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CHAPTER XXII Next day, having been invited by the count, Prince Andrew dined with the Rostóvs and spent the rest of the day there. Everyone in the house realized for whose sake Prince Andrew came, and without concealing it he tried to be with Natásha all day. Not only in the soul of the frightened yet happy and enraptured Natásha, but in the whole house, there was a feeling of awe at something important that was bound to happen. The countess looked with sad and sternly serious eyes at Prince Andrew when he talked to Natásha and timidly started some artificial conversation about trifles as soon as he looked her way. Sónya was afraid to leave Natásha and afraid of being in the way when she was with them. Natásha grew pale, in a panic of expectation, when she remained alone with him for a moment. Prince Andrew surprised her by his timidity. She felt that he wanted to say something to her but could not bring himself to do so. In the evening, when Prince Andrew had left, the countess went up to Natásha and whispered: “Well, what?” “Mamma! For heaven’s sake don’t ask me anything now! One can’t talk about that,” said Natásha. But all the same that night Natásha, now agitated and now frightened, lay a long time in her mother’s bed gazing straight before her. She told her how he had complimented her, how he told her he was going abroad, asked her where they were...
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Summary
Prince Andrew spends the day at the Rostóv house, and everyone knows why he's there—for Natásha. The whole household holds its breath, sensing something momentous is about to happen. Natásha is terrified and thrilled, afraid to be alone with him yet desperate for his attention. That night, she confides in her mother about her overwhelming feelings, convinced this is fate bringing them together again. Meanwhile, Prince Andrew visits Pierre to share his revelation: he's deeply in love and wants to marry Natásha. The contrast between the two friends is stark—Andrew radiates joy and renewed purpose, while Pierre sinks deeper into depression about his own empty marriage and meaningless court life. Andrew describes how love has divided his world into light (where Natásha is) and darkness (everywhere else). Pierre encourages the match, knowing Natásha loves Andrew too, but the brighter his friend's happiness appears, the darker Pierre's own situation seems. This chapter captures that electric moment when love is recognized but not yet declared, when everyone involved knows something life-changing is coming. It also shows how witnessing someone else's joy can illuminate our own shadows—Pierre's genuine happiness for his friend only deepens his awareness of his own trapped existence.
That's what happens. To understand what the author is really doing—and to discuss this chapter with confidence—keep reading.
Terms to Know
Calling hours
The formal social custom where eligible men would visit a family's home to court their daughters under parental supervision. These visits followed strict rules about timing, behavior, and chaperoning.
Modern Usage:
Like when someone brings their new partner home to meet the parents, or the awkward family dinners where everyone's evaluating the relationship.
Matrimonial prospects
In aristocratic society, marriage was viewed as a strategic alliance between families, not just personal choice. Parents evaluated suitors based on wealth, status, and family connections.
Modern Usage:
Similar to how some families still have strong opinions about who their children should marry, or how people consider financial stability when choosing partners.
Social propriety
The unwritten rules governing behavior in polite society, especially regarding interactions between unmarried men and women. Breaking these rules could ruin reputations.
Modern Usage:
Like workplace etiquette or the unspoken rules about dating within your friend group - there are still social boundaries we navigate carefully.
Arranged courtship
The formal process where families facilitated meetings between potential marriage partners. Young people had little privacy or freedom to develop relationships naturally.
Modern Usage:
Similar to how some cultures still practice arranged marriages, or how dating apps create structured ways to meet potential partners.
Emotional suppression
The expectation that people, especially in formal situations, would hide their true feelings and maintain composure regardless of their inner turmoil.
Modern Usage:
Like having to act professional at work when you're going through personal drama, or keeping a poker face during important negotiations.
Confidante relationship
The special bond between women, often mother and daughter, where intimate secrets and feelings could be shared away from male oversight.
Modern Usage:
Like having that one friend or family member you tell everything to, especially about relationship drama or major life decisions.
Characters in This Chapter
Prince Andrew
Romantic protagonist
He's completely transformed by love, spending the entire day at the Rostóv house trying to work up courage to propose. His timidity surprises everyone because he's usually so confident and controlled.
Modern Equivalent:
The successful guy who turns into a nervous teenager around his crush
Natásha
Love interest
She's caught between terror and ecstasy, knowing something life-changing is about to happen but unable to handle the suspense. She can barely function around Andrew but can't stop thinking about him.
Modern Equivalent:
The girl who's clearly in love but too overwhelmed to act normal around her crush
The Countess
Protective mother
She watches every interaction with hawk eyes, ready to intervene if needed. She understands what's happening and wants to protect her daughter while respecting the courtship process.
Modern Equivalent:
The mom who hovers when her daughter brings someone home, asking subtle questions to size them up
Pierre
Loyal friend and confidant
Andrew comes to him to share his joy about being in love, but Pierre's own misery with his marriage makes the contrast painful. He encourages his friend while feeling more trapped in his own life.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who's genuinely happy for your success but it makes them realize how stuck they are
Sónya
Anxious observer
She's caught in an impossible position - afraid to leave Natásha alone with Andrew but also afraid of being a third wheel. She represents the household's nervous energy.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who doesn't know whether to give you space with your crush or stay for moral support
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when someone else's success illuminates your own dissatisfaction—and use that data instead of dismissing it.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone else's good news makes you feel unexpectedly uncomfortable, then ask: what does my reaction reveal about what I actually want?
You have the foundation. Now let's look closer.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Everyone in the house realized for whose sake Prince Andrew came, and without concealing it he tried to be with Natásha all day."
