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Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of things. Thus death is nothing terrible, else it would have appeared so to Socrates. But the terror consists in our notion of death, that it is terrible. When, therefore, we are hindered or disturbed, or grieved, let us never impute it to others, but to ourselves—that is, to our own views. It is the action of an uninstructed person to reproach others for his own misfortunes; of one entering upon instruction, to reproach himself; and one perfectly instructed, to reproach neither others nor himself.
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Summary
Epictetus delivers one of his most powerful teachings: we're not upset by what happens to us, but by how we think about what happens to us. He uses death as an example - death itself isn't terrible (otherwise the wise philosopher Socrates would have feared it), but our thoughts about death create the terror. This principle applies to everything that disturbs us. When we're angry, sad, or frustrated, the real cause isn't other people or circumstances - it's our own perspective. Epictetus then outlines three levels of wisdom. The least wise person blames everyone else for their problems. Someone beginning to learn blames themselves for everything. But the truly wise person has moved beyond blame entirely - they simply take responsibility for what they can control (their thoughts and reactions) without wasting energy on self-criticism or finger-pointing. This isn't about positive thinking or pretending bad things don't happen. It's about recognizing that between any event and your emotional response lies your interpretation - and that's where your power lives. When your boss is unreasonable, your car breaks down, or someone disappoints you, you can't control those events. But you absolutely control what story you tell yourself about them, and that story determines whether you suffer or stay centered.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Stoic Philosophy
A school of thought that teaches you can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond. Stoics focus on developing inner strength and emotional resilience by accepting what's outside their power.
Modern Usage:
We see this in cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness practices, and the 'circle of control' concept taught in leadership training.
Socrates
Ancient Greek philosopher famous for questioning everything and facing his own death sentence with calm acceptance. Epictetus uses him as the ultimate example of someone who wasn't afraid of death because he understood it properly.
Modern Usage:
We reference him when talking about critical thinking and facing difficult situations with wisdom rather than panic.
Uninstructed Person
Epictetus's term for someone who hasn't learned to take responsibility for their own emotions and reactions. They blame everyone else when things go wrong instead of looking at their own role.
Modern Usage:
This is the person who always plays the victim, complains about their boss, their family, their luck, but never examines their own choices.
Perfectly Instructed
The highest level of wisdom in Stoic thinking - someone who has moved beyond blame entirely. They don't waste energy blaming others or beating themselves up, just focus on what they can actually control.
Modern Usage:
This is emotional maturity - the ability to respond rather than react, to take ownership without self-punishment.
Views of Things
Your interpretation or story about what happens to you. Epictetus argues this interpretation, not the actual event, is what creates your emotional response and suffering.
Modern Usage:
This shows up in therapy as 'reframing,' in sports psychology as 'mindset,' and in everyday life as choosing your perspective.
Roman Slavery
Epictetus was born a slave in the Roman Empire. His teachings come from someone who had literally no control over his external circumstances but found complete freedom in his mind and responses.
Modern Usage:
His background reminds us that wisdom can come from the most powerless positions, and that inner freedom doesn't depend on outer circumstances.
Characters in This Chapter
Epictetus
Teacher and narrator
He's delivering this lesson as someone who lived it - a former slave who found freedom through controlling his thoughts. His authority comes from experience, not theory.
Modern Equivalent:
The counselor who overcame addiction, the coach who came from poverty
Socrates
Example of wisdom
Used as proof that wise people don't fear death because they understand it correctly. His calm acceptance of his death sentence demonstrates the power of perspective over circumstances.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who faces terminal illness with grace, the leader who stays calm in crisis
The Uninstructed Person
Negative example
Represents the lowest level of emotional development - someone who blames everyone else for their problems and never takes responsibility for their own reactions.
Modern Equivalent:
The coworker who complains about everything, the family member who's always the victim
One Entering Upon Instruction
Student in progress
Shows the middle stage of learning - someone who's stopped blaming others but now goes too far in the other direction by blaming themselves for everything.
Modern Equivalent:
The person in therapy who takes responsibility but beats themselves up, the perfectionist who blames themselves for everything
One Perfectly Instructed
Ideal to aspire to
Represents the goal - someone who has transcended blame entirely and simply focuses on what they can control without wasting energy on guilt or resentment.
Modern Equivalent:
The emotionally mature person who responds rather than reacts, the wise mentor who stays centered
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches the crucial skill of distinguishing between what actually happened and the meaning we attach to what happened.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you feel upset and ask yourself: 'What are the bare facts here, and what story am I adding to those facts?'
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of things."
Context: Opening statement establishing the core principle of the entire chapter
This is one of the most powerful insights in all of philosophy. It places the source of our emotional suffering squarely in our own hands - not to blame us, but to empower us. If our interpretations create our disturbance, then changing our interpretations can end our suffering.
In Today's Words:
It's not what happens to you that messes you up - it's the story you tell yourself about what happened.
"Thus death is nothing terrible, else it would have appeared so to Socrates."
Context: Using Socrates as evidence that death itself isn't inherently frightening
Epictetus uses the ultimate example - death, the thing most people fear most - to prove his point. If even death isn't inherently terrible, then nothing is. Our fear comes from our thoughts about death, not death itself.
In Today's Words:
If death was actually scary, then the wisest person who ever lived would have been scared of it too.
"When, therefore, we are hindered or disturbed, or grieved, let us never impute it to others, but to ourselves—that is, to our own views."
