in the future?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 347: The Changed Woman
The coming pages reveal marriage and motherhood can fundamentally transform identity, and teach us complete devotion to family can be both fulfilling and limiting. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.