Context: Describing the obvious nature of Andrew's romantic intentions during his visit
This shows how transparent love can be, even when people think they're being subtle. The whole household becomes complicit in this romantic drama, creating an atmosphere of anticipation.
In Today's Words:
Everyone knew exactly why he was there, and he wasn't even trying to hide it anymore.
"Prince Andrew surprised her by his timidity. She felt that he wanted to say something to her but could not bring himself to do so."
Context: Describing Natásha's observation of Andrew's uncharacteristic nervousness
Love transforms even the most confident people into nervous wrecks. This role reversal shows how vulnerability is part of genuine emotion, making Andrew more human and relatable.
In Today's Words:
She couldn't believe how nervous he was - she could tell he was trying to say something important but kept chickening out.
"One can't talk about that."
Context: Her response to her mother asking about Prince Andrew after his visit
Some feelings are too big and overwhelming for words. Natásha's refusal to discuss it shows she understands the magnitude of what's happening but isn't ready to make it real through conversation.
In Today's Words:
I literally cannot even talk about this right now.
"The brighter his friend's happiness appeared, the darker Pierre's own situation seemed."
Context: Describing Pierre's reaction to Andrew's joy about being in love
This captures how someone else's happiness can highlight our own problems. Pierre genuinely loves his friend but can't help comparing their situations, making his own trapped marriage feel even worse.
In Today's Words:
The happier Andrew got, the more miserable Pierre felt about his own life.
Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Contrast Effect - How Other People's Joy Reveals Your Own Shadows
Other people's breakthroughs illuminate our own stuck places through painful but useful comparison.
Thematic Threads
Love
In This Chapter
Andrew's love for Natasha transforms him completely, dividing his world into light and darkness
Development
Evolution from earlier cynicism about love to this total transformation
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when falling in love makes everything else in your life seem either beautiful or unbearable
Friendship
In This Chapter
Pierre genuinely celebrates Andrew's happiness while confronting his own misery
Development
Deepening of their bond through honest sharing of life changes
In Your Life:
You see this when a close friend's good news makes you happy for them but sad about your own situation
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
The entire Rostov household knows why Andrew is there before anything is declared
Development
Continuation of how society reads and anticipates romantic developments
In Your Life:
You experience this when everyone around you can see a relationship developing before you're ready to admit it
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Andrew's capacity for love shows his healing from earlier wounds and cynicism
Development
Major evolution from the bitter, wounded man we met earlier
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you realize you're finally ready for something you couldn't handle before
Class
In This Chapter
Pierre's wealth and position trap him in a meaningless court life he can't escape
Development
Ongoing exploration of how privilege can become a prison
In Your Life:
You see this when external success or security keeps you stuck in situations that drain your soul
Modern Adaptation
When Your Friend Gets Everything You Want
Following Andrew's story...
Andrew's best friend Marcus just landed his dream job as head of maintenance at the new community center—good pay, respected position, making a real difference. Marcus is glowing, talking about purpose and feeling alive again. Andrew forces a smile and buys the celebratory drinks, but walking home to his empty apartment after another shift at the warehouse, the contrast hits like a punch. Marcus found his calling while Andrew's been sleepwalking through the same routine for three years. It's not jealousy exactly—he's genuinely happy for Marcus. But seeing his friend's transformation illuminates how stuck Andrew really is. The warehouse job that felt 'good enough' now feels suffocating. The casual dating that felt 'keeping options open' now feels like avoiding real connection. Marcus didn't take anything from Andrew, but his breakthrough stripped away all Andrew's comfortable excuses about why change was too risky or too hard.
The Road
The road Prince Andrew walked in 1869, Andrew walks today. The pattern is identical: witnessing someone else's breakthrough happiness reveals the depth of your own stagnation through brutal contrast.
The Map
When someone close to you experiences a major positive shift, don't dismiss your discomfort as jealousy. Use it as intelligence about what you actually want and what you've been tolerating.
Amplification
Before reading this, Andrew might have buried his discomfort about Marcus's success or felt guilty for not being purely happy. Now he can NAME it as the contrast effect, PREDICT that it reveals data about his own desires, and NAVIGATE it by asking what specifically he envies and making one small move toward change.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What effect does Andrew's happiness have on Pierre, and why does witnessing his friend's joy make Pierre feel worse about his own life?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does seeing someone else's breakthrough sometimes illuminate our own problems more clearly than years of self-reflection?
analysis • medium - 3
When have you experienced the 'contrast effect' - feeling worse about your situation after witnessing someone else's success or happiness?
application • medium - 4
How can you use feelings of envy or comparison as intelligence about what you actually want in your own life?
application • deep - 5
What does Pierre's reaction teach us about how we stay stuck in situations that aren't working for us?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Contrast Moments
Think of three times when someone else's good news made you suddenly aware of something lacking in your own life. For each situation, identify what specifically you envied and what that revealed about your own desires. Then write down one small action you could take toward what you actually want.
Consider:
- •Focus on the information your feelings provided, not judging yourself for having them
- •Look for patterns across the three situations - what themes emerge?
- •Consider how you can use comparison as a navigation tool rather than a source of pain
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when witnessing someone else's breakthrough forced you to confront a truth about your own life that you'd been avoiding. What did you do with that realization?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 129: The Price of Love's Approval
Moving forward, we'll examine family approval often comes with conditions that test relationships, and understand waiting periods can reveal true feelings versus infatuation. These insights bridge the gap between classic literature and modern experience.