Context: Applying the principle practically to everyday frustrations and setbacks
This is where philosophy meets real life. Every time you're upset, angry, or disappointed, Epictetus challenges you to look at your own interpretation first. This isn't victim-blaming - it's recognizing where your actual power lies.
In Today's Words:
When someone or something ticks you off, don't point fingers - check your own perspective first.
"It is the action of an uninstructed person to reproach others for his own misfortunes."
Context: Beginning his three-level framework of wisdom and responsibility
Epictetus identifies the most immature response to problems - always blaming someone else. This keeps you powerless because you're waiting for other people to change before you can feel better.
In Today's Words:
Blaming everyone else for your problems is what people do when they haven't learned how life actually works.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Reaction Control
The space between what happens to us and how we feel about it, where our power to choose our response actually lives.
Thematic Threads
Personal Agency
In This Chapter
Epictetus teaches that our emotional responses are choices, not automatic reactions to circumstances
Development
Building on earlier chapters about focusing on what we control, now showing how we control our interpretations
In Your Life:
You might notice this when you realize your bad mood isn't really about traffic, but about the story you're telling yourself about being late
Class Consciousness
In This Chapter
The teaching that external circumstances don't determine our worth or peace challenges class-based identity
Development
Continues the theme that dignity comes from within, not from external validation or material conditions
In Your Life:
You might see this when you stop letting your job title or income level determine how you feel about yourself
Wisdom Hierarchy
In This Chapter
Epictetus outlines three levels: blaming others, blaming self, and moving beyond blame entirely
Development
Introduced here as a progression model for personal growth and emotional maturity
In Your Life:
You might recognize this in how you've evolved from blaming everyone else for your problems to sometimes blaming yourself to eventually just focusing on solutions
Emotional Responsibility
In This Chapter
We are responsible for our reactions, even when we're not responsible for what triggers them
Development
Builds on the control theme by specifically addressing the emotional realm and our power within it
In Your Life:
You might notice this when you realize that your partner can't 'make' you angry—your anger is your response to your interpretation of their behavior
Mental Freedom
In This Chapter
True freedom comes from recognizing that no external force can disturb your peace without your permission
Development
Expands the concept of freedom beyond physical circumstances to include psychological liberation
In Your Life:
You might experience this when you realize that difficult people or situations can't ruin your day unless you let them
Modern Adaptation
When the Promotion Goes Sideways
Following Ellen's story...
Marcus had been working toward the shift supervisor position for eighteen months. He'd covered extra shifts, mentored new hires, and stayed late to finish reports. When the announcement came that Sarah—who'd been there only eight months—got the promotion, Marcus felt his chest tighten with rage. His first thought: 'This place doesn't value hard work.' His second: 'I'm an idiot for believing I had a chance.' But then Marcus remembered something his grandmother used to say about not letting other people's decisions steal your peace. He realized his anger wasn't really about Sarah getting promoted—it was about the story he was telling himself about what her promotion meant about his worth. The facts were simple: Sarah got the job, he didn't. Everything else—the unfairness, the disrespect, the hopelessness—was his interpretation. Marcus couldn't control management's decision, but he could control whether he let it poison his attitude, his relationships, and his future opportunities. He congratulated Sarah genuinely and asked his supervisor for specific feedback on strengthening his candidacy for next time.
The Road
The road Epictetus walked in ancient Rome, Marcus walks today in the break room of a busy hospital. The pattern is identical: external events trigger internal stories, and those stories—not the events themselves—determine our suffering or peace.
The Map
This chapter provides the navigation tool of the interpretation gap—the space between what happens and how we feel about it. Marcus can use this tool to catch himself creating unnecessary suffering through his own thoughts.
Amplification
Before reading this, Marcus might have spent weeks bitter about the 'unfair' promotion, poisoning his relationships and reputation. Now he can NAME the difference between facts and interpretation, PREDICT when his thoughts are creating his suffering, and NAVIGATE setbacks without losing his center.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
According to Epictetus, what's the real source of our emotional upset - the events themselves or something else?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Epictetus use Socrates and death as his example? What point is he making about how wise people handle difficult situations?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about the last time you got really angry or upset at work or home. Looking back, what story were you telling yourself about what happened?
application • medium - 4
Epictetus describes three levels: blaming others, blaming yourself, or moving beyond blame entirely. How would someone at that third level handle a frustrating situation differently?
application • deep - 5
If we really accepted that our interpretations create our emotional responses, how would that change the way we approach conflict with family members or coworkers?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Catch the Story in Action
Think of something that happened recently that upset or frustrated you - maybe a comment from your boss, a family argument, or disappointing news. Write down exactly what happened (just the facts), then write down the story you told yourself about what it meant. Finally, brainstorm three completely different stories that could also explain the same facts.
Consider:
- •Focus on separating facts from interpretation - what actually happened versus what you made it mean
- •Notice how different stories create different emotional responses to the same event
- •Consider that other people's actions usually have more to do with their own struggles than with you
Journaling Prompt
Write about a recurring situation that always seems to upset you. What story do you consistently tell yourself about this pattern, and how might a different interpretation change your response?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 6: Don't Take Credit for Things You Don't Control
As the story unfolds, you'll explore to distinguish between what belongs to you and what doesn't, while uncovering taking credit for external things sets you up for disappointment. These lessons connect the classic to contemporary challenges we all face.